Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 09:09     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
How do you be mean at a tryout? Earnest question. Only thing i can think of is getting hard passes that are tough to control in a drill or getting tackled hard in the scrimmage or being iced out on a wing with no service. BUt I get a sense that is not what we're talking about?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 09:05     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:that's how it is at any club, if a girl stands out or is a "known" player they will fit in, when they make the team!


No. It is not. As a parent that has been to almost every club ID over the years, it is not. Most club girls know the other girls from past club affiliations, ODP, etc. They welcome their acquaintances/friends and are friendly at the IDs. This is not the case at ARL. The girls are sh!ts and the parents that think this is normal are creating this environment. Understand this is a bad culture that everyone else sees and judges you for. The girls may not be to blame, they may not know better, this is a problem with the ARL parents or coaches who encourage it or don’t do anything about it. But do understand, everyone sees the kids are uncharacteristically awful and only you think it is normal. We judge you, your kids, and the coaches. Stop normalizing this mean girl environment. It is not normal, it is not usual at other clubs, it is just pathetic. Anyone that excuses this behavior as normal needs to get out of the ARL bubble or look in the mirror. It is not typical teen behavior seen at other clubs. Only you think that.


+1 The mean girl attitude is strong at Arlington. Definitely not that way at other club tryouts.


Not sure what team this is. My kid attended ARL tryouts and while the girls weren't chirpy to my DD, they weren't being "mean". They mostly kinda ignored each other and not talking to all the new kids which to be expected I guess. I have never seen any clubs whose team are so happy to welcome kids at the tryouts really. Again, there's a difference between the ARL kids ignoring those that trying out vs them being mean toward those kids. If there was an intentional mean girls toward your kid, I would just email them and let them know.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 08:54     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are we talking about an entire club or a team?


I’m guessing both 🤭


Lmao!!!
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 08:47     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:Are we talking about an entire club or a team?


I’m guessing both 🤭
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 08:36     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Are we talking about an entire club or a team?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 08:28     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:Also, word is starting to leak out about YOUR kids that haven’t made your team. Your kids are trying out at other clubs. After years of your kids only accepting kids that are “known players” or “standouts” and treating those, and only those, kids decently when they make the team, let’s hope they are treated better at their tryouts. Have fun with that. For all of you that don’t think your DC is in this position, look at the success of the older ARL teams, they will be soon. The kids are catching up to yours with size and speed. Our kids are coming for your kids. After years of you normalizing your kids being mean, expect the same when yours get bumped. None of us will be there trying to help yours when you stood idly by and thought your DC’s behavior was normal. We look forward to seeing your DC at IDs.


You didn't feel even SLIGHTLY ridiculous typing this all out? Not even a little bit?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 08:00     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:Also, word is starting to leak out about YOUR kids that haven’t made your team. Your kids are trying out at other clubs. After years of your kids only accepting kids that are “known players” or “standouts” and treating those, and only those, kids decently when they make the team, let’s hope they are treated better at their tryouts. Have fun with that. For all of you that don’t think your DC is in this position, look at the success of the older ARL teams, they will be soon. The kids are catching up to yours with size and speed. Our kids are coming for your kids. After years of you normalizing your kids being mean, expect the same when yours get bumped. None of us will be there trying to help yours when you stood idly by and thought your DC’s behavior was normal. We look forward to seeing your DC at IDs.


Not to invalidate your opinion, I'm sure there are truths there.

As a parent that has been through this year after year, can't put too much energy into what is going on outside of your control. Just have to focus on what you can, and that is getting your DC into the best opportunity available to them for the level they're at. Thankfully there are a LOT of options now.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 07:12     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:Also, word is starting to leak out about YOUR kids that haven’t made your team. Your kids are trying out at other clubs. After years of your kids only accepting kids that are “known players” or “standouts” and treating those, and only those, kids decently when they make the team, let’s hope they are treated better at their tryouts. Have fun with that. For all of you that don’t think your DC is in this position, look at the success of the older ARL teams, they will be soon. The kids are catching up to yours with size and speed. Our kids are coming for your kids. After years of you normalizing your kids being mean, expect the same when yours get bumped. None of us will be there trying to help yours when you stood idly by and thought your DC’s behavior was normal. We look forward to seeing your DC at IDs.
whut?!? Lol who hurt you. Point them out
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 07:06     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
They hate us cuz they ain’t us.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 06:27     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:that's how it is at any club, if a girl stands out or is a "known" player they will fit in, when they make the team!


No. It is not. As a parent that has been to almost every club ID over the years, it is not. Most club girls know the other girls from past club affiliations, ODP, etc. They welcome their acquaintances/friends and are friendly at the IDs. This is not the case at ARL. The girls are sh!ts and the parents that think this is normal are creating this environment. Understand this is a bad culture that everyone else sees and judges you for. The girls may not be to blame, they may not know better, this is a problem with the ARL parents or coaches who encourage it or don’t do anything about it. But do understand, everyone sees the kids are uncharacteristically awful and only you think it is normal. We judge you, your kids, and the coaches. Stop normalizing this mean girl environment. It is not normal, it is not usual at other clubs, it is just pathetic. Anyone that excuses this behavior as normal needs to get out of the ARL bubble or look in the mirror. It is not typical teen behavior seen at other clubs. Only you think that.


+1 The mean girl attitude is strong at Arlington. Definitely not that way at other club tryouts.


Agreed.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 06:26     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:that's how it is at any club, if a girl stands out or is a "known" player they will fit in, when they make the team!


No. It is not. As a parent that has been to almost every club ID over the years, it is not. Most club girls know the other girls from past club affiliations, ODP, etc. They welcome their acquaintances/friends and are friendly at the IDs. This is not the case at ARL. The girls are sh!ts and the parents that think this is normal are creating this environment. Understand this is a bad culture that everyone else sees and judges you for. The girls may not be to blame, they may not know better, this is a problem with the ARL parents or coaches who encourage it or don’t do anything about it. But do understand, everyone sees the kids are uncharacteristically awful and only you think it is normal. We judge you, your kids, and the coaches. Stop normalizing this mean girl environment. It is not normal, it is not usual at other clubs, it is just pathetic. Anyone that excuses this behavior as normal needs to get out of the ARL bubble or look in the mirror. It is not typical teen behavior seen at other clubs. Only you think that.


X10
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 06:18     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:that's how it is at any club, if a girl stands out or is a "known" player they will fit in, when they make the team!


No. It is not. As a parent that has been to almost every club ID over the years, it is not. Most club girls know the other girls from past club affiliations, ODP, etc. They welcome their acquaintances/friends and are friendly at the IDs. This is not the case at ARL. The girls are sh!ts and the parents that think this is normal are creating this environment. Understand this is a bad culture that everyone else sees and judges you for. The girls may not be to blame, they may not know better, this is a problem with the ARL parents or coaches who encourage it or don’t do anything about it. But do understand, everyone sees the kids are uncharacteristically awful and only you think it is normal. We judge you, your kids, and the coaches. Stop normalizing this mean girl environment. It is not normal, it is not usual at other clubs, it is just pathetic. Anyone that excuses this behavior as normal needs to get out of the ARL bubble or look in the mirror. It is not typical teen behavior seen at other clubs. Only you think that.


+1 The mean girl attitude is strong at Arlington. Definitely not that way at other club tryouts.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 06:16     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:Also, word is starting to leak out about YOUR kids that haven’t made your team. Your kids are trying out at other clubs. After years of your kids only accepting kids that are “known players” or “standouts” and treating those, and only those, kids decently when they make the team, let’s hope they are treated better at their tryouts. Have fun with that. For all of you that don’t think your DC is in this position, look at the success of the older ARL teams, they will be soon. The kids are catching up to yours with size and speed. Our kids are coming for your kids. After years of you normalizing your kids being mean, expect the same when yours get bumped. None of us will be there trying to help yours when you stood idly by and thought your DC’s behavior was normal. We look forward to seeing your DC at IDs.


What success of ARL older teams?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 03:42     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:boys or girls?


Girls. Was a lot of talent at the ID sessions but I doubt they drop players to pick a couple up. Any insight?


They will take big fast players and drop current players. No one is safe. Always have a back up plan.


Big and fast players? Are we talking about American football here? I thought soccer IQ, first touch, passing ability, taking players on, 1v1 skills, dribbling, and shooting technique were more important.



Agreed. Just look at US vs Japan recently and see where things are heading in world football (international term for soccer).
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 02:08     Subject: Arlington ECNL ID’s
Also, word is starting to leak out about YOUR kids that haven’t made your team. Your kids are trying out at other clubs. After years of your kids only accepting kids that are “known players” or “standouts” and treating those, and only those, kids decently when they make the team, let’s hope they are treated better at their tryouts. Have fun with that. For all of you that don’t think your DC is in this position, look at the success of the older ARL teams, they will be soon. The kids are catching up to yours with size and speed. Our kids are coming for your kids. After years of you normalizing your kids being mean, expect the same when yours get bumped. None of us will be there trying to help yours when you stood idly by and thought your DC’s behavior was normal. We look forward to seeing your DC at IDs.