Anonymous wrote:I wish my parents had pushed me more and encouraged me to find a strength and build on it. They were more hands off, letting me make my own decisions and mistakes, which can be a good approach versus micromanaging, but I think they went too far the other way. I don't mean to criticize them and don't blame them for my mistakes.
I took the same approach with my child and now wish I had been a bit more hands on. Not a helicopter parent but guiding, like many PPs have described.
Same here. It worked well for me since I followed some smart friends into amazing clubs teams and ECs, which we did for all four years and worked our way up the totem polls.
Now I have kids who prefer to stay home in screens, so we forbid that. And one says No to everything even though she is quite tall and athletic and a fantastic pitch perfect singer.
What do you do with a 12 yo who always say No to everything?
Maybe she needs to go to private school.