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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This just seems silly because that isn't remotely the point of wedding photos and who cares what guests are wearing in photos anyway?

They seem to care more about photos than about the concept of marriage.

But I mean how often do you look at your wedding photos and, when you do, what is the thing you focus on.

Like, sure we have this one nice photo from my wedding that's framed and referenced often but specifically because my FIL died unexpectedly the next year and it's one of the last really nice photos of him dancing with his kids.

A lot of people in their 20s are still too active on social media and want to impress on Instagram. And a surprising number of people also have side hustles as influencers. The photos aren’t just for personal memories of their day.

Ive gone to one themed wedding and one with certain encouraged accessories, and they were fun fashion challenges where I could give myself permission to be interesting with accessories in a way I wouldn’t if I was trying to look correct. But I actually think these are invitations to have fun with it vs demanding a certain color palette for visuals to make everyone blend into one another. I think the latter is quite obnoxious.

But at the end of the day, you know that if this is the level of bride we’re talking, that she definitely has at least two “frenemy” “girlfriends” who are going to show up elaborately dressed in whatever the opposite of the desired color is on the color wheel.

Anonymous wrote:I think we know the elements for the ultimate guest-repelling wedding:
Destination wedding
On a weekday
No kids
Cash bar
Special clothing requirements for guests
Demand for cash presents included in invitation

Am I leaving anything out?

Destination theme wedding.

I think we know the elements for the ultimate guest-repelling wedding:
Destination wedding
On a weekday
No kids
Cash bar
Special clothing requirements for guests
Demand for cash presents included in invitation

Am I leaving anything out?

Thoughts? It's gross. Just hire extras to pose for your photos and forget needing real guests. They will wear what you want and play the part. Put an ad on craigslist under "Gigs."

Nope. I will wear whatever I want to wear. I’m a grownup.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems a bit rude. If it's something like "don't wear white", well yeah I knew that already. If it's like "women please wear yellow, men wear aquamarine ties", that's super irritating because you're demanding I go out and buy a specific outfit for your wedding and it's controlling.

Even “don’t wear white” is too much. if I have a go to off-white sheath dress that I wear to most summer occasions, let me. If other guests think I’m trying to to upstage the bride, let them judge me. You just be happy I came.

mmmm, no. don't wear white to a wedding has been a thing for 50 yrs. everything else, knock yourself out.

Anonymous wrote:Used to be no black and white but blue anything goes

When was it no black? I got married in 1996, black tie formal evening wedding, and about 60% of the guests were wearing black. No white, sure. Except for my c**t SIl who wore a dress that looked remarkably like my wedding dress.

It’s very stupid but I would obey assuming I could easily do so.

Don’t be that bride! Seriously, do not do this.

Anonymous wrote:Thoughts on wedding invitation giving instructions on what colors guests can and can't wear to the wedding?

So incredibly tacky, selfish, and rude. I wish this trend of planning your event for instagram likes instead of for your guests' enjoyment would end.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This just seems silly because that isn't remotely the point of wedding photos and who cares what guests are wearing in photos anyway?

They seem to care more about photos than about the concept of marriage.

But I mean how often do you look at your wedding photos and, when you do, what is the thing you focus on.

Like, sure we have this one nice photo from my wedding that's framed and referenced often but specifically because my FIL died unexpectedly the next year and it's one of the last really nice photos of him dancing with his kids.

I haven't finished the album 30 years on. We have one wedding photo hanging on the wall.

I thought I was the only one! (Except I don't even have a photo on the wall)

We had our formal photos taken before the ceremony because I wanted to spend time with guests.

Don't give me a job in order to come to your wedding.

Anonymous wrote:It is absolutely a thing now even if the olds don't like it. (I am an old.)

Well, the olds are the ones with the money, and I’m not spending it on people who make frivolous demands like this.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This just seems silly because that isn't remotely the point of wedding photos and who cares what guests are wearing in photos anyway?

They seem to care more about photos than about the concept of marriage.

But I mean how often do you look at your wedding photos and, when you do, what is the thing you focus on.

Like, sure we have this one nice photo from my wedding that's framed and referenced often but specifically because my FIL died unexpectedly the next year and it's one of the last really nice photos of him dancing with his kids.

I haven't finished the album 30 years on. We have one wedding photo hanging on the wall.

I thought I was the only one! (Except I don't even have a photo on the wall)

Me three! I never even ordered photos from the proofs. I doubt the photographer is even in business 29 years later. Wish I had that money back. Meanwhile, my husband and I are still married despite one of our guests turning up in a chambray Bugs Bunny shirt. Try working that into your color palette!