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Anonymous wrote:How is your marriage OP? When my child had negative self talk and suicidal ideation it was during the period of time when my ex and I were headed towards divorce and I was deeply unhappy. Hopefully your overall household and family situation is calm and stable.

OP here- Thanks for asking. Luckily marriage is calm and stable. We have actually gotten closer by both going to therapy and getting support on how to help him together so we are on the same page.

As far as the PP who is saying we are feeding his issues--- I am not going to engage--- I know our reality and came on here to feel less alone and find resources for helping my son and our family through a very tough time. So many posters have provided me with what I need in the moment and for that I am grateful.

Now try this with your son. Do not engage. Support by getting him new hobbies, facilitating friendships, increasing skills, spending time with him, etc. Not by perseveration of the issue. Read the literature yourself. You will be grateful later.

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Anonymous wrote:How is your marriage OP? When my child had negative self talk and suicidal ideation it was during the period of time when my ex and I were headed towards divorce and I was deeply unhappy. Hopefully your overall household and family situation is calm and stable.

OP here- Thanks for asking. Luckily marriage is calm and stable. We have actually gotten closer by both going to therapy and getting support on how to help him together so we are on the same page.

As far as the PP who is saying we are feeding his issues--- I am not going to engage--- I know our reality and came on here to feel less alone and find resources for helping my son and our family through a very tough time. So many posters have provided me with what I need in the moment and for that I am grateful.

Anonymous wrote:How is your marriage OP? When my child had negative self talk and suicidal ideation it was during the period of time when my ex and I were headed towards divorce and I was deeply unhappy. Hopefully your overall household and family situation is calm and stable.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, pp here. This is the kind of treatment I’m talking about - if you’re in other states you can look for something similar. I would probably recommend a center that specializes in anxiety and offers these specific treatments. This one offers teletherapy. If you can access it in person near you that is great for kids, but since you mentioned you are in a small town I am sending this example. I think it can work at 9 through telehealth too!

https://www.ocd-dc.com/our-services

At some point in your journey also recommend learning about and continuing doing a SPACE course together as parents. You won’t regret it! It can be huge for kids with anxiety. It is just for parents and gives you the tools to support your son. It is really hard to be the parent of a child struggling with anxiety, this can be a good toolkit. Potentially for the future once you get a handle on how much of this is anxiety, sounds like it probably is!
https://www.rosscenter.com/ross_event/space-training-a-7-week-group-for-parents-of-anxious-children/

The Ross center linked above is also a great resource generally for kids and OCD, not sure if they do telehealth but would be worth a check. I didn’t link it above because it doesn’t note it though they very likely do and could also be a good fit for therapy for ERP.

OP here-- thank you for these resources and for all the posters who have offered support and resources. This has been so helpful in a moment when I feel helpless. We went to his therapist this afternoon. I shared the article about OCD with her privately and she said she has a colleague who specializes with children with OCD locally and she would reach out to her. Once we do the testing and get a diagnosis, we will have clarity about next steps. My DS is not doing this for attention. He is hurting and scared and we will do whatever we can to help his journey. Will come back and post once we have more information and I hope to one day be like the posters who have been there, survived the hard journey and see their children thriving as adults.

You are FEEDING the behavior. Stop doing that. Support yes but not feed. HUGE difference.

Go away, troll.

NP. Harshly worded but kind of true.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, pp here. This is the kind of treatment I’m talking about - if you’re in other states you can look for something similar. I would probably recommend a center that specializes in anxiety and offers these specific treatments. This one offers teletherapy. If you can access it in person near you that is great for kids, but since you mentioned you are in a small town I am sending this example. I think it can work at 9 through telehealth too!

https://www.ocd-dc.com/our-services

At some point in your journey also recommend learning about and continuing doing a SPACE course together as parents. You won’t regret it! It can be huge for kids with anxiety. It is just for parents and gives you the tools to support your son. It is really hard to be the parent of a child struggling with anxiety, this can be a good toolkit. Potentially for the future once you get a handle on how much of this is anxiety, sounds like it probably is!
https://www.rosscenter.com/ross_event/space-training-a-7-week-group-for-parents-of-anxious-children/

The Ross center linked above is also a great resource generally for kids and OCD, not sure if they do telehealth but would be worth a check. I didn’t link it above because it doesn’t note it though they very likely do and could also be a good fit for therapy for ERP.

OP here-- thank you for these resources and for all the posters who have offered support and resources. This has been so helpful in a moment when I feel helpless. We went to his therapist this afternoon. I shared the article about OCD with her privately and she said she has a colleague who specializes with children with OCD locally and she would reach out to her. Once we do the testing and get a diagnosis, we will have clarity about next steps. My DS is not doing this for attention. He is hurting and scared and we will do whatever we can to help his journey. Will come back and post once we have more information and I hope to one day be like the posters who have been there, survived the hard journey and see their children thriving as adults.

You are FEEDING the behavior. Stop doing that. Support yes but not feed. HUGE difference.

Go away, troll.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, pp here. This is the kind of treatment I’m talking about - if you’re in other states you can look for something similar. I would probably recommend a center that specializes in anxiety and offers these specific treatments. This one offers teletherapy. If you can access it in person near you that is great for kids, but since you mentioned you are in a small town I am sending this example. I think it can work at 9 through telehealth too!

https://www.ocd-dc.com/our-services

At some point in your journey also recommend learning about and continuing doing a SPACE course together as parents. You won’t regret it! It can be huge for kids with anxiety. It is just for parents and gives you the tools to support your son. It is really hard to be the parent of a child struggling with anxiety, this can be a good toolkit. Potentially for the future once you get a handle on how much of this is anxiety, sounds like it probably is!
https://www.rosscenter.com/ross_event/space-training-a-7-week-group-for-parents-of-anxious-children/

The Ross center linked above is also a great resource generally for kids and OCD, not sure if they do telehealth but would be worth a check. I didn’t link it above because it doesn’t note it though they very likely do and could also be a good fit for therapy for ERP.

OP here-- thank you for these resources and for all the posters who have offered support and resources. This has been so helpful in a moment when I feel helpless. We went to his therapist this afternoon. I shared the article about OCD with her privately and she said she has a colleague who specializes with children with OCD locally and she would reach out to her. Once we do the testing and get a diagnosis, we will have clarity about next steps. My DS is not doing this for attention. He is hurting and scared and we will do whatever we can to help his journey. Will come back and post once we have more information and I hope to one day be like the posters who have been there, survived the hard journey and see their children thriving as adults.

You are FEEDING the behavior. Stop doing that. Support yes but not feed. HUGE difference.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, pp here. This is the kind of treatment I’m talking about - if you’re in other states you can look for something similar. I would probably recommend a center that specializes in anxiety and offers these specific treatments. This one offers teletherapy. If you can access it in person near you that is great for kids, but since you mentioned you are in a small town I am sending this example. I think it can work at 9 through telehealth too!

https://www.ocd-dc.com/our-services

At some point in your journey also recommend learning about and continuing doing a SPACE course together as parents. You won’t regret it! It can be huge for kids with anxiety. It is just for parents and gives you the tools to support your son. It is really hard to be the parent of a child struggling with anxiety, this can be a good toolkit. Potentially for the future once you get a handle on how much of this is anxiety, sounds like it probably is!
https://www.rosscenter.com/ross_event/space-training-a-7-week-group-for-parents-of-anxious-children/

The Ross center linked above is also a great resource generally for kids and OCD, not sure if they do telehealth but would be worth a check. I didn’t link it above because it doesn’t note it though they very likely do and could also be a good fit for therapy for ERP.

OP here-- thank you for these resources and for all the posters who have offered support and resources. This has been so helpful in a moment when I feel helpless. We went to his therapist this afternoon. I shared the article about OCD with her privately and she said she has a colleague who specializes with children with OCD locally and she would reach out to her. Once we do the testing and get a diagnosis, we will have clarity about next steps. My DS is not doing this for attention. He is hurting and scared and we will do whatever we can to help his journey. Will come back and post once we have more information and I hope to one day be like the posters who have been there, survived the hard journey and see their children thriving as adults.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, pp here. This is the kind of treatment I’m talking about - if you’re in other states you can look for something similar. I would probably recommend a center that specializes in anxiety and offers these specific treatments. This one offers teletherapy. If you can access it in person near you that is great for kids, but since you mentioned you are in a small town I am sending this example. I think it can work at 9 through telehealth too!

https://www.ocd-dc.com/our-services

At some point in your journey also recommend learning about and continuing doing a SPACE course together as parents. You won’t regret it! It can be huge for kids with anxiety. It is just for parents and gives you the tools to support your son. It is really hard to be the parent of a child struggling with anxiety, this can be a good toolkit. Potentially for the future once you get a handle on how much of this is anxiety, sounds like it probably is!
https://www.rosscenter.com/ross_event/space-training-a-7-week-group-for-parents-of-anxious-children/

The Ross center linked above is also a great resource generally for kids and OCD, not sure if they do telehealth but would be worth a check. I didn’t link it above because it doesn’t note it though they very likely do and could also be a good fit for therapy for ERP.

OP here-- thank you for these resources and for all the posters who have offered support and resources. This has been so helpful in a moment when I feel helpless. We went to his therapist this afternoon. I shared the article about OCD with her privately and she said she has a colleague who specializes with children with OCD locally and she would reach out to her. Once we do the testing and get a diagnosis, we will have clarity about next steps. My DS is not doing this for attention. He is hurting and scared and we will do whatever we can to help his journey. Will come back and post once we have more information and I hope to one day be like the posters who have been there, survived the hard journey and see their children thriving as adults.

Anonymous wrote:Op, pp here. This is the kind of treatment I’m talking about - if you’re in other states you can look for something similar. I would probably recommend a center that specializes in anxiety and offers these specific treatments. This one offers teletherapy. If you can access it in person near you that is great for kids, but since you mentioned you are in a small town I am sending this example. I think it can work at 9 through telehealth too!

https://www.ocd-dc.com/our-services

At some point in your journey also recommend learning about and continuing doing a SPACE course together as parents. You won’t regret it! It can be huge for kids with anxiety. It is just for parents and gives you the tools to support your son. It is really hard to be the parent of a child struggling with anxiety, this can be a good toolkit. Potentially for the future once you get a handle on how much of this is anxiety, sounds like it probably is!
https://www.rosscenter.com/ross_event/space-training-a-7-week-group-for-parents-of-anxious-children/

The Ross center linked above is also a great resource generally for kids and OCD, not sure if they do telehealth but would be worth a check. I didn’t link it above because it doesn’t note it though they very likely do and could also be a good fit for therapy for ERP.