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Anonymous wrote:I have been through this with my oldest. Not this class in particular, but more like all of them. He did not have the capabilities to do much better than a D final grade for most classes. He had a great IEP and it was being followed. He just lacked the capabilities.

You cannot define success for you child by looking at what other kids do. When a kid is not capable of getting a good grade in a class, success if defined by doing what it takes to meet the graduation requirements. In this case, a D is what it takes. So, if her grade will average out to a D if she fails this semester, then failing this semester will be a success for her because she will meet the graduation requirements.

OP isn't doing that though. OP wants her kid to get some help being shown what to do. That doesn't seem all that wild. You are projecting, not reading.

In her original post, which was when this response was made, OP said "She’s basically asking permission to just give up and take the E, which will give her a D for the semester." It was, and still isn't, clear that OP's child can pass this course.

I actually think the real issue here is a school fail and maybe a parental fail. Why was she put into an advanced CS class and why did it take until 20 days before the end of the school year before anyone realized this child was in a class that was too advanced and not necessary for graduation. A basic CS class would have met the graduation requirement and that clearly is not what OP's child is taking.

OP also said no one is worried about her DD. And, they don't need to be because OP's DD will pass and graduate even if she fails the quarter given her C in the last quarter. Had she gotten a D in the last quarter, everyone would be scrambling because she would need at least a D this quarter to graduate.

Anonymous wrote:I have been through this with my oldest. Not this class in particular, but more like all of them. He did not have the capabilities to do much better than a D final grade for most classes. He had a great IEP and it was being followed. He just lacked the capabilities.

You cannot define success for you child by looking at what other kids do. When a kid is not capable of getting a good grade in a class, success if defined by doing what it takes to meet the graduation requirements. In this case, a D is what it takes. So, if her grade will average out to a D if she fails this semester, then failing this semester will be a success for her because she will meet the graduation requirements.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been through this with my oldest. Not this class in particular, but more like all of them. He did not have the capabilities to do much better than a D final grade for most classes. He had a great IEP and it was being followed. He just lacked the capabilities.

You cannot define success for you child by looking at what other kids do. When a kid is not capable of getting a good grade in a class, success if defined by doing what it takes to meet the graduation requirements. In this case, a D is what it takes. So, if her grade will average out to a D if she fails this semester, then failing this semester will be a success for her because she will meet the graduation requirements.

OP isn't doing that though. OP wants her kid to get some help being shown what to do. That doesn't seem all that wild. You are projecting, not reading.

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t have friends. I wish she could take it home - her dad and I would help, or her tutor.

Ask the teacher to take it home or if it’s a kit, buy her one for at home.

Anonymous wrote:I have been through this with my oldest. Not this class in particular, but more like all of them. He did not have the capabilities to do much better than a D final grade for most classes. He had a great IEP and it was being followed. He just lacked the capabilities.

You cannot define success for you child by looking at what other kids do. When a kid is not capable of getting a good grade in a class, success if defined by doing what it takes to meet the graduation requirements. In this case, a D is what it takes. So, if her grade will average out to a D if she fails this semester, then failing this semester will be a success for her because she will meet the graduation requirements.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to make her do it. A disability is not an excuse. She doesn’t feel like she can do it means she’s not trying.

Make her do it? What the F does that mean? She has been going to lunch for help. She has pretty profound dyspraxia and leaning disabilities but has a good GPA because she works her a$$ off. That was remarked upon in her recent IEP meeting (last one before graduation). Why are you on the SN board?

DP. I agree, it sounds like she needs to get the robot part of the project going so that she can start the next part. If it's a required class, then any of her friends will have taken it or is currently taking it. They can help her with the robot so that she can move on to the rest of the project. She needs to get passed this. What she's currently doing isn't working, so she needs to get heip some other way.

Ma’am this is the SN board.

The SN board where every parent thinks their child is a princess and should never be held accountable for anything because disability.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she can take some pictures of the project and you would be able to help/give more advice. She needs to ask the teacher specifically for help. I don't think it's too bad if you email the teacher as well to explain the problem more.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to make her do it. A disability is not an excuse. She doesn’t feel like she can do it means she’s not trying.

Make her do it? What the F does that mean? She has been going to lunch for help. She has pretty profound dyspraxia and leaning disabilities but has a good GPA because she works her a$$ off. That was remarked upon in her recent IEP meeting (last one before graduation). Why are you on the SN board?

I hope your daughter isn’t like you.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to make her do it. A disability is not an excuse. She doesn’t feel like she can do it means she’s not trying.

Make her do it? What the F does that mean? She has been going to lunch for help. She has pretty profound dyspraxia and leaning disabilities but has a good GPA because she works her a$$ off. That was remarked upon in her recent IEP meeting (last one before graduation). Why are you on the SN board?

DP. I agree, it sounds like she needs to get the robot part of the project going so that she can start the next part. If it's a required class, then any of her friends will have taken it or is currently taking it. They can help her with the robot so that she can move on to the rest of the project. She needs to get passed this. What she's currently doing isn't working, so she needs to get heip some other way.

Anonymous wrote:I would call an IEP meeting. Insist on the CS teacher being there.

She clearly needs more/different support so that’s a starting place.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to make her do it. A disability is not an excuse. She doesn’t feel like she can do it means she’s not trying.

Make her do it? What the F does that mean? She has been going to lunch for help. She has pretty profound dyspraxia and leaning disabilities but has a good GPA because she works her a$$ off. That was remarked upon in her recent IEP meeting (last one before graduation). Why are you on the SN board?

I hope your daughter isn’t like you.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. When DD went for help at lunch, the teacher worked with the AP kids but did not work with my daughter at all. I think she’s accommodating the extra time, and might help with the programming aspect, but is just not grasping what my DD needs, because the task is just so simple and easy. I mean, what high school senior can’t build a robot? The teacher doesn’t understand DD’s disability.

I will encourage DD to ask if she can bring the pieces home, or if she can use a kit. That would make all the difference. I would help, the tutor would help, etc. I have a hunch that if I showed her explicitly what to do, it would click and she could finish on her own. She just needs hands-on demonstration and practice with motor/sequential tasks.

Thank you for all the advice!

Reach out to the teacher. For AP computer science, there is a project that needs to get turned in for the AP exam coming up which is why its probably the priority but that's unfair to your daughter. Ask specifically what is the assignment and what are they building - can it be sent home or can you buy the parts to work on/practice at home. We often buy the books and things needed that they use at school that they don't send home with the kids. But, this project sounds very advanced to build a robot and code it for regular computer science. We didn't have that even in AP.

Wow!! Well, it’s reassuring to know that it’s advanced. I will share that with my daughter, thank you.