In other words everyone has their own individual bodies that are similar but also different. Not exactly news.

At 14 my DD was 5'-9" and 145. She played/practiced soccer probably 5x a week.

She's now 16 and 5'-10" and about 150-155. Still playing soccer.

Gets plenty of sleep. Usually in bed by 10 and school doesn't start until 9AM.

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Anonymous wrote:5'6" 118. Active, does track. Is your DD active?

volleyball twice a week but she barely breaks a sweat. she walks the dog 30 min the other days of the week. PE a few times a week at middle school.
-OP

This is fine. The question is what does she eat?

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Anonymous wrote:5'5 and 140 pounds could be perfectly right for her/her body. what is she unhappy about? knowing that could help us provide some helpful direction?

She says her stomach is too big (not true) but she is taller, heavier, and generally looks older than ALL her peers, so I get why she is feeling this way. honestly, most people assume she is 16 and driving herself places when they first meet her.
-OP

DP. Considering the title of this thread you started, I can see how she’s internalized a need to compare herself to others. Focus on building up her confidence and accepting/embracing the way she is, and stop comparing numbers to other kids, and more importantly, to yourself.

Anonymous wrote:5'5 and 140 pounds could be perfectly right for her/her body. what is she unhappy about? knowing that could help us provide some helpful direction?

She says her stomach is too big (not true) but she is taller, heavier, and generally looks older than ALL her peers, so I get why she is feeling this way. honestly, most people assume she is 16 and driving herself places when they first meet her.
-OP

5'5 and 140 pounds could be perfectly right for her/her body. what is she unhappy about? knowing that could help us provide some helpful direction?

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Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

Cite?

Some magazine from 1953.

Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

Cite?

Mine weighs about 130. 5’3”
She’s an athlete. So all muscle, works out. Not skinny, not chubby either .

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Anonymous wrote:5'6" 118. Active, does track. Is your DD active?

volleyball twice a week but she barely breaks a sweat. she walks the dog 30 min the other days of the week. PE a few times a week at middle school.
-OP

I would encourage more activity. Not to give her a complex about her body but sounds like she's not moving enough.

I agree completely. But how do I encourage more activity WITHOUT giving her a complex? that's my struggle. she always says she's so tired. MS starts so early and she doesn't get enough sleep, school is draining, I get it. I hate to be the pestering mom especially when I'm smaller/lighter than her.
-OP

Make sure she gets enough sleep. Electronics away no later than 10pm. Nutritious food and a multi-vitamin. Limited junk food availability (occasional treat of course, but not staple in diet). Keep fresh food and veggies on hand for snacking. She should not be that tired. My middle schooler sometimes comes home tired, but more often is full of energy when she comes home. If you can, take a brisk walk with her after dinner and chat about her day. Do more active things as a family on the weekends. More activity will make her feel better, and give her a stronger body and more energy. Focus on that part, not weight.

If she's in FCPS middle school, some kids do have to wake up crazy early for the bus. Like 5:45 am. They are all exhausted by Thurs/Fri.

Then she should be in bed by 9pm.

She is! In bed at 8:30 reading until 9:30. Alarm goes off at 5:45am. She is genuinely tired. volleyball twice a week and walking the other days isn't enough. her heart rate needs to be getting higher and I don't know how to make her do that.
-OP

I hate these threads. And if you’re responding about your 14 year old boy, no need.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

I think it's more like 10 lbs for each additional inch. For instance I am 5'3 and 115 would be underweight from a BMI standpoint, 5'3 130 is right in the middle of "normal".

Unfortunately I have been more like 10 lbs for each additional decade since high school, lol.

I don’t think that’s underweight. Unless you have a large frame. I know grown women are going to weigh more than teen girls but my daughters are 5-4 and 5-5 and are 110-118 range depending. My 14 yo is slim looking but in a very average unremarkable way. My 17 yo is 108-110 and might hover at lower BMI (she always has though, I swear her bones are hollow) but my 14 yo was right at 50th percentile for height and weight. I could see an adult being her exact stats and having her body and can’t imagine that being underweight.

Also I’m 5’8 and when I was in my 20s I was 135 and that was great for me. I am also fine at 150-160, and wish I was any of these anymore lol so feel your pain.

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Anonymous wrote:5'6" 118. Active, does track. Is your DD active?

volleyball twice a week but she barely breaks a sweat. she walks the dog 30 min the other days of the week. PE a few times a week at middle school.
-OP

I would encourage more activity. Not to give her a complex about her body but sounds like she's not moving enough.

I agree completely. But how do I encourage more activity WITHOUT giving her a complex? that's my struggle. she always says she's so tired. MS starts so early and she doesn't get enough sleep, school is draining, I get it. I hate to be the pestering mom especially when I'm smaller/lighter than her.
-OP

Make sure she gets enough sleep. Electronics away no later than 10pm. Nutritious food and a multi-vitamin. Limited junk food availability (occasional treat of course, but not staple in diet). Keep fresh food and veggies on hand for snacking. She should not be that tired. My middle schooler sometimes comes home tired, but more often is full of energy when she comes home. If you can, take a brisk walk with her after dinner and chat about her day. Do more active things as a family on the weekends. More activity will make her feel better, and give her a stronger body and more energy. Focus on that part, not weight.

If she's in FCPS middle school, some kids do have to wake up crazy early for the bus. Like 5:45 am. They are all exhausted by Thurs/Fri.

Then she should be in bed by 9pm.

She’s 115lb and almost 5’5” she just got her period (late at 14!) but looks fully developed. Her sister was 105 at that age but maybe a little shorter (but got her period younger). Both of my daughters were lucky to get their dad’s side of genes as the women are just overall slim with hourglass figures and if they carry any extra weight it’s in their legs/butt/hips. So I guess my question at her weight is what her body shape looks like. Thick middle is more concerning. I always weighed more at every stage than my girls but I’m fairly tall.

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Anonymous wrote:5'6" 118. Active, does track. Is your DD active?

volleyball twice a week but she barely breaks a sweat. she walks the dog 30 min the other days of the week. PE a few times a week at middle school.
-OP

I would encourage more activity. Not to give her a complex about her body but sounds like she's not moving enough.

I agree completely. But how do I encourage more activity WITHOUT giving her a complex? that's my struggle. she always says she's so tired. MS starts so early and she doesn't get enough sleep, school is draining, I get it. I hate to be the pestering mom especially when I'm smaller/lighter than her.
-OP

Make sure she gets enough sleep. Electronics away no later than 10pm. Nutritious food and a multi-vitamin. Limited junk food availability (occasional treat of course, but not staple in diet). Keep fresh food and veggies on hand for snacking. She should not be that tired. My middle schooler sometimes comes home tired, but more often is full of energy when she comes home. If you can, take a brisk walk with her after dinner and chat about her day. Do more active things as a family on the weekends. More activity will make her feel better, and give her a stronger body and more energy. Focus on that part, not weight.

If she's in FCPS middle school, some kids do have to wake up crazy early for the bus. Like 5:45 am. They are all exhausted by Thurs/Fri.