Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 21:45     Subject: Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DS has just finished his first year as a D1 athlete at an Ivy, and he is the best player on the team. His roommate is a walk-on to the team because his parents gave a 20M+ gift to the athletic department. DS's roommate invited DS to travel with him to Europe and South America for three months during the summer with him and his girlfriend and his sister. The roommate will take care of all expenses, such as staying at expensive hotels, and doing expensive things. The roommate also promises DS that his parents will get an internship for DS next summer. I know this means nothing to rich people, but we are not. I also said to DS that he needs to be very careful about accepting these things, because people don't generally do something nice for you, unless they want something from you as well. Am I overthinking about it? I know I can't stop DS from accepting this lavish trip, but should I worry? TIA.


Hard to take you seriously, when you add very unnecessary information. The fact that he’s wealthy, maybe. the fact that he’s his roommate,yes; but the bolded was not necessary at all, and was rather distracting to your story.


And reads like the poor fiction it is...
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 20:03     Subject: Re:Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Anonymous wrote:What do you mean you can’t stop him from taking this trip?

I would not let my DS accept this.


What are you going to do if your DS doesn’t listen to you, and accept the trip? Are you not going to support him by not paying tuition, room & board?

OP’s kid just hit a lifetime lottery. Just accept the fact that he is treated differently because he is an athlete. Accept the trip, be a good friend and teammate. He has access to the rich and influence that many students would love to have, but don’t because they are they aren’t athletes. That access and network becomes extremely valuable after graduation.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 14:59     Subject: Re:Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
What do you mean you can’t stop him from taking this trip?

I would not let my DS accept this.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 14:55     Subject: Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Anonymous wrote:DS has just finished his first year as a D1 athlete at an Ivy, and he is the best player on the team. His roommate is a walk-on to the team because his parents gave a 20M+ gift to the athletic department. DS's roommate invited DS to travel with him to Europe and South America for three months during the summer with him and his girlfriend and his sister. The roommate will take care of all expenses, such as staying at expensive hotels, and doing expensive things. The roommate also promises DS that his parents will get an internship for DS next summer. I know this means nothing to rich people, but we are not. I also said to DS that he needs to be very careful about accepting these things, because people don't generally do something nice for you, unless they want something from you as well. Am I overthinking about it? I know I can't stop DS from accepting this lavish trip, but should I worry? TIA.


I would not in a zillion years tell my child to accept this trip.

Yeah, he's an adult, but no. Really? Just no.

He needs a summer job, not a fantasy trip.

I assume this is a troll post, but the concept is just plain stupid.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 13:55     Subject: Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Year 1. Best player. Tell me more.

DS has just finished his first year as a D1 athlete at an Ivy, and he is the best player on the team.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 13:48     Subject: Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I disagree the best player bit is irrelevant bc it explains the invite. Rich people want a shiny toy to show: someone very funny, gorgeous, in this case the best athlete. So the kid was invited to be bragged about. It is all very fickle but the game works both ways.


I agree with this assessment. As long as your DH knows where his value comes from, go for it. Rich kids can be super nice but they are also immensely clueless.


There are two things in life that money can not overcome: 1- hard work; 2- talents; 3- discipline. To be an D1 athlete, you must have all three. Rich people want to hang out with talented people, especially athletes. It has been going on since the beginning of time. Accept the trip, and be a good friend because your future has just been paved with gold.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 11:41     Subject: Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Anonymous wrote:I disagree the best player bit is irrelevant bc it explains the invite. Rich people want a shiny toy to show: someone very funny, gorgeous, in this case the best athlete. So the kid was invited to be bragged about. It is all very fickle but the game works both ways.


I agree with this assessment. As long as your DH knows where his value comes from, go for it. Rich kids can be super nice but they are also immensely clueless.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2025 15:11     Subject: Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DS has just finished his first year as a D1 athlete at an Ivy, and he is the best player on the team.


😂😂🙄🙄

Nice try.

Author?


And why doesn't the top athlete on a D1 team not have a NIL deal?
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2025 15:08     Subject: Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Anonymous wrote:Rich kid wants a cool friend.

As long as you trust your kid to stay away from hazards like too much drinking, any drugs, and sex work (Amsterdam shows, etc.), I think it's okay.

And also your kid needs to make clear that he can't reciprocate or keep up (for example, dinners at expensive restaurants).

Sometimes rich kids really like normies because they are genuinely nice people.


Yeah. It could be that doing this is not a big deal to rich kid.

As long as your normie kid doesn't get into drugs, sex, or illegal activities under pressure from rich kid, this might be okay.

Anonymous
Post 05/19/2025 20:14     Subject: Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:D1 athletes don't get 3 months off in the summer. That doesn't make sense. They still train, practice, etc...

Yes, this. Even my D3 athlete was expected to play over the summer.


+1


No they don’t