Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Get rid of Grandma. She sounds obnoxious.
She just sounds old and lonely.
How impaired is your child? My autistic niece couldn’t say she didn’t want to see someone because of her limited speech.
It’s best to build his tolerance of loud people or situations. She can’t be in his face the whole time.
By your logic, your niece should just build up to saying she didn't want to see someone.
Anonymous wrote:I assume your child is in therapy discuss with them strategies. Because pps are right long term it's better for them to be able to cope with the situation. And that might be you stepping in when grandma isn't listening. Also sounds like grandma is on the spectrum.
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The issue isn’t boredom. It’s grandma getting in his face and backing him literally into a corner unrelentingly. OP you have to stay nearby and pull him away. When she does it to you , you have to calmly say stop and leave. She will get it after a while. It’s like training a dog.
I am not a hugger and I will not tolerate random relatives kissing, tickling or grabbing me in any way. There were a few who took it as their personal mission to push this constantly. Each and everytime, I blocked them, moved away and reminded them I’m not a hugger or kisser. I got pout pout faces, pursing up and smacking lips and all kinds of weird crap. I just said nope not doing it. They occasionally make a snide remark oh you aren’t a hugger but go on their way. Both my kids are confident in their ability to say no and not let others violate their personal space just because a weird relative wants to do it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Get rid of Grandma. She sounds obnoxious.
She just sounds old and lonely.
How impaired is your child? My autistic niece couldn’t say she didn’t want to see someone because of her limited speech.
It’s best to build his tolerance of loud people or situations. She can’t be in his face the whole time.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You keep taking the child, they need to learn to deal with it.
No, a kid with autism who is already trying strategies like headphones does not need to “deal with” a grown adult who can’t make any effort to recognize and respect the boundaries of both neurotypical people and people with autism.
OP, I would limit contact to very specific, out-of-the-house things, like a hour at the park where the adults sip coffee while the kids play, or going to an activity or event the kid likes, and the adults pay attention to grandma.
Anonymous wrote:As the parent of a kid with ASD, my mama bear came out often. My job is to protect him and help him grow. When he's not in a place to learn and grow, I didn't take him. If someone was in his space, I would physically intervene and remove him from the situation. That often meant driving 2 cars so one parent could stay and one could leave.
DS is 15 now. He has no problems setting his own boundaries. He understands his frustration tolerance level and can articulate it. It takes time and maturity. Letting gma constantly invade his space is teaching him that you are not his safety net. And while gma maybe facing her own declining issues, she is still the adult in this scenario. She needs to deal with him being removed. She can get pissy about it but she's probably not changing her behavior either.
Anonymous wrote:Get rid of Grandma. She sounds obnoxious.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound very inflexible and are teaching your son that inflexibility.
It sounds like grandma is inflexible if she can’t shut the hell up for 5 minutes out of 60.
Anonymous wrote:You sound very inflexible and are teaching your son that inflexibility.