Not sure how to help the OP but all women should be told to find out if they are sexually compatible with a man before ever committing to a life with him. I would not stay with a man who could not or would not cause me to O and especially if after I tell him what to do he doesn't do it and then wonders why I didn't come. That would happen one time, bye.

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Anonymous wrote:Wives are NEVER happy and NEVER satisfied. Always something to pick on.

But in this marriage, the DH picks on OP if she says or does something that he isn’t happy with.

so the roles are reversed in this case...big whoop.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wives are NEVER happy and NEVER satisfied. Always something to pick on.

Oh please. Yeah, the complaining about not fixing things around the house is a little over the top. But anyone would complain about their spouse not giving them an O. And after 15 years if your spouse can't remember what foods you don't like, it means they aren't really paying attention to you.

Don’t normal people when dating tell their partner to either step it up in the sack or you are out of there? Who not only continues to date someone but also marries someone and then puts up with it for 15 years?

This.

OP, you described my husband. And I, am you. Honestly, I felt unloved but now I realize that he did love me and still does. My husband has ADHD. He will leave me in airports by walking too fast. He will sit next to me and just get on his phone. He has a million projects around the house that he needs to do but does not get to it. He will also get upset if I hire someone because he can do it himself. He is the defensive/avoidant type and I am an attachment type. He is more logical and speaks from facts. I speak from emotions and feelings. His love language is touch and mine is acts of service. It took time and therapy to find all of this out. It has caused many fights. We are now doing beyond well because we know one another, can communicate better, we speak up when our needs arent met and come to a mutual resolution.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wives are NEVER happy and NEVER satisfied. Always something to pick on.

But in this marriage, the DH picks on OP if she says or does something that he isn’t happy with.

Or you could say that he uses his voice to explain to her how he feels, while she quietly seethes inside. Which one is better in that scenario?

She doesn’t quietly seethe as the airport incident shows. But we don’t know enough to make a determination. You though, immediately proceeded to lay blame on OP without knowing the facts.

We have no idea if airs any of these issues or just lets it fester until she explodes like at the airport

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wives are NEVER happy and NEVER satisfied. Always something to pick on.

But in this marriage, the DH picks on OP if she says or does something that he isn’t happy with.

Or you could say that he uses his voice to explain to her how he feels, while she quietly seethes inside. Which one is better in that scenario?

She doesn’t quietly seethe as the airport incident shows. But we don’t know enough to make a determination. You though, immediately proceeded to lay blame on OP without knowing the facts.

Anonymous wrote:1. If the thing needs to be fixed, hire a handyman. Don’t emotionally manipulate him into it. And don’t let his potential reaction get in the way. Focus on reality and solutions.

2. In that vain; allow yourself to mourn the husband you don’t have. Truly grieve and then let go of what could have been.

3. Take more steps like the first step. Step up to get the things you need and want out of life. Be creative and unapologetic about it. If you want more orgasms, buy better sex toys.

A therapist can help with this more n

Why is this phrased as commands? What makes you think that your approach is the right one? IMO she deserves a husband who cares. Why doesn’t he call a handyman when he doesn’t fix it and complains when she hires one? This man sounds awful and she shouldn’t have to put up with this behavior unless she really wants to.