Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True. My spouse did have top clearance so it was conceivable he couldn’t have cell phone at times, but also very convenient for when he didn’t want to be reached.

Other tip: having to run into the office for only a few hours on remote work day. Oh-and iPhone locator will look like they are at the office. They leave it there or monkey with it (easy to hack )

How. How do you hack your location? Most people don't know how to do that.

Google it. Apparently you need a laptop and your phone.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

I know a guy that still texts his wife during the day and cheats for an hour once a week on his way home

I've been in the room and in the car with a guy when he has been on the phone with and/or texting his wife. He can still be texting and calling and cheating at the same time.

Wow. What do you want a “whore of the year” crown?

Couples should not routinely text during the day. Not during the work day. It's work. You are away to work. Whatever it is, you can manage it. It can wait until you are together again. Not an emergency, at least, hardly ever. Don't just text for convenience.

Sure any great deviation could signal a problem - but don't be overly needy in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

I know a guy that still texts his wife during the day and cheats for an hour once a week on his way home

I've been in the room and in the car with a guy when he has been on the phone with and/or texting his wife. He can still be texting and calling and cheating at the same time.

Anonymous wrote:

Way to trigger all the posters obsessed about infidelity, "counselor". You just want to stir the pot.

Frankly, I love a little pot stirrin' so let's have at it!

Anonymous wrote:True. My spouse did have top clearance so it was conceivable he couldn’t have cell phone at times, but also very convenient for when he didn’t want to be reached.

Other tip: having to run into the office for only a few hours on remote work day. Oh-and iPhone locator will look like they are at the office. They leave it there or monkey with it (easy to hack )

How. How do you hack your location? Most people don't know how to do that.

Here’s another one. If you see a coworker using a fork to feed someone who is not their spouse, those 2 people are sharing bodily fluids for sure.

This is ridiculous. When I am at work, I don't want my spouse texting. I would be annoyed.

I suggest you look into another career field. Your generalizations are not accurate.

It is a change in normal behavior (whatever that behavior is) since people are different and your generalization of how people behave is not accurate. I am not "licensed" but apparently know more about human psychology than you do.

Note to others: a change in typical behavior or communciation patterns may or may not be indicative of cheating. Stress and health issues can also cause changes in behavior that could trigger assumptions that someone could be cheating.

You're welcome.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine started to text me when he knew I had workout class- catch me before. I think to make sure I wouldn’t be looking for him during that hour. At the time I thought it was sweet he was checking in more.

That's another red flag. Texting or calling so you don't while he's "busy". Or calling to see if you need anything on his way home. Or telling you he needs to go to the store on the way home. Back in the pager day my friend suspected her husband of cheating. She switched his pager out with the exact type of pager. When his went off she forwarded the number to him right away. Did it for 3 days and caught him big time. Easy to catch cheaters then and today!

Yep. My cheater ex did that and I was none the wiser—makes them appear attentive it’s a real mind fk.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

+1. We live in a world where we condemn people who are focused on their work colleagues sitting right in front of them rather than being on their phone?

+1
Troll fail.

Anonymous wrote:Mine started to text me when he knew I had workout class- catch me before. I think to make sure I wouldn’t be looking for him during that hour. At the time I thought it was sweet he was checking in more.

That's another red flag. Texting or calling so you don't while he's "busy". Or calling to see if you need anything on his way home. Or telling you he needs to go to the store on the way home. Back in the pager day my friend suspected her husband of cheating. She switched his pager out with the exact type of pager. When his went off she forwarded the number to him right away. Did it for 3 days and caught him big time. Easy to catch cheaters then and today!

Anonymous wrote:In my situation, he always had meetings or other reasons why he couldn’t text me during the day. A colleague was more than willing to fill that role, and after several months one thing led to another…

Why I've always told women to spot check their DH. A GPS device is the best.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

I know a guy that still texts his wife during the day and cheats for an hour once a week on his way home

If you know, and you haven't alerted the wife in some way, you're complicit. But you're probably part of the usual DCUM "mind my own business" crowd.

maybe she already assumes or is turning a blind eye to it?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

I know a guy that still texts his wife during the day and cheats for an hour once a week on his way home

If you know, and you haven't alerted the wife in some way, you're complicit. But you're probably part of the usual DCUM "mind my own business" crowd.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.

I know a guy that still texts his wife during the day and cheats for an hour once a week on his way home