Anonymous
04/09/2025 22:09
Subject: Re:Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is red flag behavior. If you marry, I can see him nickel and diming you on how much you spend, insisting you work even if you might want to take time off from your career to be with your children when they’re young, etc. I predict he’ll ask for a pre-nup if you get engaged.
I get the sense he’s from a modest background because people who grew up with money don’t act this way. It’s trashy.
What is your job? I’m curious if he’s only disrespectful about the amount you make or if it’s also what you do.
I’m in a healthcare tech job. ECG monitor tech. I could make more money if I went back to school but I enjoy my job. I make $60k.
He’s a dentist and makes like $300k.
Did you go to college? How long have you been dating? Do you see a future with this guy?
No. I went to 3 month program. Little money down and no debt. I don’t want to put myself through a bunch of debt. I’ve been saving up and have considered going back to school for a better career.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 22:09
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you were so badly insulted and why you are considering ending the relationship. I feel like I am missing something.
A. OP is a troll. I personally believe it is manosphere guy who likes to act like he thinks women behave. see all the MY Husband and My Boyfriend Posts."
B. Not a troll and OP is actually insecure about her income in relation to her boyfriend and the dynamics that sets for the relationship
I’m not a troll or insecure. I just don’t appreciate him making comments about how I can’t afford as much as him.
But that is a fact. That is your reality. You can’t afford as much as him. You have a huge financial gap in income. He can afford a lot more than you can. That has to be taken into account in decision making.
How long have you been dating?
Anonymous
04/09/2025 22:08
Subject: Re:Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is red flag behavior. If you marry, I can see him nickel and diming you on how much you spend, insisting you work even if you might want to take time off from your career to be with your children when they’re young, etc. I predict he’ll ask for a pre-nup if you get engaged.
I get the sense he’s from a modest background because people who grew up with money don’t act this way. It’s trashy.
What is your job? I’m curious if he’s only disrespectful about the amount you make or if it’s also what you do.
I’m in a healthcare tech job. ECG monitor tech. I could make more money if I went back to school but I enjoy my job. I make $60k.
He’s a dentist and makes like $300k.
Did he suggest the 60/40 split for housing? That’s madness. He makes 5 times your income.
Yes. He suggested we split after I told him I didn’t want him to support me.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 22:07
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:[img]Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you were so badly insulted and why you are considering ending the relationship. I feel like I am missing something.
A. OP is a troll. I personally believe it is manosphere guy who likes to act like he thinks women behave. see all the MY Husband and My Boyfriend Posts."
B. Not a troll and OP is actually insecure about her income in relation to her boyfriend and the dynamics that sets for the relationship
I’m not a troll or insecure. I just don’t appreciate him making comments about how I can’t afford as much as him.
You can't You're basically poverty level. And yes you are insecure. And at your salary you should not be paying 40% of anything that you do not have ownership to.
$60k is not poverty level anywhere in America. That’s the average American salary.
It is in Arlington.
No it isn’t.
“ In Arlington, Virginia, the federal poverty level for a single adult is $13,590, and for a family of four, it's $27,750.”
Anonymous
04/09/2025 22:05
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
Splitting costs 50-50? That isn't fair if only his name is on the deed. Your costs OP should be market rent for whatever space you occupy in the house, so let's say, half of an equivalent one or two bedroom apartment
Anonymous
04/09/2025 22:00
Subject: Re:Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is red flag behavior. If you marry, I can see him nickel and diming you on how much you spend, insisting you work even if you might want to take time off from your career to be with your children when they’re young, etc. I predict he’ll ask for a pre-nup if you get engaged.
I get the sense he’s from a modest background because people who grew up with money don’t act this way. It’s trashy.
What is your job? I’m curious if he’s only disrespectful about the amount you make or if it’s also what you do.
I’m in a healthcare tech job. ECG monitor tech. I could make more money if I went back to school but I enjoy my job. I make $60k.
He’s a dentist and makes like $300k.
Did you go to college? How long have you been dating? Do you see a future with this guy?
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:59
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:[img]Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you were so badly insulted and why you are considering ending the relationship. I feel like I am missing something.
A. OP is a troll. I personally believe it is manosphere guy who likes to act like he thinks women behave. see all the MY Husband and My Boyfriend Posts."
B. Not a troll and OP is actually insecure about her income in relation to her boyfriend and the dynamics that sets for the relationship
I’m not a troll or insecure. I just don’t appreciate him making comments about how I can’t afford as much as him.
You can't You're basically poverty level. And yes you are insecure. And at your salary you should not be paying 40% of anything that you do not have ownership to.
$60k is not poverty level anywhere in America. That’s the average American salary.
It is in Arlington.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:59
Subject: Re:Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is red flag behavior. If you marry, I can see him nickel and diming you on how much you spend, insisting you work even if you might want to take time off from your career to be with your children when they’re young, etc. I predict he’ll ask for a pre-nup if you get engaged.
I get the sense he’s from a modest background because people who grew up with money don’t act this way. It’s trashy.
What is your job? I’m curious if he’s only disrespectful about the amount you make or if it’s also what you do.
I’m in a healthcare tech job. ECG monitor tech. I could make more money if I went back to school but I enjoy my job. I make $60k.
He’s a dentist and makes like $300k.
And he’s buying a house and “letting” you pay 40%. No.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:58
Subject: Re:Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is red flag behavior. If you marry, I can see him nickel and diming you on how much you spend, insisting you work even if you might want to take time off from your career to be with your children when they’re young, etc. I predict he’ll ask for a pre-nup if you get engaged.
I get the sense he’s from a modest background because people who grew up with money don’t act this way. It’s trashy.
What is your job? I’m curious if he’s only disrespectful about the amount you make or if it’s also what you do.
I’m in a healthcare tech job. ECG monitor tech. I could make more money if I went back to school but I enjoy my job. I make $60k.
He’s a dentist and makes like $300k.
Did he suggest the 60/40 split for housing? That’s madness. He makes 5 times your income.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:58
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
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$60k is not poverty level anywhere in America. That’s the average American salary.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you were so badly insulted and why you are considering ending the relationship. I feel like I am missing something.
A. OP is a troll. I personally believe it is manosphere guy who likes to act like he thinks women behave. see all the MY Husband and My Boyfriend Posts."
B. Not a troll and OP is actually insecure about her income in relation to her boyfriend and the dynamics that sets for the relationship
I’m not a troll or insecure. I just don’t appreciate him making comments about how I can’t afford as much as him.
You can't You're basically poverty level. And yes you are insecure. And at your salary you should not be paying 40% of anything that you do not have ownership to.
$60k is not poverty level anywhere in America. That’s the average American salary.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:57
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you were so badly insulted and why you are considering ending the relationship. I feel like I am missing something.
A. OP is a troll. I personally believe it is manosphere guy who likes to act like he thinks women behave. see all the MY Husband and My Boyfriend Posts."
B. Not a troll and OP is actually insecure about her income in relation to her boyfriend and the dynamics that sets for the relationship
I’m not a troll or insecure. I just don’t appreciate him making comments about how I can’t afford as much as him.
You can't You're basically poverty level. And yes you are insecure. And at your salary you should not be paying 40% of anything that you do not have ownership to.
Poverty level? You’re seriously dense and out of touch with reality if you think 60k is poverty level. That’s the average American income. It doesn’t stretch as far in DC but that’s a normal salary in most states.
The poverty line in America is under 20k.
Even DC single household income median is 75k. You’re out of touch with reality and most of Americans.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:53
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you were so badly insulted and why you are considering ending the relationship. I feel like I am missing something.
A. OP is a troll. I personally believe it is manosphere guy who likes to act like he thinks women behave. see all the MY Husband and My Boyfriend Posts."
B. Not a troll and OP is actually insecure about her income in relation to her boyfriend and the dynamics that sets for the relationship
I’m not a troll or insecure. I just don’t appreciate him making comments about how I can’t afford as much as him.
You can't You're basically poverty level. And yes you are insecure. And at your salary you should not be paying 40% of anything that you do not have ownership to.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:51
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you were so badly insulted and why you are considering ending the relationship. I feel like I am missing something.
A. OP is a troll. I personally believe it is manosphere guy who likes to act like he thinks women behave. see all the MY Husband and My Boyfriend Posts."
B. Not a troll and OP is actually insecure about her income in relation to her boyfriend and the dynamics that sets for the relationship
I’m not a troll or insecure. I just don’t appreciate him making comments about how I can’t afford as much as him.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:49
Subject: Re:Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:This is red flag behavior. If you marry, I can see him nickel and diming you on how much you spend, insisting you work even if you might want to take time off from your career to be with your children when they’re young, etc. I predict he’ll ask for a pre-nup if you get engaged.
I get the sense he’s from a modest background because people who grew up with money don’t act this way. It’s trashy.
What is your job? I’m curious if he’s only disrespectful about the amount you make or if it’s also what you do.
I’m in a healthcare tech job. ECG monitor tech. I could make more money if I went back to school but I enjoy my job. I make $60k.
He’s a dentist and makes like $300k.
Anonymous
04/09/2025 21:39
Subject: Boyfriend insulted me
Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you were so badly insulted and why you are considering ending the relationship. I feel like I am missing something.
A. OP is a troll. I personally believe it is manosphere guy who likes to act like he thinks women behave. see all the MY Husband and My Boyfriend Posts."
B. Not a troll and OP is actually insecure about her income in relation to her boyfriend and the dynamics that sets for the relationship