Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 13:37     Subject: Re:Wedding with kids question...
I think the invite is very clear.

If it were me, I’d either decline altogether or attend alone (leaving DH with the kids). Not willing to waste travel budget and vacation days for both of us on stuff like this.

But you do you.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 13:35     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mayne if you ask they will include the kids. I had people add people to RSVP's and I managed to accommodate them. My wedding already included kids..There were about 12 kids in the 3-11 age range. The other "additions" were 5-6 people adding a date or a sibling. It was a little annoying, but later when I was a wedding guest I realized that weddings are a guaranteed happy event, and I understood why people wanted to come.

It can just be hard to see that when you are planning and thinking about $$.


If you asked me, I would have no problem saying no, and would never invite you to ANYTHING I hosted ever again.


Don't let the door hit ya' Karen.


Dp pp is not a Karen
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 13:33     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:They are not invited. Accept or decline accordingly.


You missed the update. Op is not going to ssk as she knows they are not invitrd.

Chill
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 13:32     Subject: Re:Wedding with kids question...
I would assume the kids are not invited and plan accordingly. It is extremely unlikely to be a mistake, IMO. Definitely do not ask anyone about this.

Not a fan at all of child free weddings (when it comes to family anyway) but it is what it is. It is their right to invite (or not invite) whomever they please.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 09:23     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mayne if you ask they will include the kids. I had people add people to RSVP's and I managed to accommodate them. My wedding already included kids..There were about 12 kids in the 3-11 age range. The other "additions" were 5-6 people adding a date or a sibling. It was a little annoying, but later when I was a wedding guest I realized that weddings are a guaranteed happy event, and I understood why people wanted to come.

It can just be hard to see that when you are planning and thinking about $$.


If you asked me, I would have no problem saying no, and would never invite you to ANYTHING I hosted ever again.


Don't let the door hit ya' Karen.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 09:22     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ok, I decided to check their wedding website and found the answer!!! So maybe we will bring the kids after all and they can just skip the wedding. My oldest will be 14 so can babysit my youngest. Phew! Glad I read this before stressing any further.... thanks for all your responses!

While we love your little ones, please note this is an adults-only celebration. The only exceptions are the children of bridesmaids and groomsmen. We recognize that some of you will be traveling with your kids, so please know they are welcome to the weekend events leading up to the ceremony. If you need help finding babysitters in the area for Monday we are happy to help connect you with someone. Thank you for your understanding.

Please reach out if you have questions!


Honestly, that’s so selfish of them.


I love it when guests feel they have the right to dictate things they aren't paying for.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 07:01     Subject: Wedding with kids question...

Kids are probably not invited. I def wouldn't ask.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 06:10     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mayne if you ask they will include the kids. I had people add people to RSVP's and I managed to accommodate them. My wedding already included kids..There were about 12 kids in the 3-11 age range. The other "additions" were 5-6 people adding a date or a sibling. It was a little annoying, but later when I was a wedding guest I realized that weddings are a guaranteed happy event, and I understood why people wanted to come.

It can just be hard to see that when you are planning and thinking about $$.


If you asked me, I would have no problem saying no, and would never invite you to ANYTHING I hosted ever again.


People certainly do have a choice to end relationships over wedding planning..

That was not my choice because it's a wedding and it's supposed to be joyous. In the end adding 12-15 people did not break the bank when you consider the ridiculous cost of everything associated with a wedding.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 21:16     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:Mayne if you ask they will include the kids. I had people add people to RSVP's and I managed to accommodate them. My wedding already included kids..There were about 12 kids in the 3-11 age range. The other "additions" were 5-6 people adding a date or a sibling. It was a little annoying, but later when I was a wedding guest I realized that weddings are a guaranteed happy event, and I understood why people wanted to come.

It can just be hard to see that when you are planning and thinking about $$.


If you asked me, I would have no problem saying no, and would never invite you to ANYTHING I hosted ever again.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 21:14     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So tacky to not include family kids. OP, my cousin (only cousin - we’re a small family) is getting married next month and my teenagers aren’t invited. Teenagers! It’s a black tie deal, rich bride, signature wedding cocktail situation. I give it 5 yrs.


I don't think that's what tacky means. And it's crappy of you to doom the wedding just because your kids weren't invited.


DP.

This is the sort of nastiness we’ve come to expect from the never-child-free-wedding cult.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 21:11     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Mayne if you ask they will include the kids. I had people add people to RSVP's and I managed to accommodate them. My wedding already included kids..There were about 12 kids in the 3-11 age range. The other "additions" were 5-6 people adding a date or a sibling. It was a little annoying, but later when I was a wedding guest I realized that weddings are a guaranteed happy event, and I understood why people wanted to come.

It can just be hard to see that when you are planning and thinking about $$.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 20:27     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:Cousins kids not being invited seems rude to me especially when the grandparents are likely attending the wedding too. But I feel like more and more of these weddings are just photo ops for the bride and groom, rather than celebrating family.


You seem to be implying "no kids weddings" are a new thing. But I'm 48 and remember happily staying home with my brother while my parents went off to weddings. I was 21 the first time I was invited to a wedding.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 20:16     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:Cousins kids not being invited seems rude to me especially when the grandparents are likely attending the wedding too. But I feel like more and more of these weddings are just photo ops for the bride and groom, rather than celebrating family.


But isn’t the whole thing supposed to be about the bride and groom? A family reunion or family party is about celebrating family. A wedding is literally celebrating the bride and groom.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 20:13     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Anonymous wrote:Cousins kids not being invited seems rude to me especially when the grandparents are likely attending the wedding too. But I feel like more and more of these weddings are just photo ops for the bride and groom, rather than celebrating family.


Who cares? It's their wedding. They are free to invite (or not invite) whomever they choose.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 20:06     Subject: Wedding with kids question...
Cousins kids not being invited seems rude to me especially when the grandparents are likely attending the wedding too. But I feel like more and more of these weddings are just photo ops for the bride and groom, rather than celebrating family.