Anonymous wrote:We have always had a rule that internet use is for the main floor on the family laptop. Our oldest is only 14, so I'm sure that will change at some point in HS. Her phone still doesn't have a web browser. Only limited sites are on her school--issued ipad (no youtube, for ex). She is kind of a luddite though - our 12 year old is chomping at the bit to get a phone and I imagine will try to get around any restrictions / blocked sites she can (hence no phone yet!)

Op here, same here, only computers and phone on main floor and a shared family laptop. Found out you can get YouTube through Google classroom even if YouTube is blocked. Have not blocked it at the router because the white list/black list y didn't really work well when I last tried through Verizon but maybe it's improved in the last few years.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has severe ADHD and autism, and high school was the worse in terms of screen addiction. Our system was to have him do homework at the dining room table, where any one of us could walk past and glance at his screen. He had to be called out a million times a day.

Now he’s in college and mostly studying things that interest him. Of course his screen addiction gets in the way of everything else, like socializing and exercising… but he’s keeping it together. Frankly it’s a relief not to have to police him every day!

Ding!Ding!Ding! We have a poster who is willing to PARENT!

NP here. Am I the only one who does not view this as a success story? Perhaps because I am dealing with similar issues with my son -- but even though the PP's son is keeping it together for classes at college, he still has a screen addiction that is getting in the way of his life. I do not think success is working a 40-hour work week and then staring at a screen for the rest of your free time. No exercise, no connecting with other people? It just makes me sad and worried that this will be my son's life too.

+1 I think all this social media stuff is terrible for our teens... especially our introverted teens.

Social media is ruining this generation.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has severe ADHD and autism, and high school was the worse in terms of screen addiction. Our system was to have him do homework at the dining room table, where any one of us could walk past and glance at his screen. He had to be called out a million times a day.

Now he’s in college and mostly studying things that interest him. Of course his screen addiction gets in the way of everything else, like socializing and exercising… but he’s keeping it together. Frankly it’s a relief not to have to police him every day!

Ding!Ding!Ding! We have a poster who is willing to PARENT!

NP here. Am I the only one who does not view this as a success story? Perhaps because I am dealing with similar issues with my son -- but even though the PP's son is keeping it together for classes at college, he still has a screen addiction that is getting in the way of his life. I do not think success is working a 40-hour work week and then staring at a screen for the rest of your free time. No exercise, no connecting with other people? It just makes me sad and worried that this will be my son's life too.

I'm the poster you're discussing.

There is no unmitigated success when it comes to my son: his ADHD will never go away; his autism cannot be cured; he will probably always be addicted to screens to some degree. What matters to me is that he does not close doors for himself too early. He successfully graduated from high school, and he graduate from college, and perhaps even get a graduate degree. He's asocial. It's really bad for his networking and friendship building. But he was asocial even before his school switched to screens! Same for exercise. He hates it, and has always hated it.

As parents, we did everything we could when he was little : made sure he was always signed up for sports, got him tutors, became 24/7 executive coaches, supervised his screentime. Now he doesn't live with us, except on breaks. So it's up to him to exercise, eat right, live a healthy lifestyle, join clubs or apply for internships - which we all nag him about!!!

There is no win-win. Just several options for win-lose. You want to avoid the lose-lose. That's all.

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Anonymous wrote:My son has severe ADHD and autism, and high school was the worse in terms of screen addiction. Our system was to have him do homework at the dining room table, where any one of us could walk past and glance at his screen. He had to be called out a million times a day.

Now he’s in college and mostly studying things that interest him. Of course his screen addiction gets in the way of everything else, like socializing and exercising… but he’s keeping it together. Frankly it’s a relief not to have to police him every day!

Ding!Ding!Ding! We have a poster who is willing to PARENT!

NP here. Am I the only one who does not view this as a success story? Perhaps because I am dealing with similar issues with my son -- but even though the PP's son is keeping it together for classes at college, he still has a screen addiction that is getting in the way of his life. I do not think success is working a 40-hour work week and then staring at a screen for the rest of your free time. No exercise, no connecting with other people? It just makes me sad and worried that this will be my son's life too.

+1 I think all this social media stuff is terrible for our teens... especially our introverted teens.

Anonymous wrote:You can block YouTube at the router.

Make sure the proxies are blocked too - unblockyoutube.video, youtubeunblocked.live, etc. The game of cat and mouse never ends.

My dd uses YouTube for Math. Some great Math teachers on there.

You can block YouTube at the router.