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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the thin people I know who are 45+ do extreme things to stay that way.

Most people in my friend group are reasonably fit. I don’t know anyone who does anything extreme. I mean they work out and periodically track calories/macros, but that doesn’t seem extreme to me.

This is how I know there's an issue. I couldn't tell you if my friend group is 'reasonably fit' because I've never assessed it. The disordered eating thoughts + self-righteousness when extreme measures are always sad.

Which disordered eating thoughts?

I’ve been both thin and fat. I’ve seen how different families members age, based on their workout routines. The ones that workout daily are so much healthier in old age. I desperately want to have a good retirement and be fun grandma. So I draaaaaaggggggg my butt to the gym. It’s absolutely awful. I get why people can’t do it. I don’t judge them. I’m just unwilling to forgo any years with possible grandchildren that I don’t absolutely have to.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the thin people I know who are 45+ do extreme things to stay that way.

Most people in my friend group are reasonably fit. I don’t know anyone who does anything extreme. I mean they work out and periodically track calories/macros, but that doesn’t seem extreme to me.

This is how I know there's an issue. I couldn't tell you if my friend group is 'reasonably fit' because I've never assessed it. The disordered eating thoughts + self-righteousness when extreme measures are always sad.

I've always been pretty thin but I've had to work extremely hard to stay that way- not so much diet, but daily exercise, very religiously. And I do prefer to date guys who put some work in, too. I'm not really atttacted to fat on myself or on someone else. But it's not a superiority thing, just a preference. What other people do is not my concern unless I'm dating them.

My mom was naturally thin because (my theory) she was lactose intolerant but in denial about it! She always had a stomach ache.

People are capable of feeling smug about anything. But of course not every thin person feels smug.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this stupid thread in relationships?

Isn’t there an Eating Disorders forum?

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Or Health , Diet , Exercise

lol yeah that one.

Anonymous wrote:Why is this stupid thread in relationships?

Isn’t there an Eating Disorders forum?

😩
Or Health , Diet , Exercise

Why is this stupid thread in relationships?

Isn’t there an Eating Disorders forum?

Anonymous wrote:I am 52 and naturally thin. I always have been. I do nothing extreme. I don't even "work out" regularly. I am active (meaning I'll do things like swim laps in the summer, skin in the winter, enjoy hikes on vacation, and walk my dog etc.). So not a couch potato. But I don't have a gym membership and haven't had one since I was maybe 30. I eat more than most women my age as far as I can tell. People are very suspicious. Don't know it's just DNA I guess.

When I was 16, I was a bag of bones and completely flat chested and got zero attention from any boys. Does that make people feel better?

+1 but now I have small pancake boobs after nursing two kids. I’m 47. I don’t think that much about my or other people’s weight. I dislike it when I gain weight because my pants start getting tighter but when I lose weight, I look older in my face.

My husband is a thin 45 year old man. He has an ulcer and reflux and is lactose intolerant. So he ends up eating fairly healthy in order to avoid GI issues.

I would trade with him in a heartbeat. I feel great when I eat cookies and pizza and ice cream. I’m pleasantly full. I get a little dopamine hit. It’s usually socially rewarding since you eat these things with other people.
It’s only weeks later that I realize I’ve been overindulging and my clothes don’t fit right.

Yes..

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a naturally skinny middle-aged man. I know I'm lucky, but I also am trying to work to put on some muscle to avoid being a frail old man.

My wife is a fit, relatively thin, middle-aged woman. She'd never say it to anyone else, but she points out to me that it doesn't come naturally. She exercises about an hour a day (plus several hours of daily walking), and whenever she gains a few pounds she cuts out all sugar for a few weeks.

I also wouldn't say it except anonymously, but I greatly appreciate her doing that.

Does she work? Are your children still
Living at home?

We both work fulltime and always have. Older kids, but we've maintained regular exercise throughout our kids lives. Now we just go out for evening runs, or sometimes to gym; when they were younger it was stroller runs, or exercise at home after they were asleep. We do calisthenics or light weights at home. I did a lot of midnight runs when the kids were little, or we ran with them in the jogging stroller or biked them with a bike trailer or bike seat. I've done runs around the field at my kids sports events. We live in a walkable neighborhood so it's not unusual to walk a total of 2-4 hours on a weekend. Nothing extreme, but we are consistent.

Neither of us looks hugely fit, and there are a lot of people who are more athletic than us, but we are both the same weight as we were in our 20s and can comfortably go on an hour jog or a 5 hour hike, which is more important than looking good on Instagram or whatever the kids are going these days.

54, 5'5" 110lbs, 32DD, post meno, 3 adult children. Still same weight as college. I eat healthy and like to do yoga on occasion. Walk a lot. It's genetic probably.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a naturally skinny middle-aged man. I know I'm lucky, but I also am trying to work to put on some muscle to avoid being a frail old man.

My wife is a fit, relatively thin, middle-aged woman. She'd never say it to anyone else, but she points out to me that it doesn't come naturally. She exercises about an hour a day (plus several hours of daily walking), and whenever she gains a few pounds she cuts out all sugar for a few weeks.

I also wouldn't say it except anonymously, but I greatly appreciate her doing that.

Does she work? Are your children still
Living at home?