Anonymous
Post 04/06/2025 09:19     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Life changing - you all should get one now.


Great.
Hire, train, and manage the cleaning lady.

Tidy up and organize things before she comes each time too, so she can actually scrub, dust or clean surfaces areas and floors.


You're just trying to convince yourself not to do it for some reason.

Here's how the hiring process went.

Me to neighbor who has cleaner: You like your cleaner?
Them: Yes, here's their number.
Me: thanks

Me (texting cleaner): can you clean my house?
Cleaner: Yes, be there on Tuesday
Me: thanks

Here's how the training process went:

Me: So, yeah, the whole first floor, the basement playroom, upstairs but not the master bedroom.
Cleaner: Got it.

Here's how the managing goes:

Me: So here's a key, I'll venmo you when you're done.
Cleaner: Okay!

Here's how the decluttering process goes:

Me: Sorry we didnt' pick up more, is this okay?
Cleaner: this is great!

That's it. That's all. And frankly, the amount of hassle it would have to entail to be worse than the stress of spending my weeks irritated because me and the wife are too busy to clean up enough and my weekends feeling swamped because we can never catch up... would have to be really high.

Eh. I don’t think it’s quite that easy. Following that script makes me think your wife probably does it.
Finding someone that’s really good is hard. We’ve had broken things and cleaners who rush through things. It takes a ton of prep to get the house ready (which is also one of the upsides is that it gets done). My cleaners don’t do the dishes, clean sheets needed to be layed out. I timed myself once and spent about four hours just getting the house in order (big family) for the cleaners.
Having cleaners is helpful but it’s certainly not perfect.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2025 08:32     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
We have been married 23 years and have had a weekly cleaning service our entire marriage- even before we had the kids. It’s money very well spent.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2025 08:19     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:Check back after two months when you count the cobwebs and see cut corners. Or broken items.

I’ve had my cleaning lady for about 10 years, no broken objects and no regrets.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2025 07:52     Subject: Re:Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I'll just get right on that with my zero dollar a year job since I got RIF'd. Thanks for the life advice.


You can clean this is for people that are 2 employed households
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2025 07:46     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:Check back after two months when you count the cobwebs and see cut corners. Or broken items.


So far none. But I paid 600 for “deep clean” including baseboards and windows.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 10:38     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
If I piled up junk and then sprayed $100 of someone else’s cleaning products all around a house for two hours it’d look or at least smell clean! And less scrubbing then.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 10:26     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:No thanks I don't want the rag that's used on my toilet to clean my counter tops!


I wouldn't hire that person either. Thankfully, we have good cleaners.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 10:25     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:A biweekly cleaning woman was a pre-requisite of moving in with my now DH. I swear it has solved and prevented so many arguments and atabed off resentment.


What home could possibly need to be cleaned twice a week?
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 10:14     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
No thanks I don't want the rag that's used on my toilet to clean my counter tops!
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 10:11     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:The main benefit we get from the housecleaner is being forced to tidy up before she comes. But the actual cleaning is also a big benefit.


Yes, things admittedly get a little messy in the 2 weeks between cleanings. But, we all tidy up the night before. And then cleaners clean. House looks great for a week, ok for the rest of the time. But the night before cleaning keeps us in check, and it's such a nice feeling after they clean. It never gets fully out of control anymore.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 09:55     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:Life changing - you all should get one now.


Finally.
Another person to clean up after me.
Hallelujah.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 09:36     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
We need a cleaning lady that does blow through $50 of our supplies each time they come. I think they’re just dumping stuff everywhere!

What’s a good one that brings their own supplies and cleaning fluids? I don’t have time to keep ordering them stuff everywhere month plus it doesn’t take that much product to clean a kitchen!
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 09:18     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes if my family could pick up their crap from surfaces, I’d get one too.


My wife’s excuse for years was that the house was too cluttered and we just needed to declutter it and we could

A)get ahead of the mess
B) talk about a cleaning person

But guess what? They decluttered for us. And magically all our seasonal allergies went away because they were actually dust allergies.


Cool, yes they stack up your mess and move it from area to area to clean under it.

By the end of the month you’ll have several stacks of stuff you should process. Cool.


I don’t even open or read the mail. Can the cleaning lady process that shit? I don’t.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 09:17     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady.

Life changing - you all should get one now.


Yes wives are life changing. And make and execute life changing decisions all by themselves, all the time.

What do you bring to the table OP?
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 09:10     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Life changing - you all should get one now.


Great.
Hire, train, and manage the cleaning lady.

Tidy up and organize things before she comes each time too, so she can actually scrub, dust or clean surfaces areas and floors.


You're just trying to convince yourself not to do it for some reason.

Here's how the hiring process went.

Me to neighbor who has cleaner: You like your cleaner?
Them: Yes, here's their number.
Me: thanks

Me (texting cleaner): can you clean my house?
Cleaner: Yes, be there on Tuesday
Me: thanks

Here's how the training process went:

Me: So, yeah, the whole first floor, the basement playroom, upstairs but not the master bedroom.
Cleaner: Got it.

Here's how the managing goes:

Me: So here's a key, I'll venmo you when you're done.
Cleaner: Okay!

Here's how the decluttering process goes:

Me: Sorry we didnt' pick up more, is this okay?
Cleaner: this is great!

That's it. That's all. And frankly, the amount of hassle it would have to entail to be worse than the stress of spending my weeks irritated because me and the wife are too busy to clean up enough and my weekends feeling swamped because we can never catch up... would have to be really high.

That is how is works for most, meaning for people who are not overcontrolling OCD monsters who need to watch every wipe of dust done.
It forces me to clear up the crap, which is a good thing. As much as I try, I can never get the stove top as clean as they do. What are they using, does anyone know?