Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 23:42     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.


Thank you for this
I am single though is that worse?


I guess where's the problem here? If he's not married, go for it.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 23:00     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:Feelings will not lessen doing the above.
Do not think about person. Do not fantasize. Do not spend more time than absolutely necessary. This stuff can go on for years wasting your real life.


Tips on how you do that?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 17:20     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.


Thank you for this
I am single though is that worse?


Is he single?


Yes


So then what's the problem? Why would you not date?


Is it really that simple though?
I dont want to admit this
/op


OP, I know so many people who met through work! It's ok. It happens.

Are you worried because you feel like it's not reciprocated -- is that why you want it to go away?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 16:31     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need to spend more time around other men. I have a 10 year crush and it always went away when I was out dating other great guys.

Brush up your OLD profiles and try to schedule 2-3 dates a week.


Get over them by getting under someone else.


This doesn’t work the way it is supposed to. It works for most but not all.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 11:15     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:You need to spend more time around other men. I have a 10 year crush and it always went away when I was out dating other great guys.

Brush up your OLD profiles and try to schedule 2-3 dates a week.


Get over them by getting under someone else.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 10:00     Subject: Re:How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Think about him doing gross stuff, like trimming his toenails and picking his nose.


Or voting for trump


Actually voting for Trump is a plus. He is such a breath of fresh error


No lies detected.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 09:59     Subject: Re:How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Think about him doing gross stuff, like trimming his toenails and picking his nose.


Or voting for trump


Actually voting for Trump is a plus. He is such a breath of fresh error from the divisive, race baiting, corrupt group that was moving the country backwards. Make America Great Again!

+1 Trump's XW also once told the press that he's 8 inches, so that certainly won't help OP's dilemma...


He’s quite the gentleman for using his diaper to conceal it.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 09:14     Subject: Re:How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
I’m in the “stay away from it because it’s dangerous” camp.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 08:49     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Feelings will not lessen doing the above.
Do not think about person. Do not fantasize. Do not spend more time than absolutely necessary. This stuff can go on for years wasting your real life.


+1. Everytime he pops into your brain, shift your focus. Don’t get hooked on fleeting thought and let your imagination spin. If you let it, the thought will pass


I wished this worked. I have had a crush on the same man off/ on since I was 15, so 25 years this method doesn't work. Some people just get under your skin and you just have to live with it

You can’t get someone out of your head if they live in your heart.


I agree.

Sweetest thing I’ve read on DCUM. 💕


I’ve got one of those, too. I only see him maybe quarterly anymore. We’re both happily married, kids, the works. But each time, it’s such a fun hour or so of conversation and catching up and it brightens my day for a few days afterwards. Going on 15 years of friendship.

I’m in the “enjoy it but don’t act on it” camp.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 08:48     Subject: Re:How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Think about him doing gross stuff, like trimming his toenails and picking his nose.


Or voting for trump


Actually voting for Trump is a plus. He is such a breath of fresh error from the divisive, race baiting, corrupt group that was moving the country backwards. Make America Great Again!

+1 Trump's XW also once told the press that he's 8 inches, so that certainly won't help OP's dilemma...
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 08:46     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
You need to spend more time around other men. I have a 10 year crush and it always went away when I was out dating other great guys.

Brush up your OLD profiles and try to schedule 2-3 dates a week.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 08:43     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have one on a coworker. His personality is unlike anything I’ve seen. He is so kind, warm and nice.

I am serious and not a troll. It is bothering me so much at this point. I just don’t want to care


My DH is kind, warm, and nice to his coworkers. A$$hole at home. Imagine it’s all an act.


something tells me that you are the A$$hole. who says stuff like that???
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 08:42     Subject: Re:How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Think about him doing gross stuff, like trimming his toenails and picking his nose.


Or voting for trump


Actually voting for Trump is a plus. He is such a breath of fresh error from the divisive, race baiting, corrupt group that was moving the country backwards. Make America Great Again!
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2025 08:36     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Feelings will not lessen doing the above.
Do not think about person. Do not fantasize. Do not spend more time than absolutely necessary. This stuff can go on for years wasting your real life.


+1. Everytime he pops into your brain, shift your focus. Don’t get hooked on fleeting thought and let your imagination spin. If you let it, the thought will pass


I wished this worked. I have had a crush on the same man off/ on since I was 15, so 25 years this method doesn't work. Some people just get under your skin and you just have to live with it

You can’t get someone out of your head if they live in your heart.


I agree.

Sweetest thing I’ve read on DCUM. 💕
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2025 22:43     Subject: How to get rid of crush? (Serious)
Is OP married? I can't find this.

If not married, OP are you much older than he is? Ie, he's in his 20s and you're like 48?