Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:57     Subject: Re:family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure how the conversation went for OP, but I’ve had family members tell me my entire childhood I was fat and would look so pretty if I lost weight. We are EE and these comments were completely unsolicited by me. Think of an aunt that looks at you with so much pity and says “why don’t you just lose the weight?” I wasn’t fat though. I weighed 120 lbs and was 5.1.

Unless op specially asked this person if she was fat, how is it ok that he or she told her she was fat? Stop being hateful under the guise of caring for someone’s health. Now, there is no way I would have asked the person to take it back either. They can think whatever the f they want.


Did you not read the post? She literally asked.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:50     Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:This board, like society at large, is incredibly fat phobic. I would definitely not bring up weight ever because people always have something to say about it. It makes them gleeful to make someone feel bad about being fat. Ultimately it’s immature and mean-spirited and they would feel ashamed to do this to someone with any other struggle.


Plus a million. Just look at the daily threads on here. And I’m not even fat.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:49     Subject: family member implied im fat
Are we in the same family?
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:39     Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:This board, like society at large, is incredibly fat phobic. I would definitely not bring up weight ever because people always have something to say about it. It makes them gleeful to make someone feel bad about being fat. Ultimately it’s immature and mean-spirited and they would feel ashamed to do this to someone with any other struggle.


The comments here haven't really been that bad. They've called OP out because this relative didn't call her fat and then called her out for her wallowing follow ups. And then they've called out that weird toxic masculinity poster that makes no sense.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:39     Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Treat your underlying anxiety that causes you to eat.


That's all well and good, but you wouldn't say the same thing to an alcoholic. You attack it from both fronts. Dry out AND treat the underlying anxiety. So clean up your diet, start a group exercise program at a local gym, AND work on the anxiety. It's all hands on deck time, not time to spend 4 years in therapy before you put down the potato chips.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:38     Subject: family member implied im fat
This board, like society at large, is incredibly fat phobic. I would definitely not bring up weight ever because people always have something to say about it. It makes them gleeful to make someone feel bad about being fat. Ultimately it’s immature and mean-spirited and they would feel ashamed to do this to someone with any other struggle.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:37     Subject: family member implied im fat
Treat your underlying anxiety that causes you to eat.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:37     Subject: family member implied im fat
No need to imply. You are in fact, FAT.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:36     Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:
Having an addiction is like two versions of yourself playing tug of war in your head constantly. Especially a food addiction.
It sucks and I just want to keep the weight off and not going for chips everytime I’m nervous.


You need to work on yourself. You obviously have some mental health issues going on. Get some self help books. Start to dig around for the root of what's going on with you. You've got a victim mentality going on and an attention/validation seeker issue going on. That likely all ties into whatever your underlying issues are that cause you to turn to food.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:36     Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:
Having an addiction is like two versions of yourself playing tug of war in your head constantly. Especially a food addiction.
It sucks and I just want to keep the weight off and not going for chips everytime I’m nervous.


You've got to retrain your brain. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a place you can start.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:34     Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mansplaining is awful. Like you need life advice at every turn.


Like I tried to tell op:

Classic toxic masculinity


You must be fat, too, so everything is everyone else's fault.

He didn't even agree with her, per se. When she repeated it, he said if you don't like it change it.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:34     Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Well you're clearly fat. You want them to lie to you?


Lol they did lie and OP called them out for it.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:34     Subject: family member implied im fat
Well you're clearly fat. You want them to lie to you?
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:34     Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:It makes people feel awkward when you are fat and say you are. Stop doing it.


But then how does OP get validation and attention?
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 17:33     Subject: family member implied im fat

Having an addiction is like two versions of yourself playing tug of war in your head constantly. Especially a food addiction.
It sucks and I just want to keep the weight off and not going for chips everytime I’m nervous.