Anonymous wrote:Just post a great looking photo. People who knew you when will see the difference and comment that you look great. Congrats on your effort!

Anonymous wrote:I'm turning 50 soon. I was obese for most of my life including childhood, but lost 60lbs and have now maintained it for 10 years. I'm really proud of my consistency and physical strength. All hard work (exercise and cleaning up my diet), no surgery, no diets, no restriction, and no pills or medication.

I am not someone who posts on social media often, nor do I post pictures of myself. I don't post selfies, diets, gym workouts, etc but have maintained putting the work in quietly almost every day. But I wanted to admittedly make one "bragging" post about turning 50, keeping the weight off, and doing it the old fashioned way. Would that be obnoxious?

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Anonymous wrote:Not obnoxious until you get to the old-fashioned way part. The rest is great.

I agree. Plus you could gain the weight back and need meds. Don't be smug.

After maintaining for 10 years?

I think there are a lot of people here triggered by the hard work and success of others. It says a lot about them. And yes, it is an accomplishment to lose and maintain weightloss naturally, without meds. Just because you couldn't do it, doesn't mean you can't be happy and proud of someone who did it without meds.

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Anonymous wrote:Not obnoxious until you get to the old-fashioned way part. The rest is great.

I agree. Plus you could gain the weight back and need meds. Don't be smug.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it’s obnoxious. Just post an updated picture of yourself, maybe say something like turning 50 and never felt better

Anonymous wrote:It will come across as fishing for compliments and attention. Do you not have a somewhat recent picture of yourself posted already?

Anonymous wrote:Not obnoxious until you get to the old-fashioned way part. The rest is great.

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Anonymous wrote:Focusing on the "doing it the old fashioned" way is the obnoxious part. You can be proud of yourself without being overtly judgemental about people who are/were just like you but have a harder time with the traditional methods of weight loss relative to you.

This. That’s great that you’re feeling so proud of your efforts and how you look and feel. AND it’s not a good look to come off as being better than those who have used other ways to lose weight.

Post a fabulous picture of yourself with something about how you’re loving life at 50. Do NOT include any information about how you achieved it “the old fashioned way” without meds, surgery, etc.

This is just such nonsense. You people are making OP's accomplishments about everyone else and are taking away from OP -- just like you claim she would be doing by noting she lost weight without surgery or pills. OP's intended social media post - on her own social media account, not butting in on someone else's announcement - is about HER and should be about her. I guess it would be fine for her to post how she lost and maintained if she used meds; but since she managed to do it without technological medical interventions, she needs to just shut-up?!

OP - celebrate yourself and your hard work. If your friends are offended that you were successful with hard work, that's your friends' problem. Personally, I would appreciate the inspiration and the hope and encouragement that your story would provide me.

I posted above that OP should say what she actually did and not just “old fashioned way” because it is still framed against the “newer” ways and not solely about what OP did.

I suppose I should be surprised by the reactions here, but I am - if OP had taken wegovy and wanted to post that, I am skeptical she would have received any pushback or comments that her post was showy or obnoxious or whatever.

Personally I am against posts about weight loss of any kind. If my friend is proud of their weight loss I’m usually not going to validate that in and of itself. Chances are I liked my friend before, too, and don’t want to imply that they are “better” now.

If my friend is proud of doing something healthy, I would validate it. It has nothing to do with whether thinking or implying that she is better now than before. If OP had 60 pounds to lose, chances are she really improved so many aspects of her life. It’s totally fine to give her kudos. People are very weird about weight.

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Anonymous wrote:Focusing on the "doing it the old fashioned" way is the obnoxious part. You can be proud of yourself without being overtly judgemental about people who are/were just like you but have a harder time with the traditional methods of weight loss relative to you.

This. That’s great that you’re feeling so proud of your efforts and how you look and feel. AND it’s not a good look to come off as being better than those who have used other ways to lose weight.

Post a fabulous picture of yourself with something about how you’re loving life at 50. Do NOT include any information about how you achieved it “the old fashioned way” without meds, surgery, etc.

This is just such nonsense. You people are making OP's accomplishments about everyone else and are taking away from OP -- just like you claim she would be doing by noting she lost weight without surgery or pills. OP's intended social media post - on her own social media account, not butting in on someone else's announcement - is about HER and should be about her. I guess it would be fine for her to post how she lost and maintained if she used meds; but since she managed to do it without technological medical interventions, she needs to just shut-up?!

OP - celebrate yourself and your hard work. If your friends are offended that you were successful with hard work, that's your friends' problem. Personally, I would appreciate the inspiration and the hope and encouragement that your story would provide me.

I posted above that OP should say what she actually did and not just “old fashioned way” because it is still framed against the “newer” ways and not solely about what OP did.

I suppose I should be surprised by the reactions here, but I am - if OP had taken wegovy and wanted to post that, I am skeptical she would have received any pushback or comments that her post was showy or obnoxious or whatever.

Personally I am against posts about weight loss of any kind. If my friend is proud of their weight loss I’m usually not going to validate that in and of itself. Chances are I liked my friend before, too, and don’t want to imply that they are “better” now.

If my friend is proud of doing something healthy, I would validate it. It has nothing to do with whether thinking or implying that she is better now than before. If OP had 60 pounds to lose, chances are she really improved so many aspects of her life. It’s totally fine to give her kudos. People are very weird about weight.