Anonymous
02/03/2025 07:10
Subject: Services you would pay for to help your parents?
Anonymous wrote:One more thing to add, it’s hard to find trustworthy reliable help so if you are trustworthy and reliable that’s a huge advantage over some of the quality of people we’ve used through some companies that scraped the bottom of the barrel. Someone stole all of my mom’s opiate painkillers. Thankfully she didn’t need them anymore but who does that?? It would be very difficult for me to trust someone with anything like passwords and accounts but if I found someone I could trust with those things it would be invaluable.
This. Someone kind and not having to dealing with staff turnover and a company constantly sending you someone different.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 21:42
Subject: Services you would pay for to help your parents?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The service we use for my parents has a 12 hour minimum—a service with a lower weekly minimum would have been helpful.
Our service is supposed to get them lunch, be in the house doing stuff while they shower (so if they fall in the shower there is someone there to help or call for help), put laundry in or take it out or whatever (although my mom hates this), and do some light sweeping/swiffering, etc. I would like them to unload dishwasher too as the teaching is a lot for my mom. Driving to hair appointment or dry cleaner, or to nail salon (they can’t cut their own toenails anymore) would be helpful as well. If they were single. I’d add stuff like putting lotion on their back — their skin gets so dry!
LOL. You want them to do more but work less than 12 hours a week. Delusional.
Dp. But wanted to highlight the need for the minimum, even if it’s a 3 hour min per visit. Otherwise you will spend too much time and money scooting around for 2 hour jobs.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 21:38
Subject: Services you would pay for to help your parents?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When my parents' were at that stage, the main things we needed were handyman work (even basic stuff like changing light bulbs); help with their phones or computers; and rides to doctor's appointments
I was going to mention changing light bulbs too.
Honestly, a checklist would be great too - check fire alarm batteries, dryer screen, dishwasher and washing machine drain, just a list of general maintenance they likely forget to do.
We pay $30/hr for someone to sit with my dad 3 hours 3 times a week and make lunch. My mom is still active, but my dad needs 24 hour supervision. So this gives her a break (he also goes to memory care 2 days a week for 6 hours).