Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 09:55     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Anonymous wrote:Also I have recently learned that i am autistic at a low level (former Asperger). She constantly tells me that i am not normal. I guess becUse of my neurodiversity.


If you are also anxious and/or depressed, you can get medication for that. Might help A LOT
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 09:53     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Also I have recently learned that i am autistic at a low level (former Asperger). She constantly tells me that i am not normal. I guess becUse of my neurodiversity.


Are you the Op? If so, read up on couples where one is neurodivergent and the other is not, and how to communicate. If you are ASD, you see the relationship is transactional. This could be offputting to someone who is not this way. You can learn to meet in the middle though (key word being learn).

Also, initiate regular sex. Even if she rejects you at first. Be romantic. This is something that can be learned, even if it is not natural to you. It will go along way.


Why do you think this is transactional for me?
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 09:52     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Also I have recently learned that i am autistic at a low level (former Asperger). She constantly tells me that i am not normal. I guess becUse of my neurodiversity.

OP, is this you? If this is you, I'm glad she is fighting back. I took ASD abuse for years.


Why you implying that I am abusive?
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 09:44     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Anonymous wrote:Also I have recently learned that i am autistic at a low level (former Asperger). She constantly tells me that i am not normal. I guess becUse of my neurodiversity.


Are you the Op? If so, read up on couples where one is neurodivergent and the other is not, and how to communicate. If you are ASD, you see the relationship is transactional. This could be offputting to someone who is not this way. You can learn to meet in the middle though (key word being learn).

Also, initiate regular sex. Even if she rejects you at first. Be romantic. This is something that can be learned, even if it is not natural to you. It will go along way.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 20:54     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Anonymous wrote:Also I have recently learned that i am autistic at a low level (former Asperger). She constantly tells me that i am not normal. I guess becUse of my neurodiversity.

OP, is this you? If this is you, I'm glad she is fighting back. I took ASD abuse for years.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 20:47     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Not normal at all. Things should be better at 14 years - youngest kid should be at least in kindergarten.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 20:18     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Anonymous wrote:Is this normal on 14+ years marriage ?

Considering divorce but the ripple effect on household budget and private school will be a disaster.

Difficult to find inspiration to want to save the marriage.

Here's your inspiration: you will do irreparable harm to your kids if you divorce. You will end up in the same place with a new partner if you divorce. You will destroy your future financial health, family holidays, etc etc.

Read all the relationship books, get into solo therapy, and try for the love of god.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 19:33     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Get yourself an AP
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 19:09     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Op, how you old you and your partner are?
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 18:19     Subject: Daily fights and no sex…
Anonymous wrote:Why would you expect sex if you can’t even go a day without fighting?


Makeup s#x ?