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Anonymous wrote:^that was my quip, but in all seriousness, what bothers you about 145? Is it the way your close fit? Is it fay accumulation in a certain spot? It may not be excessive related. This may be something you need invasive or non invasive procedures for.

Op - I was consistently 135 before having kids. Then I had 3 kids in 5 years. Have never gotten back down to 135. When I got married I was 125. So it’s sort of depressing to be 145 now.

You’re never getting to 135 without extreme measures. You had 3 kids. Your body’s natural set point being only 10 lbs above your normal pre baby weight is entirely normal. Our bodies change drastically after kids.

This is false. There is no science to suggest pregnancy “resets” your set point. All the science suggests that if you maintain the same diet and level of exercise after pregnancy you can go back to your usual weight. Metabolism doesn’t actually slow down til your 60s!

I didn’t say metabolism slowed. I said your body changed. I weighed 95 lbs when I got pregnant. I am 105 now after 2 kids and will never ever be 95 again unless I were to literally starve. Your body is often just not going to go back to what you were pre pregnancy because it was a more youthful version of your frame that just doesn’t exist anymore.

OP I have similar numbers to you, but 140 is a happy weight for me. I got up to 152. I started on HRT & testosterone and the extra weight came off easily then.

Anonymous wrote:1500 calories is too much, 1200 for active, 900 for inactive

BS. I am very similar size to OP (5’6” and 147lbs) and 44yo and I am currently losing about a pound of fat a week by eating 1800 calories. I am lifting 4 times a week and doing 30-40 minutes lower intensity steady state cardio on elliptical on the remaining days plus I get about 10-15k steps every day.

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Anonymous wrote:^that was my quip, but in all seriousness, what bothers you about 145? Is it the way your close fit? Is it fay accumulation in a certain spot? It may not be excessive related. This may be something you need invasive or non invasive procedures for.

Op - I was consistently 135 before having kids. Then I had 3 kids in 5 years. Have never gotten back down to 135. When I got married I was 125. So it’s sort of depressing to be 145 now.

You’re never getting to 135 without extreme measures. You had 3 kids. Your body’s natural set point being only 10 lbs above your normal pre baby weight is entirely normal. Our bodies change drastically after kids.

Op - yea I think in order to do it I have to do serious running. My sister also has had kids but she is a marathon runner. She averages 40+ miles a week running when she isn’t training. Does 2-3 marathons a year. She is about 135.

I never lost weight when I was running marathons. I had to eat so much to fuel properly or I would just be starving and crash. What got me to your goal weight was cutting out all refined sugar, processed foods, eating as many fruits, vegetables and lean meats as humanly possible, and sticking to a balanced workout schedule. I am older than you, same height, kids, and was 147 before I changed my diet. I currently weight 129 and feel better than I ever have.

++Agree.

I was in a marathon running group from age 40-55. I was 5'6" and 125-140. Running long distance did not lead to weight loss. If you follow guidelines for safe running, you need to eat ("fuel") extra calories, not only while running, but in the days before a long run. It sounds crazy, but after you run 15 miles at 5am, which is about 1500 calories, you can't just eat whatever you want all day.

I settled into a slower pace group and we had many XL women who have consistently run marathons for 10+ years, and they all stayed at their XL size.

Not to be confused with the "ideal" runner's physique, which truly is lean and trim. They stay that way while running, but it's not just due to the running, it's mainly due to their genetics and preferred diet.

I loved running, but to lose weight, I think it is 90% diet. Cut out the white stuff - sugar, flour, rice, pasta, bread, potatoes, chips, crackers, fried stuff. Load up on fresh vegetables and lean protein. Avoid drinks with calories, sauces, dressings. Shop the perimeter of the grocery and avoid boxed and bagged stuff. Do strength training to build muscles.

Run marathons if you like, but don't think it is a secret ticket to weight loss.

I will say however, that running 1 mile causes you to appreciate the effort to burn 100 calories. It makes it easier to think twice about having "just" 2 chocolate chip cookies.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 41 and about 10 pounds heavier than I want to be. I lift weights 3 times a week, walk around 15,000+ steps a day every day, and run 3ish miles a few times a week. I am 5'7" and 145 pounds. Realistically I would like to be 135. Ideally I would like to be 125. Is this even possible at my age? Do I just have to starve myself? I don't really drink (maybe 2 glasses of wine a week) and eat healthy (trying to increase protein). I had 3 large babies in my 30s but last kid was born 5 years ago. Should I just resign myself to being overweight?

Use a mirror rather than a scale to determine your ideal body.

5'7" 145 could be fat looking or muscular in shape looking, depending on the body composition. Look at the woman of a similar height in these pictures.

lol they all look very skinny to me.

The pic on the left is flabby, of course the one on the right is the best and what they want you to pick as "weight is just a number"

It really is. Go to the top of a mountain and one weighs less than at the beach.

Here's another example for OP.

+1 I’m the after. I have always weighed “heavy”. I have big bones—large wrist bones, large rib cage and muscle (soccer player for 18 years/track). When I got to 139 at 5’5” I started getting told by everyone I looked anorexic/too skinny, 145 has been my set weight for about 30 years (through 2 kids now in college. I’m 55. I got up to 151 for the first time (barring pregnancy) literally overnight- last period was in November. I had to truly kick it in high gear- weighted vest walking in addition to my usual daily workouts and eating way more protein, less carbs. I lost about a pound a week (6) and back where I was.

My figure is like the after- I have a flat stomach, bodily ab and oblique muscles but the bit of fat around the belly button will likely be the new normal—you don’t see it too much and it’s flat with yoga pants.

I feel great- no need for HRT. Never going to do glp, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to lose weight your two options are to eat less or exercise more.

OP - I already track my calories and I only eat around 1500 calories a day. Should I decrease it even more?

I'm with you, Sis. But I'm 48 and shorter - 5'4" 130lbs. When I starve myself to the point of mood swings and hangry, I can be 124. It sucks, I hate my cellulite legs and crapey skin. To maintain 120, I have to retrict myself to 1100 calories a day. There is no other way around it. I'm hypothyroid and even medication doesn't boost my metabolism. It is what it is. I'm hungry all the time and the weight won't budge. Working out increases hunger and impacts my weight (and mood) negatively.

That’s crazy! What’s your motivation to do this to yourself at your age? It’s not worth it to me.

DP, but what's age got to do with it? (Channeling Tina Turner!) Are you suggesting that women just "let themselves go" after a certain age? Why?

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to lose weight your two options are to eat less or exercise more.

OP - I already track my calories and I only eat around 1500 calories a day. Should I decrease it even more?

I'm with you, Sis. But I'm 48 and shorter - 5'4" 130lbs. When I starve myself to the point of mood swings and hangry, I can be 124. It sucks, I hate my cellulite legs and crapey skin. To maintain 120, I have to retrict myself to 1100 calories a day. There is no other way around it. I'm hypothyroid and even medication doesn't boost my metabolism. It is what it is. I'm hungry all the time and the weight won't budge. Working out increases hunger and impacts my weight (and mood) negatively.

That’s crazy! What’s your motivation to do this to yourself at your age? It’s not worth it to me.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to lose weight your two options are to eat less or exercise more.

OP - I already track my calories and I only eat around 1500 calories a day. Should I decrease it even more?

I'm with you, Sis. But I'm 48 and shorter - 5'4" 130lbs. When I starve myself to the point of mood swings and hangry, I can be 124. It sucks, I hate my cellulite legs and crapey skin. To maintain 120, I have to retrict myself to 1100 calories a day. There is no other way around it. I'm hypothyroid and even medication doesn't boost my metabolism. It is what it is. I'm hungry all the time and the weight won't budge. Working out increases hunger and impacts my weight (and mood) negatively.

Feeling "hungry" is a mental thing, not a physical one.

You can train yourself to ignore those "hungry" feelings and in time you won't feel them anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to lose weight your two options are to eat less or exercise more.

OP - I already track my calories and I only eat around 1500 calories a day. Should I decrease it even more?

I'm with you, Sis. But I'm 48 and shorter - 5'4" 130lbs. When I starve myself to the point of mood swings and hangry, I can be 124. It sucks, I hate my cellulite legs and crapey skin. To maintain 120, I have to retrict myself to 1100 calories a day. There is no other way around it. I'm hypothyroid and even medication doesn't boost my metabolism. It is what it is. I'm hungry all the time and the weight won't budge. Working out increases hunger and impacts my weight (and mood) negatively.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 41 and about 10 pounds heavier than I want to be. I lift weights 3 times a week, walk around 15,000+ steps a day every day, and run 3ish miles a few times a week. I am 5'7" and 145 pounds. Realistically I would like to be 135. Ideally I would like to be 125. Is this even possible at my age? Do I just have to starve myself? I don't really drink (maybe 2 glasses of wine a week) and eat healthy (trying to increase protein). I had 3 large babies in my 30s but last kid was born 5 years ago. Should I just resign myself to being overweight?

Use a mirror rather than a scale to determine your ideal body.

5'7" 145 could be fat looking or muscular in shape looking, depending on the body composition. Look at the woman of a similar height in these pictures.

lol they all look very skinny to me.

The pic on the left is flabby, of course the one on the right is the best and what they want you to pick as "weight is just a number"

It really is. Go to the top of a mountain and one weighs less than at the beach.

Here's another example for OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 41 and about 10 pounds heavier than I want to be. I lift weights 3 times a week, walk around 15,000+ steps a day every day, and run 3ish miles a few times a week. I am 5'7" and 145 pounds. Realistically I would like to be 135. Ideally I would like to be 125. Is this even possible at my age? Do I just have to starve myself? I don't really drink (maybe 2 glasses of wine a week) and eat healthy (trying to increase protein). I had 3 large babies in my 30s but last kid was born 5 years ago. Should I just resign myself to being overweight?

Use a mirror rather than a scale to determine your ideal body.

5'7" 145 could be fat looking or muscular in shape looking, depending on the body composition. Look at the woman of a similar height in these pictures.

lol they all look very skinny to me.

Because she is in all of them. A woman that tall will hide 20lbs quite easily. Half of that weight difference is also not shown in the pictures as it's a torso shot rather than full body.
The first pic she is "skinny fat" as they say, like a marathon runner look, lacking muscle.
Second pic is still skinny fat, just lower body weight and even less muscle. She did the diet thing and lost some fat, but also lost muscle.
Third pic is where she did a bulk and gained some muscle by eating mostly meat and fat and cutting out carbs and lifting weights everyday.

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Anonymous wrote:^that was my quip, but in all seriousness, what bothers you about 145? Is it the way your close fit? Is it fay accumulation in a certain spot? It may not be excessive related. This may be something you need invasive or non invasive procedures for.

Op - I was consistently 135 before having kids. Then I had 3 kids in 5 years. Have never gotten back down to 135. When I got married I was 125. So it’s sort of depressing to be 145 now.

You’re never getting to 135 without extreme measures. You had 3 kids. Your body’s natural set point being only 10 lbs above your normal pre baby weight is entirely normal. Our bodies change drastically after kids.

Op - yea I think in order to do it I have to do serious running. My sister also has had kids but she is a marathon runner. She averages 40+ miles a week running when she isn’t training. Does 2-3 marathons a year. She is about 135.

Running is only necessary for someone who either
1 - Wants to improve their cardio health
2 - Eats excessive amounts of carbs or alcohol, or other junk foods.
3 - Want to be a competitive runner

Running is for burning off excess food intake. Watch what you eat (limiting carbs and junk) and you won't need cardio much at all if any. Muscle is where you get toned and look good. Which is why I posted the comparison pics of the girl. It's not the weight OP, it's the look.

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Anonymous wrote:^that was my quip, but in all seriousness, what bothers you about 145? Is it the way your close fit? Is it fay accumulation in a certain spot? It may not be excessive related. This may be something you need invasive or non invasive procedures for.

Op - I was consistently 135 before having kids. Then I had 3 kids in 5 years. Have never gotten back down to 135. When I got married I was 125. So it’s sort of depressing to be 145 now.

You’re never getting to 135 without extreme measures. You had 3 kids. Your body’s natural set point being only 10 lbs above your normal pre baby weight is entirely normal. Our bodies change drastically after kids.

This is false. There is no science to suggest pregnancy “resets” your set point. All the science suggests that if you maintain the same diet and level of exercise after pregnancy you can go back to your usual weight. Metabolism doesn’t actually slow down til your 60s!

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Anonymous wrote:I am 41 and about 10 pounds heavier than I want to be. I lift weights 3 times a week, walk around 15,000+ steps a day every day, and run 3ish miles a few times a week. I am 5'7" and 145 pounds. Realistically I would like to be 135. Ideally I would like to be 125. Is this even possible at my age? Do I just have to starve myself? I don't really drink (maybe 2 glasses of wine a week) and eat healthy (trying to increase protein). I had 3 large babies in my 30s but last kid was born 5 years ago. Should I just resign myself to being overweight?

Use a mirror rather than a scale to determine your ideal body.

5'7" 145 could be fat looking or muscular in shape looking, depending on the body composition. Look at the woman of a similar height in these pictures.

lol they all look very skinny to me.

The pic on the left is flabby, of course the one on the right is the best and what they want you to pick as "weight is just a number"

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Anonymous wrote:I am 41 and about 10 pounds heavier than I want to be. I lift weights 3 times a week, walk around 15,000+ steps a day every day, and run 3ish miles a few times a week. I am 5'7" and 145 pounds. Realistically I would like to be 135. Ideally I would like to be 125. Is this even possible at my age? Do I just have to starve myself? I don't really drink (maybe 2 glasses of wine a week) and eat healthy (trying to increase protein). I had 3 large babies in my 30s but last kid was born 5 years ago. Should I just resign myself to being overweight?

Use a mirror rather than a scale to determine your ideal body.

5'7" 145 could be fat looking or muscular in shape looking, depending on the body composition. Look at the woman of a similar height in these pictures.

lol they all look very skinny to me.