Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 09:26     Subject: Re:Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
For your own safety, you really should move to a new home.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 09:08     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
Gosh I feel like I deserve 1500 for reading this stupid thread.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 08:57     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
I would interpret it as being frustrated with the situation or himself…not necessarily that he intended to harm me, but that he was done dealing with my floor.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 08:57     Subject: Re:Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
Anonymous wrote:OP: Unfortunately, you hired the wrong person for the job. You should have asked for references.

About 25 years ago, I hired a competent individual to wall paper a small bathroom. He was fine until given A beer that he requested when the job was almost complete. One beer affected him in an unexpected way. Completely lost it & ruined the wall paper. I was out about $800 or $900 (25 years ago) for a three hour job.

Turns out that the man was an alcoholic. Any alcohol completely changed him. Although the money was meaningful to us, I ate the loss. Asked him to leave.

Life sometimes is unfair. Even though $1,500 is a decent amount of money, you just need to move on.

Sorry that this happened to you, but any remedy against this individual is likely to cost you more than an additional $1,500.

Forgive & forget.


The fact that this man asked for alcohol while on the job wasn’t a red flag to you? And you gave it to him?
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 08:47     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
I would treat it as a threat, but not an immanent threat of bodily harm. Snapping might include just screaming his head off at you.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 07:39     Subject: Re:Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
First, if you perceive it as threatening then it IS threatening. Trust yourself.

Second, it’s so childish to say “I’m going to snap” as though it’s somehow someone else’s fault. This individual needs to grope up and realize THEY can choose how they cope with and express their frustrations. It’s internal, not external. Sounds like they need Anger Management 101.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 07:37     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
No, you’re just weirdly sensitive.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 07:31     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You people scoffing at the idea op should be worried need to buff up your self preservation instincts.

Sure, it’s highly likely he’s meaning he will snap and verbally berate her or something and not try to intimidate her with the specter of physical violence. On the other hand that is also the type of thing someone who was trying to evoke fear of violence would say. And it’s incredible unprofessional and unhinged, obviously.


No, actually somebody prone to violence usually has no problem being clear with their threats. Hedging your own verbal outburst is a form of self control that violent people do not have.


This is absurd-of course violent people sometime pop off verbally first! And this was over text-he lashed out in response to her w the means immediately available to him.

Chances are high it wouldn’t escalate to violence but if you genuinely take unhinged and wildly unprofessional texts are a sign someone ISN’T potentially hot headed and potentially violent I don’t know what to tell you. Stay safe?
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 07:22     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
What do the wood floors have to do with anything?
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 06:49     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
As far as the Police are concerned it’s not a direct threat. There is no specific threat of causing harm.
However, if they messed up they should fix it. I would tell them they have X days to fix it or you will take them to court.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 06:46     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
OP, find someone else to repair the floor or get them redone with a licensed company. Maybe even call back one of the other quotes and explain the situation and see how they would have done the floor.

I would either never contact him again.

Or write one final text showing that you are not intimidated. Something along the lines of “I can see you are frustrated. Moving forward I’ll be working with a different contractor. This finalizes our business.” And then leave a public feedback for other people because he was incredibly unprofessional. He could’ve thought that on his end, even said it to himself, but he didn’t need to text it.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2025 22:39     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait he put the tile on top of the wood, or ripped the wood out first?

Either way he sounds terrible and I’d find someone who knows what they are doing. If he knew how to fix it he would probably have done so.

He put wood board and then hardi board/cement board on the floors and then put tile on it. My house is 100 years old.


Is that the normal way to do it?

From my readings of contractor websites it’s okay to do this if you have a cement floor and no crawl space. I have a 1920 sears craftsman home with a huge crawl space. No this was not the proper way to do this.


Says who? What makes you know better than your licensed contractor??


Did OP say he was licensed?

I would cut my losses on this one OP and never hire anyone again without several trusted reviews from people you actually know.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2025 22:06     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
Anonymous wrote:You people scoffing at the idea op should be worried need to buff up your self preservation instincts.

Sure, it’s highly likely he’s meaning he will snap and verbally berate her or something and not try to intimidate her with the specter of physical violence. On the other hand that is also the type of thing someone who was trying to evoke fear of violence would say. And it’s incredible unprofessional and unhinged, obviously.


No, actually somebody prone to violence usually has no problem being clear with their threats. Hedging your own verbal outburst is a form of self control that violent people do not have.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2025 21:35     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait he put the tile on top of the wood, or ripped the wood out first?

Either way he sounds terrible and I’d find someone who knows what they are doing. If he knew how to fix it he would probably have done so.

He put wood board and then hardi board/cement board on the floors and then put tile on it. My house is 100 years old.


Is that the normal way to do it?

From my readings of contractor websites it’s okay to do this if you have a cement floor and no crawl space. I have a 1920 sears craftsman home with a huge crawl space. No this was not the proper way to do this.


Says who? What makes you know better than your licensed contractor??

How about the cracked tiles in my kitchen? Clearly they did a poor job.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2025 21:30     Subject: Would you interpret “I’m going to snap” as a physical threat?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait he put the tile on top of the wood, or ripped the wood out first?

Either way he sounds terrible and I’d find someone who knows what they are doing. If he knew how to fix it he would probably have done so.

He put wood board and then hardi board/cement board on the floors and then put tile on it. My house is 100 years old.


Is that the normal way to do it?

From my readings of contractor websites it’s okay to do this if you have a cement floor and no crawl space. I have a 1920 sears craftsman home with a huge crawl space. No this was not the proper way to do this.


Says who? What makes you know better than your licensed contractor??