The rich ladies where I live seem to live in workout gear and sneakers with heavy eye makeup, bright nails, but no lipstick ever.
Poor me shows up to the school in natural fiber dresses (thrifted) and red lips.
I don't care about looking like them.

Anonymous wrote:Obviously low class white woman here, I hadn't even heard no diamond studs during the day, or that winter white is a different color. But my studs are not real diamonds and I don't wear much white anyway, too hard to keep perfect.

The one rule that gets to me is pantyhose being out because I cannot figure out how to dress for work I'm DC summers. I much prefer dresses to pants, and wesr dark tights in winter, but that's not a good summer look. Ofices are SO cold with AC, bare legs don't work. Advice, fashion gurus?

No pantyhose is not an established fashion rule. It only came in about 15 years ago. I think it was a reaction to L'Eggs in suntan that you could pick up at the CVS. Agree, truly awful.

You have highlighted why pantyhose can be practical. Also in the winter when you want to wear a dress or skirt that does not go with black tights. Which is most of my wardrobe because black is not a good color for me (and many others, no matter what they think). Pantyhose keep me warm enough in the 30 to 50 range.

I end up wearing boots with dresses and skirts when I could be wearing pantyhose instead. They are not more trouble than tights and are less constricting than Spanx, which people have no problem with.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not only outdated, it instantly brands the wearer as completely clueless. Only tweens and old ladies wear perfume.

Disagree completely. Love (very light) perfume.

NP. What you think is light is generally not. Especially if you spray more than once.

58, and my diamond studs haven't been removed from my ears in decades (once for an MRI).

I haven't worn white since my wedding day;

No panty hose, yes to tights in the winter

No linen unless it's between Memorial Day and Labor Day, but you can go ahead, I just can't do it

I won't mix blue (navy) and black, but have no problem with brown and black

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not only outdated, it instantly brands the wearer as completely clueless. Only tweens and old ladies wear perfume.

Disagree completely. Love (very light) perfume.

If other people can smell it, it’s not “very light.”

Obviously low class white woman here, I hadn't even heard no diamond studs during the day, or that winter white is a different color. But my studs are not real diamonds and I don't wear much white anyway, too hard to keep perfect.

The one rule that gets to me is pantyhose being out because I cannot figure out how to dress for work I'm DC summers. I much prefer dresses to pants, and wesr dark tights in winter, but that's not a good summer look. Ofices are SO cold with AC, bare legs don't work. Advice, fashion gurus?

Midlife, professional female. I wear a diamond pendant daily, from my beloved aunt, who is deceased. In addition to going with everything, looking quite pretty and being low fuss, it has sentimental meaning. And that last one is a good enough reason, from my perspective. But I get that this may not be preferred by everyone.

Anonymous wrote:I feel like the old rich ladies have ruined this thread.

OP, I am American of South Asian ancestry. I wear far more diamonds than these ladies can even imagine. I don't understand why wealthy white ladies feel like they should hoard their jewelry instead of wearing it. So dumb!! If you own it, you should wear it, no rules!!

Happy to not be white so I don't have to follow your stupid white people rules!!!!

I am also South Asian (Indian) — why do you have to be so mean? Ladies of all cultures can chime in— reading this has made it clear that there are many sub-cultures within White women. As long as people aren’t judging others for not following their rules, what’s the big deal?
I wear diamond studs (multiple diamonds though, not single diamond) every day. I wish I had additional simple or delicate gold / diamond / precious stone jewelry that would look good for daily wear but unlike most South Asians, I don’t have much family / wedding jewelry.

Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not only outdated, it instantly brands the wearer as completely clueless. Only tweens and old ladies wear perfume.

Disagree completely. Love (very light) perfume.

Anonymous wrote:I feel like the old rich ladies have ruined this thread.

OP, I am American of South Asian ancestry. I wear far more diamonds than these ladies can even imagine. I don't understand why wealthy white ladies feel like they should hoard their jewelry instead of wearing it. So dumb!! If you own it, you should wear it, no rules!!

Happy to not be white so I don't have to follow your stupid white people rules!!!!

lol! You can happily claim your racism, however! Gross.

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised this has continued:

Don't wear the same formal dress more than once, unless you wear it to an event with completely different people. (I imagine this is hard nowadays with social media showing everyone what you have worn.)

This was a rule I followed as a teen/20s, and my teen daughter follows it too.

Royals from many different nations make a point to not follow this rule. Re-wear is a major movement among celebrities, too. It is far more chic to be eco-conscious than to be a hyperconsumer.

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Anonymous wrote:Broken rules - I occasionally wear small fake diamond studs during day. I wear sneakers with dresses if casual running errands.

Other than that, I follow rules.
No white outside of mem day-labor day, no velvet Valentine’s Day-Thanksgiving, pantyhose for dressy occasions. Short, understated nails. No mixing metals.

What’s the velvet thing?

Velvet most appropriate between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting so far… for all the self-identified WASP posters, do you judge women if they are breaking these rules? Any rule more than others?

Was wondering …
I’m a WOC & absolutely love Red lipstick - Dior 999 to be exact.

No wonder alllll the older YT woman say to me “ I could never pull that off “

So many of these rules apply only to white people because they couldn’t pull off breaking them. Bright lipsticks, bright nail colors, mixed metal jewelry, diamonds, true white all year— all look fabulous on darker skin tones.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting so far… for all the self-identified WASP posters, do you judge women if they are breaking these rules? Any rule more than others?

Yes. It just gives me information about them and their upbringing, or their attention to detail.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not only outdated, it instantly brands the wearer as completely clueless. Only tweens and old ladies wear perfume.

I'm neither and I am not giving up my perfume. Call me any name you like, the perfume stays.

Lynne, it’s fine. Do what you want.