Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:21     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you mind your own business.
Literally all of what you asked is none of your business.


Why don't you skip this thread and mind your own business? If it is not something you care about, you should move on.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:20     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
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Anonymous wrote:I have a whole bunch of nieces and nephews who are well educated and have good jobs, but they are not finding partners to marry.

Why are the parents not worried about it? Why is this happening? These are not young adults children either, these are over 35+ years. As they grow older they are looking less attractive also, and they are dating people with more baggage - divorced people, single parents, not a good match in looks, education, SES, red flags.

When do you think is a good age for your kids to get married? How much HHI do you think they should have?



Imho 25-30 is ideal and $100K HHI is good enough though both should finish undergrad first, marrying while in grad/professional school is fine if one spouse is employed.


+1 You seem to find your best matches in the mid-20s.


Really? I don't know. I found a lot of bad matches in my 20s. Found my perfect match at 32.


You prove the point - had relationships in your 20s and found perfect match at 32. You were not 35+ or nearing 40 and no prospects.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:19     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Why don’t you mind your own business.
Literally all of what you asked is none of your business.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:19     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:Marriage is typically a better deal for men. Women can take or leave it.


Not anymore. Its a better deal for people of both genders if they are good partners and lucky enough to find good spouses.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:16     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
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Anonymous wrote:Getting married is not an accomplishment. It is not worth it either. Your spouse will either die or abandon you. I saw it with my parents and both sets of grandparents. You're just setting yourself up for heartbreak when you marry.


Ok. The unstated premise of the OP was a good, strong, functional marriage for life. Of course 50% of all marriages end in divorce, however, the divorce rate among college educated and UMC people are low. So, lets assume that my nieces and nephews are well to do (good career paths), no student debt etc, and college educated. Also assume that they have invested wisely and have house, cars, IRA etc.


Sweetie, you know single people can have all that too, right?


Sweetie, yes, talking about single people only. Single people, well educated, house, cars, IRA etc. But not married and no kids.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:15     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:Marriage is not for everyone. It's optional. Kids are optional.


I agree with this. But, would rather that the uneducated, unhealthy and poor not have more children because they cannot give them a good future in today's world instead of the educated, healthy and not poor.

Even if kids are optional, it is good for people to be in a marriage or be a part of a multi-gen family so that they can be looked after in their old age. After all this country does not have any strong security net left for most people.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:14     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
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Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.


FFS, We have an unelected foreigner (not even a naturalized citizen)President Musk destroying the country. We are even more backwards and outdated than people who lived a century ago.

So, yeah, it is a world dominated with patriarchy and will remain so. And the richest and most democratic country is a communist country.


What? How on earth is this a response to the pp, or on topic at all?


Come on PP. It must be Trump’s fault that the nieces aren’t married 😃


He didn't paint a favorable picture of marriage or family.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:13     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Getting married is not an accomplishment. It is not worth it either. Your spouse will either die or abandon you. I saw it with my parents and both sets of grandparents. You're just setting yourself up for heartbreak when you marry.


Ok. The unstated premise of the OP was a good, strong, functional marriage for life. Of course 50% of all marriages end in divorce, however, the divorce rate among college educated and UMC people are low. So, lets assume that my nieces and nephews are well to do (good career paths), no student debt etc, and college educated. Also assume that they have invested wisely and have house, cars, IRA etc.


Sweetie, you know single people can have all that too, right?
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:11     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.


FFS, We have an unelected foreigner (not even a naturalized citizen)President Musk destroying the country. We are even more backwards and outdated than people who lived a century ago.

So, yeah, it is a world dominated with patriarchy and will remain so. And the richest and most democratic country is a communist country.


What? How on earth is this a response to the pp, or on topic at all?


Come on PP. It must be Trump’s fault that the nieces aren’t married 😃


No trump wants to give women fewer options, married with lots of kids. Bye DEI hello poverty and diapers.


As long as he is not grabbing them by their pu$$eees or raping them - I don't care. Frankly Musk and his dad are more scary. Multiple baby mamas and children.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:08     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:Getting married is not an accomplishment. It is not worth it either. Your spouse will either die or abandon you. I saw it with my parents and both sets of grandparents. You're just setting yourself up for heartbreak when you marry.


Ok. The unstated premise of the OP was a good, strong, functional marriage for life. Of course 50% of all marriages end in divorce, however, the divorce rate among college educated and UMC people are low. So, lets assume that my nieces and nephews are well to do (good career paths), no student debt etc, and college educated. Also assume that they have invested wisely and have house, cars, IRA etc.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:04     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.


FFS, We have an unelected foreigner (not even a naturalized citizen)President Musk destroying the country. We are even more backwards and outdated than people who lived a century ago.

So, yeah, it is a world dominated with patriarchy and will remain so. And the richest and most democratic country is a communist country.


What? How on earth is this a response to the pp, or on topic at all?


Come on PP. It must be Trump’s fault that the nieces aren’t married 😃


No trump wants to give women fewer options, married with lots of kids. Bye DEI hello poverty and diapers.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:02     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Marriage is typically a better deal for men. Women can take or leave it.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:01     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.


FFS, We have an unelected foreigner (not even a naturalized citizen)President Musk destroying the country. We are even more backwards and outdated than people who lived a century ago.

So, yeah, it is a world dominated with patriarchy and will remain so. And the richest and most democratic country is a communist country.


What? How on earth is this a response to the pp, or on topic at all?


Come on PP. It must be Trump’s fault that the nieces aren’t married 😃
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 11:01     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Marriage is not for everyone. It's optional. Kids are optional.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2025 10:55     Subject: Are you concerned that your adult children are not yet married?
Anonymous wrote:I think marriage as an institution is likely on the way out, and more something that will be a rarity in the future rather than the norm. So while I have noticed this as a trend, it worries me exactly zero. The idea that everyone is supposed to get married is pretty crazy, anyway


I feel that marriage brings prosperity and security because you are pooling both your resources and your network. I think the very poor and the very rich lives won't change, but for the middle class having a strong functional marriage is a way to have a more secure future and create a family support system.