Anonymous wrote:There was a killer nanny in nyc who murdered 2 kids in cold blood a few years ago. Her sister is working as a nanny now. Sounds like DCUM would hire her?
I would never. Mental illness likely runs in the family.
Anonymous wrote:Of several minors (between the age of 12-16) he met through Snapchat.
Nanny came in incredibly upset. He’s been arrested and the parents are not bailing him out. They’re all devastated.
My concern is my nanny lives at home with the parents and did live with the brother.
I am second guessing keeping her on with our family. If she had her own place I wouldn’t be as worried. But if brother does get out they could be in contact.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Of several minors (between the age of 12-16) he met through Snapchat.
Nanny came in incredibly upset. He’s been arrested and the parents are not bailing him out. They’re all devastated.
My concern is my nanny lives at home with the parents and did live with the brother.
I am second guessing keeping her on with our family. If she had her own place I wouldn’t be as worried. But if brother does get out they could be in contact.
She is not being charged with statutory rape and she told you about her brother! So now you are going to fire her for what her brother did? You are a POS!
I disagree here is why
99 percent of families that have an abuser break the rules. Ie they allow the abuser near kids .
Whether they are the wife making excuses or a sister making excuses or another brother making excuses the likelihood of the abuser getting near kids again is high
I would let the nanny go.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Of several minors (between the age of 12-16) he met through Snapchat.
Nanny came in incredibly upset. He’s been arrested and the parents are not bailing him out. They’re all devastated.
My concern is my nanny lives at home with the parents and did live with the brother.
I am second guessing keeping her on with our family. If she had her own place I wouldn’t be as worried. But if brother does get out they could be in contact.
She is not being charged with statutory rape and she told you about her brother! So now you are going to fire her for what her brother did? You are a POS!
Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately we were in a similar situation. Our nanny's husband was arresting for something along these lines, years ago....
Ultimately we felt like we knew her well enough and did not make any changes to her employment. We did put extra rules into place- she had to mostly stay in our house/neighborhood with our kids, no taking them to her house, no exposure to her husband.
Over time, she stood by her husband's side, which made us second guess things. And we kind of hit a natural point for ending employment anyway, so we took that as an out.
I'd suggest a similar approach. Especially since your nanny and the family seem to be taking this seriously.
Anonymous wrote:I think the concerns could maybe be (1) keeping children away from nanny's home, and (2) whether nanny was abused and has those tendencies as a result. If neither is a cause for concern, probably not, then okay.
Anonymous wrote:Of several minors (between the age of 12-16) he met through Snapchat.
Nanny came in incredibly upset. He’s been arrested and the parents are not bailing him out. They’re all devastated.
My concern is my nanny lives at home with the parents and did live with the brother.
I am second guessing keeping her on with our family. If she had her own place I wouldn’t be as worried. But if brother does get out they could be in contact.
Anonymous wrote:I'm an appellate lawyer who went to NYU. Do you think worse of me because my father was a junkie?
I'm also a man, have been in men's locker rooms, and know plenty of men would love to do what the nanny's brother did. Get off your moral high horse. You are certainly close to men who have similar feelings as the nanny's brother.