Anonymous
01/27/2025 15:35
Subject: BIL automatically invited to any and all events?
Anonymous wrote:Siblings are automatically invited to holidays stuff for the kids open invite for that. That's how close families are.
Other people's houses is not typical in this culture.
But op sounds like someone who wants to be queen bee and probably jealous of the new girlfriend.
Is part of the dcum group that feels grandparents can only visit one group of grandkids at a time.
And is a smug married.
So weird. Was that in some kind of invisible ink in the OP?
Anonymous
01/27/2025 14:53
Subject: BIL automatically invited to any and all events?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Siblings are automatically invited to holidays stuff for the kids open invite for that. That's how close families are.
Other people's houses is not typical in this culture.
But op sounds like someone who wants to be queen bee and probably jealous of the new girlfriend.
Is part of the dcum group that feels grandparents can only visit one group of grandkids at a time.
And is a smug married.
So much projection of your own issues. Literally, nowhere did the OP indicate or sound like someone "who wants to be queen bee and probably jealous of the new girlfriend".
It's safe to say you're the same sort as Op
Anonymous
01/27/2025 14:51
Subject: BIL automatically invited to any and all events?
Anonymous wrote:Siblings are automatically invited to holidays stuff for the kids open invite for that. That's how close families are.
Other people's houses is not typical in this culture.
But op sounds like someone who wants to be queen bee and probably jealous of the new girlfriend.
Is part of the dcum group that feels grandparents can only visit one group of grandkids at a time.
And is a smug married.
So much projection of your own issues. Literally, nowhere did the OP indicate or sound like someone "who wants to be queen bee and probably jealous of the new girlfriend".
Anonymous
01/27/2025 14:18
Subject: BIL automatically invited to any and all events?
I think that the girlfriend opens up the issue. You could say something to your husband like, "Now that Will is dating Kelly, I think it's best if you check in with me before inviting him over. It changes the dynamic."
Anonymous
01/27/2025 13:58
Subject: BIL automatically invited to any and all events?
We've had this thread posted before. We get it, you don't like your brother-in-law.
Anonymous
01/27/2025 13:09
Subject: Re:BIL automatically invited to any and all events?
No siblings do not have an automatic invite to any event, holiday or birthday! Normal people do not do this.
My BIL always take SIL out for a romantic dinner. I can’t imagine tagging along. My kids always have large parties with a ton of friends and classmates. BIL/SIL would be bored out of their minds. If we have neighbors over for dinner we wouldn’t expect to tack on in laws/ siblings.
My BIL always take SIL out for a romantic dinner. I can’t imagine tagging along. My kids always have large parties with a ton of friends and classmates. BIL/SIL would be bored out of their minds. If we have neighbors over for dinner we wouldn’t expect to tack on in laws/ siblings.
Anonymous
01/27/2025 12:48
Subject: BIL automatically invited to any and all events?
Siblings are automatically invited to holidays stuff for the kids open invite for that. That's how close families are.
Other people's houses is not typical in this culture.
But op sounds like someone who wants to be queen bee and probably jealous of the new girlfriend.
Is part of the dcum group that feels grandparents can only visit one group of grandkids at a time.
And is a smug married.
Other people's houses is not typical in this culture.
But op sounds like someone who wants to be queen bee and probably jealous of the new girlfriend.
Is part of the dcum group that feels grandparents can only visit one group of grandkids at a time.
And is a smug married.
Anonymous
01/27/2025 10:26
Subject: Re:BIL automatically invited to any and all events?
Anonymous wrote:No this is strange. Your DH is acting like he’s 10 years old and his mother constantly told him to bring along his younger brother. DH and his brother are adults now, not little kids.
You also get 50% of the vote whether an extended family member gets invited to your house and events.