Anonymous wrote:Our elementary school usually kids give the teachers flowers on the last day. Do you still do this if the teacher is a man? He’s married fwiw so he could give them to his wife if he didn’t keep them for himself.

I’ve never given a man flowers so I’m wondering if this would be odd.

This depends. Does he have cats?
If he has cats, the answer is no, don’t give him flowers. People with cats cannot have nice things like flowers.

I just give a card with cash. To all.

As a teacher: we do not want flowers. Ever.

(We also do not want mugs or christmas tree ornaments, but I digress)

Have your kid make me a nice card with a sentence or two about why the kid liked being in my class. That's appreciated! People don't think so, but trust me, teachers love gifts like that, not physical knickknacks that we have to take home an donate later.

Gift cards are fine too, but I feel dirty receiving money from parents/students. I know it's to show their appreciation, but yeah. That one is probably just a me thing though b/c I know my fellow teachers LOVE a gift card, even for $5.

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of businesses, hotels, etc have flower arrangements out. Are those somehow not for men to look at? You are being silly.

Men do the same thing with flowers that women do, which is put them on a table to look nice, or throw them out if they'd rather. Neither is a gendered act.

Right, cuz there is no difference between men & women. Like if you get your wife a 12-pack of good beer for Valentines Day, she will be thrilled!

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Anonymous wrote:All teachers have a local hang out spot they go to after the last day of school. Get a gift card from there.

Another common misconception by the PTA. Again, I appreciate your thought but I give these away to the people who live local or the young teachers. I don’t live in the town and I have my own family. I’m not going to the local restaurant for happy hours and I’m never going out to eat at the local restaurants, ever. We don’t have time to go out to eat for lunch during the year.

When the day ends, I’m racing out to drive my kids to their activities or go to their school events. The only gift cards I ever use are Amazon or Target.

Every group has a wet blanket. You don’t speak for the normies.

Yes. Many teachers are wet blankets because we are also parents and have our families and don’t go to hang out at happy hours like we did when we were younger. I’m okay with that. Give us the Amazon or Target GC.

Plenty of businesses, hotels, etc have flower arrangements out. Are those somehow not for men to look at? You are being silly.

Men do the same thing with flowers that women do, which is put them on a table to look nice, or throw them out if they'd rather. Neither is a gendered act.

Anonymous wrote:Our elementary school usually kids give the teachers flowers on the last day. Do you still do this if the teacher is a man? He’s married fwiw so he could give them to his wife if he didn’t keep them for himself.

I’ve never given a man flowers so I’m wondering if this would be odd.

I worked with a man who helped me with a problem and I sent him a lovely flower arrangement to thank him. He told me that it was one of the nicest things anyone had ever done for him. Men like flowers and rarely receive them.

I'm a man and I love fresh flowers. My wife and kids enjoy them too

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t want flowers or a plant.

—A man

+1,000,000

Flowers are ultimate symbols of excess and privilege. To spend those kind of amounts on some flowers that last a few days, it is excessive.

Also flower growing and production are bad on the environment.
It takes massive amounts of petro-chemical fertilizers and fields to grow them.
They use tons of pesticides to ensure pretty flowers.
They are toxic to bees due to the pesticides.
Require massive amounts of fossil fuels to transport them and refrigerate them.
Etc. etc.

Anonymous wrote:Our elementary school usually kids give the teachers flowers on the last day. Do you still do this if the teacher is a man? He’s married fwiw so he could give them to his wife if he didn’t keep them for himself.

I’ve never given a man flowers so I’m wondering if this would be odd.

It's 110% odd.

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Anonymous wrote:All teachers want cash or gift cards.

This. It’s so gross we decide men should get money but women flowers. Thank women for doing a good job with cash, just like you would a man. The only jobs where people get flowers instead of cash are teaching, secretaries and maybe nursing. Hhhhmmmm. Sense a theme? I’m a lawyer - no one would ever give me flowers for doing my job well.

One of the admins at my first real job had a small poster that said "Raises not Roses". Never forgot that.

Love this!

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Anonymous wrote:All teachers have a local hang out spot they go to after the last day of school. Get a gift card from there.

Another common misconception by the PTA. Again, I appreciate your thought but I give these away to the people who live local or the young teachers. I don’t live in the town and I have my own family. I’m not going to the local restaurant for happy hours and I’m never going out to eat at the local restaurants, ever. We don’t have time to go out to eat for lunch during the year.

When the day ends, I’m racing out to drive my kids to their activities or go to their school events. The only gift cards I ever use are Amazon or Target.

Every group has a wet blanket. You don’t speak for the normies.

Yes, why not? It would be weird to not give him anything, so just give him what you give all other teachers.

Flowers are fine. Sheesh.