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Anonymous wrote:What if the inviter is in a different state and offers the invitee to visit them? Who pays for avia tickets?

I’m definitely pretty traditional but I hope in this case that the inviter is the man, and that he pays for the woman’s expenses to visit him, assuming he already visited her first at least once.

If you’re the woman and you’re inviting the man to visit you ( instead of him jumping on an airplane to go see you), this relationship is starting off on the wrong foot.

This makes no sense. How does he hop on a plane to visit without an invitation?

Anonymous wrote:If it's a vacation, split. If it's accompanying your bf/gf to like, a family wedding that you wouldn't otherwise go to, they should pay.

Totally this. I did both when dating. Vacation, we split on accommodations but I used points to fly us there (I was in a job racking up airline miles and usually took care of our airfare). When it came to a long-distance wedding I wouldn't go to otherwise (didn't even know the couple) he paid because it was something he wanted me there for, for him, not the couple getting married.

Anonymous wrote:Man pays for big expenses. Woman pays for souvenirs, gas station snacks, and little stuff like that.

Lots of men won't like this, which is fine, it weeds out the ones who aren't that into me/are dusties.

Oh and if it's a woman, it's split down the middle

Man pays for big expenses. Woman pays for souvenirs, gas station snacks, and little stuff like that.

Lots of men won't like this, which is fine, it weeds out the ones who aren't that into me/are dusties.

Anonymous wrote:We don’t split. He pays period. If I’m expected to pay for anything he is immediately disqualified and will forever be “just a friend”

What is it that he should expect you to do in return and if you don’t then you should be disqualified as a girlfriend?

We don’t split. He pays period. If I’m expected to pay for anything he is immediately disqualified and will forever be “just a friend”

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Anonymous wrote:If you live in different cities and both go back and forth, then easiest to just pay your own way. If you are dating you need to see each other. I don't really consider it inviting someone, it is part of the process.

If it is always one person travelling for whatever reason, then the expenses should be shared.

What if one of the parties is much higher paid ? (like, 100 times)

If somebody is that highly compensated but not willing to pay your share, they're just not that into you.

And if you mooch, you're just not that into them but their money.

Not necessarily. Maybe you can't afford a long-distance relationship and are into them, but the costs are unmanageable. If the high earner wants to make it work because they have the resources, they will. Think of a doctor in residency dating a consultant or a law school student dating someone working in finance.