Anonymous wrote:One dd doctor, one dd lawyer. Step-dd went crazy, married someone who is delusional and religious, and is now basically a tradwife -- but a poor one. Step-ds sales. It makes me secretly happy to lord the success of my kids over dh.

Who gleefully announces themselves as a shallow, despicable human being like this?

Anonymous wrote:Doctor and lawyer both = pride.

Teacher, not so much.

My kid’s a teacher and I’m extremely proud of her.

We raised our children to value community and to do what they can to contribute to it, so she’s doing exactly what we asked.

I’ve had people say comments like yours directly to me. (“Didn’t you send her off to college to do MORE?”) I just assume people who believe that live shallow lives and I move on.

One dd doctor, one dd lawyer. Step-dd went crazy, married someone who is delusional and religious, and is now basically a tradwife -- but a poor one. Step-ds sales. It makes me secretly happy to lord the success of my kids over dh.

Could not be prouder of my DD working in a title I school in Baltimore county.

He's a veterinarian. He told us he was going to be a vet when he was in kindergarten, and he never wavered in this. I'm very proud.

MIL is another story, though. She told him that being a veterinarian is for "people who can't hack it in real medical school."

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Anonymous wrote:Well I’ll be the bad guy, I am so ashamed of my child’s career. I’m debating cutting him off over it since I’m embarrassed to tell my friends where he works.

Do it.

Sounds like he needs a kick in the pants.

Yes. His title is ‘DOGE employee’. I do not know what that is. But it does not sound legitimate!

LOL. I knew bigballs mom would find DCUM. 😉

Social work with the elderly.

One is a sr. data analyst that is on the cusp of a promotion into management. He's been very successful at this company and has been steadily promoted since he started there as an intern. I'm super proud of him.
One is getting her masters in accounting and has a big 4 internship lined up for the summer. Hoping it turns into a job offer for her. Extremely proud of her as well.

They are both really good kids.

Anonymous wrote:Both are in tech. DD and DS.

Both of them were academically focussed from childhood. Avid readers. Excelled in a lot of nerdy pursuits. Well mannered and beloved kids in our friends circle. Very kind people, volunteer for their favorite causes, have a great and diverse circle of friends. Have great sense of humor. Have worked hard and walked on the straight path. The kind of kids that became the favorite of their teachers and mentors. In their work place, they win accolades and are liked by bosses and coworkers. They have a gentle but firm way about them.

As adults, they are responsible, well informed, capable, frugal and disciplined.

They will be lay-offs soon and they might be struggling, so enjoy it. All these jobs are going to India.

Anonymous wrote:Well I’ll be the bad guy, I am so ashamed of my child’s career. I’m debating cutting him off over it since I’m embarrassed to tell my friends where he works.

Oh do tell. Does he work in the oval office at the white house? That's the only job right now that would be too embarrassing to mention.

Anonymous wrote:I'm proud that all my adult children have careers in the helping profession. One is a software developer working in the medical field, one is a data manager in a cancer hospital, one is a paralegal working in a victims' rights unit, and one is an analyst in a government agency focused on reducing harm.

Awww. Mine is in a helping profession too as a pole dancer. She helps many overweight ugly stressed guys find some fun.

Anonymous wrote:Proud of any adult making their way with all their abilities. So for most that means being employed, paying own way for rent/mortgage, insurance-health/car/home, medical, food, phone… in other words, acting like the adult their age says they are.

Above adjusted if any reasons cannot do above on own if not parent-created/enabled reasons.

This 100%. We don't care what career path our kids take. We did instill the concept that they need to be working towards independence and choose a lifestyle they can support with their career choice. Both attended college (one still in college). So they can be a teacher, Social worker, programer, Doctor, lawyer, whatever but they need to be aware of the income potentials for their chosen career path and live a life they can self support with it.
The oldest is gainfully employed and fully supporting themselves and did since they graduated. The youngest is still in college, engineering major, and will be able to do the same (more easily than the first) once they graduate and get first job.

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Anonymous wrote:Your pride shouldn't be tied to their careers and salaries but their ability to function as healthy, productive, conscientious adults carving a good life for themselves and others around them.

Well, I’m still proud of my daughter who has profound disabilities and can’t do any of the things that you think pride should be based on.

In that case, you focus on are they "living the best life they can" and being as independent as they can.

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Anonymous wrote:Well I’ll be the bad guy, I am so ashamed of my child’s career. I’m debating cutting him off over it since I’m embarrassed to tell my friends where he works.

Do it.

Sounds like he needs a kick in the pants.

Yes. His title is ‘DOGE employee’. I do not know what that is. But it does not sound legitimate!

Oh not legitimate. He has to do it DOGGEE style for his master from South Africa.

Proud of DD - no matter what DD decide to do. She got into phD at Stanford/John Hopkins/Vanderbilt/UMich/FT job waiting for DD in May.