Anonymous wrote:It's all weird. And at that age if he is hanging out with other peoples kids, why isn't he busy making his own?

Anonymous wrote:An easy going man who has a good job and gets along well with his boss and likes kids? Break up immediately.

Anonymous wrote:Just think of it from another perspective. If you were the man, and he was the woman, critics would say you don't respect her autonomy and career and are too needy and controlling.

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Anonymous wrote:This morning when my boyfriend and I woke up, he wanted to have sex (I know that is TMI but it's important to my thought process here) and go to Eastern Market for lunch. As soon as we were done he checked his phone and his boss (who he is friends with, in addition to working together) had texted to see if he wanted to go to a bar and watch a game.

Already I am kind of annoyed because I feel like you just made plans with me but you got a better offer so as soon as I had sex with you, you bailed. He's like, we would just have lunch together and spend the day doing stuff independently anyway, what's the big deal? So, I was kind of annoyed but he assured me we would hang out tonight. I wound up getting stuff done around my apt. and talking to a friend on the phone, which admittedly is what I would've done after lunch anyway.

I don't hear from him all afternoon so I text at 6:30ish to see if we're at least going to have dinner together. I hear back over an hour later and he just says "Sorry, reading to Tom's kids." Wtf? I wound up just making dinner myself.

After some, I thought very rude texts from him, I said I would prefer to talk on the phone when he got home. He truly does not comprehend my thought process, which is a) you made plans with me this morning and canceled once you got sex and b) then made conciliatory plans with me that you clearly had no intention of keeping and c) due to both of us having intense jobs, we do not see each other during the week. I'm really annoyed he made plans with me and then I guess was playing babysitter for his boss, who he'll see all day tomorrow and every day this week and meanwhile I won't see him until Friday night.

He is of the opinion that "sometimes it's nice to spend time with guy friends" which I would normally be fine with except for the fact he canceled plans. If day drinking with his boss was the plan all along, I would be fine with it. I do things with friends on weekends too. It's not that he did something with a friend, it's that he canceled, made new plans, and then couldn't follow through on those either.

Am I massively overreacting?

You are overreacting. You aren't married nor do you live together so this controlling behavior is uncalled for.

Yup totally controlling to expect that a man keeps the plans he made with OP. GTFOH Peter Pan

Anonymous wrote:Lmao. Op is upset that her fornicator is not treating her with respect. This is proof that society has lost its mind now that fornication is being treated as a legitimate relationship.

Anonymous wrote:It's all weird. And at that age if he is hanging out with other peoples kids, why isn't he busy making his own?

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Anonymous wrote:This morning when my boyfriend and I woke up, he wanted to have sex (I know that is TMI but it's important to my thought process here) and go to Eastern Market for lunch. As soon as we were done he checked his phone and his boss (who he is friends with, in addition to working together) had texted to see if he wanted to go to a bar and watch a game.

Already I am kind of annoyed because I feel like you just made plans with me but you got a better offer so as soon as I had sex with you, you bailed. He's like, we would just have lunch together and spend the day doing stuff independently anyway, what's the big deal? So, I was kind of annoyed but he assured me we would hang out tonight. I wound up getting stuff done around my apt. and talking to a friend on the phone, which admittedly is what I would've done after lunch anyway.

I don't hear from him all afternoon so I text at 6:30ish to see if we're at least going to have dinner together. I hear back over an hour later and he just says "Sorry, reading to Tom's kids." Wtf? I wound up just making dinner myself.

After some, I thought very rude texts from him, I said I would prefer to talk on the phone when he got home. He truly does not comprehend my thought process, which is a) you made plans with me this morning and canceled once you got sex and b) then made conciliatory plans with me that you clearly had no intention of keeping and c) due to both of us having intense jobs, we do not see each other during the week. I'm really annoyed he made plans with me and then I guess was playing babysitter for his boss, who he'll see all day tomorrow and every day this week and meanwhile I won't see him until Friday night.

He is of the opinion that "sometimes it's nice to spend time with guy friends" which I would normally be fine with except for the fact he canceled plans. If day drinking with his boss was the plan all along, I would be fine with it. I do things with friends on weekends too. It's not that he did something with a friend, it's that he canceled, made new plans, and then couldn't follow through on those either.

Am I massively overreacting?

You are overreacting. You aren't married nor do you live together so this controlling behavior is uncalled for.

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Anonymous wrote:I could see if he spends all weekend every weekend with you that it'd be fine to go do something with his guy friends. And it wouldn't really bother me that we had sex first. HOWEVER the:

Reading to the kids and bailing on dinner (which TBH I don't believe)
Ignoring your texts
The rude texts
What it sounds like is zero regard for your feelings in all this

At best, guy sounds like a jerk. At worst guy sounds like a jerk and a cheater.

OP here and I am more mad about the sex thing because it was like, literally as soon as we were done he was like "Oh, my boss texted and wants to see if I wanted to go drink and watch the game!" So, great, you got the one part of the plans that your boss couldn't provide and then as soon as you got a better offer for company, you took that. Not even a "Hey, do you mind if I go? I know we just made plans but it would be good to see him out of the office."

To be clear, I do not think there was any cheating. Didn't even cross my mind. I think he actually did read to the kids and that's what pisses me off. Like, oh, she won't mind, it's 8:00 and I promised we'd hang out tonight, but what's a little story to my boss's kids.