Anonymous wrote:My kid's ILs always invite us to restaurants whenever we are in their town. We haven't been to their house even once and we've known them for last five years. They are both academics, don't cook much and keep a messy house. We don't care as they are really nice otherwise.

You sound like you have your head screwed on straight.

Anonymous wrote:Wow they have no shame. My parents and IL’s would socialize at our house on holidays. Tell your son that his wife’s parents’ house is gross and if they want you all to get together, they need to host everyone.

You sound gross.

16:33 Brothers’ DWs’ families! 😆 I do have a huge family of origin - there are 7 of us!

I’m trying to be magnanimous and loving yet my DC are all single/unmarried.

Still trying to establish good in-law relationships. When my BIL (sister’s DH) recently lost his last parent, my family and I went to the funeral service. I’ve done same for my brothers’ DW’s wives.

So OP you can gather once or twice a year with this family. Meet at a restaurant. Take a few pictures. We’re talking four hours out of your life.

No

My parents are local and my in laws live a few hours away. When in-laws used to visit us (they’re too old to travel now) my parents would normally come over for dinner one night. My kids loved having all 4 grandparents in one place. They’re friendly but not friends and don’t see each other outside of visits with us. They do exchange cards for milestone birthdays and anniversaries.