Anonymous
Post 05/29/2025 13:04     Subject: Re:Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the most important thing that will come out of your entire youth soccer career is showing up when it sucks to do so. It will teach you life lessons - such as how you keep going to work after getting passed over for a promotion. Or, going back to your spouse after he/she treated you badly. And if it doesn't help with those, it will generally make you tougher and more resilient. The parents who have been around the longest stop fretting about this stuff. Maybe it's like your kid eating something off the floor. The first kid you freak out. By the third one, it doesn't phase you.


And/or knowing when to walk out!!! Standing up for yourself with a coach


Yeah I dont think staying with a spouse who treats you badly is a good thing. Neither is staying with a coach who treats you badly. Your time and self value matter.

But I understand your general idea about sticking with tough things. Your examples are lacking though.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2025 08:31     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.


I wouls report that coach to safe sport for bullying


Have an investigation opened up on the Coach because he has a group chat for next year‘s team? Wow. No wonder people don’t want to coach and be teachers anymore.


It’s called bullying by exclusion and it’s deemed an offense and subject to investigation/ intervention. Also, the coach can’t directly contact the players without the parents in the group.



No this sounds so ridiculous. Why would the coach talk about upcoming season plans with the old team that some of the players are leaving?!? Separating out communications between old and new teams is not bullying!


Season A ends in June. Everyone on the team has paid to be on the team until June. *Once Season A ends, communication starts for Season B*.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2025 08:17     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We came to a practice as a tryout for fall and the coach said DD could start now. She still does rec though so only goes once a week.
She’s played a couple games as well.
She’s U13. I think it’s been nice, good way to get involved so she’s not so much the new kid come Fall.


It's nice for her but you should be aware that not everyone sees it that way. Not her fault at all, but be sensitive if possible.


Which leagues let kids guest play without player passes out of rec? I know NCSL and ECNL do not.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 22:30     Subject: Re:Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the most important thing that will come out of your entire youth soccer career is showing up when it sucks to do so. It will teach you life lessons - such as how you keep going to work after getting passed over for a promotion. Or, going back to your spouse after he/she treated you badly. And if it doesn't help with those, it will generally make you tougher and more resilient. The parents who have been around the longest stop fretting about this stuff. Maybe it's like your kid eating something off the floor. The first kid you freak out. By the third one, it doesn't phase you.


And/or knowing when to walk out!!! Standing up for yourself with a coach
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 20:15     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:We came to a practice as a tryout for fall and the coach said DD could start now. She still does rec though so only goes once a week.
She’s played a couple games as well.
She’s U13. I think it’s been nice, good way to get involved so she’s not so much the new kid come Fall.


It's nice for her but you should be aware that not everyone sees it that way. Not her fault at all, but be sensitive if possible.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:44     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Worse is when the coming players are rostered for games.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:15     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.


I wouls report that coach to safe sport for bullying


Have an investigation opened up on the Coach because he has a group chat for next year‘s team? Wow. No wonder people don’t want to coach and be teachers anymore.


It’s called bullying by exclusion and it’s deemed an offense and subject to investigation/ intervention. Also, the coach can’t directly contact the players without the parents in the group.



No this sounds so ridiculous. Why would the coach talk about upcoming season plans with the old team that some of the players are leaving?!? Separating out communications between old and new teams is not bullying!
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 19:00     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
We came to a practice as a tryout for fall and the coach said DD could start now. She still does rec though so only goes once a week.
She’s played a couple games as well.
She’s U13. I think it’s been nice, good way to get involved so she’s not so much the new kid come Fall.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 18:57     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:Is it normal to have the kids who have accepted offers for next season to continue to come to every practice. Obviously to tryout and a few practices to be evaluated and/or decide if you want to join. But, once they have committed, shouldn't they go back to their other club until fall? Or is this normal?


It's normal. Especially if their current season is over. they need to start to build chemistry with new team and coach.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 18:47     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Sometimes the player would rather practice with the new team because there is a problem with their old team. Hence that’s why they are leaving the old team.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 18:25     Subject: Re:Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Perhaps the most important thing that will come out of your entire youth soccer career is showing up when it sucks to do so. It will teach you life lessons - such as how you keep going to work after getting passed over for a promotion. Or, going back to your spouse after he/she treated you badly. And if it doesn't help with those, it will generally make you tougher and more resilient. The parents who have been around the longest stop fretting about this stuff. Maybe it's like your kid eating something off the floor. The first kid you freak out. By the third one, it doesn't phase you.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 17:21     Subject: Re:Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
When my kids started- tryouts were late May. (Back in 2010). They got earlier and earlier which really messes with the spring season. The big birth year change year they demoted all of the kids that had to move up (put them on bottom 3 teams) and put all of the kids from the early year on top 3 teams. The cuts and demotions happened about a week prior to Memorial Day tournament weekend. Kids had been led on they would stay on first/2nd teams. I remember the anger and drama and kids not showing up to the games. The team lunch between games the current coach got deemed out- but he was not even responsible- above his pay grade
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 17:15     Subject: Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge this really sucks for the kids who have lost their spots and have to move on. However, my daughter has been iced out by her coach and the current players because she is leaving. The coach has rescheduled practices to other times and has a secret chat group that we are not a part of. The kids who have been nasty to my DD for the last two years have ramped up the bullying and are really ripping into her. It seems especially triggering that she is leaving for a top ranked ECNL team. She is excited to practice with the new team And has her eyes on the future anyway.


This sucks! I will probably give away my anonymity with this statement but this is how I handled it. The coach knows and I gave the courtesy of a personal phone call as soon as we were made an offer to return.

The parents have not been notified although we know some know and some kids know as kids talk and they were confronted about attending tryouts.

Our coach has handled it well. I don’t think the parents will as we are making a major jump.

You can report it to Safesport. Alternatively, I am using it as a life lesson. Life is not fair. People are going to be in their feelings. My child knows they are not doing anything fundamentally wrong. Despite being young, they understand how irrational the parents and kids are and it is actually a great lesson in perseverance.

The one thing I did tell my child is not to state where we are going unless asked. I told them to make people pry.

We are going to a 1st team of a MLS Next/ECNL club and folks are going to have their emotions which is natural human tendency.


Omg. Nobody fkg cares. Lmaof. I have a college kid and a current rising u18/19. They probably were at 4-5 clubs each over the 10 years from U9 to U18/19.

Pry it out if you,,,feelings,,,, Christ, get over yourself

“what they don’t know can’t hurt them”—u don’t need to say anything at all.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 17:13     Subject: Re:Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
It is normal for this time of year to have players join practices with their new team for next year.

If I had a player that was moving to a new team and the coach didn't have an issue with it, then go to the practice with the new team. This helps your player develop connections with the new team and coach. Plus if your player is moving up a level, it allows your player to gain extra experience in dealing with stronger players and the faster pace of play.

If your player is moving to a lower level team, I would go to every practice with the higher level team until the next season practices officially start.

I've seen too many kids either impress or not impress at tryouts and then a coach realizes that they made a mistake. Or a kid that was moving down to the second team grows 6 inches over the summer and now the coach wants them back on the upper team.

Always push to play with the more talented team. Opportunities occur.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 17:10     Subject: Re:Players Joining for 25/26 Season Coming to All Practices
My kid left an ECNL team that stopped practice in early March, season over- all kids were at HS practice..

So he practiced with the new mlsnext team.

One year he practiced the entire spring season with a club for free- until tryouts in May when he joined a different team. At HS age and spring in VA they are happy to have bodies at club practices and will let you come.

My kid lives in VA with a Fall HS season so it sucked.