Anonymous wrote:I was in a Pilates class as the only dude. I felt out of place so I asked the instructor if it was inappropriate for me to be there. She said no way, as did a couple of other class participants who overheard. That was some years ago when people were way less uppity though. That aside, Pilates is amazingly effective, although it’s hard not to feel like a dumbass when you’re doing it.

Women are socialized to be people pleasers. Of course theyre not going to tell you your presence is unwelcome- especially not the instructor, where it may literally be against the rules if she says anything. But how women feel is very different, as this Tiktok trend proves

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I took the day off together tomorrow for a day date and we were scheduled for a 10am Pilates class together at the gym. I just logged into his account and removed him from the class. Solidarity ladies!!

From a Pilates girl thank you! You are doing the Lord's work!

I’m the PP who took my DH out of class. I would like your advice as a Pilates girl. My DH has a genetic condition that affects his connective tissues. By 55 he’ll most likely be unable to walk. He cannot lift weights or do anything beyond body weight. He’d been doing yoga and Pilates in a gym class setting as his work out. Should he instead just do online classes at home? He’s obviously not macho due to his disability but a woman’s comfort/ peace of mind is more important to me.

Personal trainer might be an option. Or find an inclusive class that's not anti-men.

He should not be invading a woman’s space, disabled or not. He could try walking on a treadmill or watching some YouTube videos.

Invading a woman's space? I could care less as long as they are polite. Maybe that's because I'm often invading men's spaces too. Some of my favorite people from my exercise class are men. Or is MAGA running amok on here?

Yes, because MAGAs generally love to prioritize what women want and love to tell men no

Youre the one who sounds like MAGA, tbh. Have some respect for women.

Anonymous wrote:Ha- the article is actually admonishing those women who complain about men in their classes. I’m not sure anyone here bashing all men in these classes really want to be lumped in with the “Pilates Princesses”

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“On TikTok, becoming a ‘Pilates Princess’ is the lifestyle du jour of a certain self-care, soft-life set, who drinks matcha and wears baby pink on the reformer. ‘There was a man in my Pilates class today.’ one self-professed ‘Pilates Princess’ says in a TikTok from last summer….
‘Not to be dramatic or anything, but if a man is in my Pilates class, my day is automatically ruined; it’s over, canceled,’ another TikToker said recently.”

If you actually got the subtext of the article, they were mocking men who complained and basically saying theyre thin skinned children. Hence why all the comments are on the Tiktok girls' side

Ha- the article is actually admonishing those women who complain about men in their classes. I’m not sure anyone here bashing all men in these classes really want to be lumped in with the “Pilates Princesses”

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“On TikTok, becoming a ‘Pilates Princess’ is the lifestyle du jour of a certain self-care, soft-life set, who drinks matcha and wears baby pink on the reformer. ‘There was a man in my Pilates class today.’ one self-professed ‘Pilates Princess’ says in a TikTok from last summer….
‘Not to be dramatic or anything, but if a man is in my Pilates class, my day is automatically ruined; it’s over, canceled,’ another TikToker said recently.”

I don't mind men in my yoga or Pilates classes as long as they dress appropriately and space out appropriately. There was a guy in one of my Pilates classes who used to wear very form fitting bike shorts that were barely more than boxer briefs and it was a little much. Nobody needs to see that,dude.

I’m a man who’s been taking yoga classes 3 to 4 times a week for 3 years now. Classes are usually about 1/4 men (sometimes less but I don’t think I’ve ever been the only one).
I’ve honestly never given it a second thought, though probably because these classes are always coed (Lifetime), so from the start it just seemed normal.
Every once in a while someone is a bit loud with their breathing and it is almost always a man. Indeed likely performative. I’ve also seen younger college guys that seem likely there just because their bros probably told them it was a good place to meet woman. But they are usually one class and done.
Bottom line: Yoga is really incredible for the mind and body. If anyone has a problem with men being in your class (provided said men aren’t doing anything besides just yoga, that seems very much like something you need to work out with a therapist. Or… kind of why women only gyms were created. I’m not aware of any men only gyms as alternatives.
Also, the farts I’ve heard in class have all come from women. No judgement though. Anyone at the gym judging shouldn’t be at the gym.

I don’t mind men in yoga or Pilates classes. The only noisy people I’ve ever encountered there are the women who breathe out orgasmically. I can’t stand them.

Exercise is a health practice. Men need to work on flexibility and joint health just like women do. I cannot imagine a class where they would be excluded, nor did I ever imagine a fitness/yoga class as a female-only space. Unless there are equivalent classes for men only, female-only classes would be grossly unfair.

I was in a Pilates class as the only dude. I felt out of place so I asked the instructor if it was inappropriate for me to be there. She said no way, as did a couple of other class participants who overheard. That was some years ago when people were way less uppity though. That aside, Pilates is amazingly effective, although it’s hard not to feel like a dumbass when you’re doing it.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I took the day off together tomorrow for a day date and we were scheduled for a 10am Pilates class together at the gym. I just logged into his account and removed him from the class. Solidarity ladies!!

From a Pilates girl thank you! You are doing the Lord's work!

I’m the PP who took my DH out of class. I would like your advice as a Pilates girl. My DH has a genetic condition that affects his connective tissues. By 55 he’ll most likely be unable to walk. He cannot lift weights or do anything beyond body weight. He’d been doing yoga and Pilates in a gym class setting as his work out. Should he instead just do online classes at home? He’s obviously not macho due to his disability but a woman’s comfort/ peace of mind is more important to me.

Personal trainer might be an option. Or find an inclusive class that's not anti-men.

He should not be invading a woman’s space, disabled or not. He could try walking on a treadmill or watching some YouTube videos.

Invading a woman's space? I could care less as long as they are polite. Maybe that's because I'm often invading men's spaces too. Some of my favorite people from my exercise class are men. Or is MAGA running amok on here?

Anonymous wrote:who cares what tiktok says?

wasn't tik tok where kids learned to eat tide pods?

Man, those pods taste so good!

Ehhhhhh. I prefer women only but agree if you’re that man who can read the room and not change the vibe, I won’t freak out.

Fun facts:
Trans women are women, we don’t need to make a separate category for them

A man invented Pilates

It does not bother me at all. I go to Club Pilates and there are very few men but the ones who come are fine. One is very chatty and like one of the girls.

I don't care who is in an exercise class as long as they behave themselves and aren't a jerk.

I've been hit on in a very unwanted way by a woman at a gym, btw. It's obviously not as common as men engaging in that behavior, but does show that just because a class is "all women" does not mean people aren't there to ogle you in your workout gear or will behave appropriately. There are also men who behave completely correctly.

Just have a standard of behavior and enforce it.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I took the day off together tomorrow for a day date and we were scheduled for a 10am Pilates class together at the gym. I just logged into his account and removed him from the class. Solidarity ladies!!

From a Pilates girl thank you! You are doing the Lord's work!

I’m the PP who took my DH out of class. I would like your advice as a Pilates girl. My DH has a genetic condition that affects his connective tissues. By 55 he’ll most likely be unable to walk. He cannot lift weights or do anything beyond body weight. He’d been doing yoga and Pilates in a gym class setting as his work out. Should he instead just do online classes at home? He’s obviously not macho due to his disability but a woman’s comfort/ peace of mind is more important to me.

Personal trainer might be an option. Or find an inclusive class that's not anti-men.

He should not be invading a woman’s space, disabled or not. He could try walking on a treadmill or watching some YouTube videos.