Brick means cold in NYC as in “it’s mad brick out.” Anything else is just stupid. Tell your daughter to play those fools for the suburban white little shit wannabes that they are. Flip the script. She finds their McLean slang pathetic and cringe. Laugh at them for being sad little losers and posers. As the adult you are doing the right thing going to the school of course. She also needs to be able to handle this on kid term.

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Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

It definitely means this with trans women. It's an intra-community slur (unfortunately one of many). It's not used too often any longer but if you want to see it used in a TV show, here's Pose.

Skip ahead to 3:44.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

You just proved these kids don’t understand a word they’re saying. It describes a man that doesn’t pass as a woman. Seriously OP, these are CHILDREN! Stop with the out to get them attitude. When adults can’t agree what it means and now you want to rake them over hot coals for saying a word you don’t even understand? This is why your daughters will grow up to hate men and end up divorced single moms before they are 40.

I guess we found the Trump voter. I wondered why women would vote for someone that was taking away women’s rights, regularly called women dogs and nasty and was found liable for sexual assault in court. It’s because they think standing up to bullying (for a girl) isn’t allowed.

This is why I send my kid to an all girls school, so she doesn’t have to deal with misogynistic low class parents.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound a little unhinged and obsessed with these young boys being sexual deviants who are out to get your daughter. Encouraging her to address the problem with physical violence is also disturbing. Maybe the problem is you.

Psychopaths who try to gaslight while advocating for emotional abuse are worse than people who occasionally shuffle.

OP, you sound a little unhinged and obsessed with these young boys being sexual deviants who are out to get your daughter. Encouraging her to address the problem with physical violence is also disturbing. Maybe the problem is you.

10 to 11 years old? Why haven't you emailed the principal about it since it's bothering her so much to the point that you're encouraging her to physically hit them in response?

These boys know exactly what they’re doing. The exact words they use almost don’t matter. It’s the intent and cruelty that are the point.

A simple test to confirm this: have the school administration talk to them and educate them about the word’s meaning(s) and effect on DD. If they are horrified and apologetic, then they truly didn’t know what it meant and will hopefully stop using that word in the future. If they double down or don’t show any remorse, well, there’s your answer.

I am sorry OP. I would be worried. For the “goodness they are children!” PP look into the average age boys first encounter p*rn. It’s totally possible (and sad) these boys have been exposed to way more than you think.

OP can’t control that but given how she’s described their previous behavior I would be very concerned about my kid being spoken to like that. I was a highly sheltered and naive kid growing up (we didn’t have a tv during a time most kids were watching hours a day) and I vividly remember being teased with terms I didn’t understand- I think they thought it was funny that I didn’t even know what they were talking about. Luckily for me it was mostly one offs but if there’s a group of kids doing this repeatedly I would definitely get the school involved. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

You just proved these kids don’t understand a word they’re saying. It describes a man that doesn’t pass as a woman. Seriously OP, these are CHILDREN! Stop with the out to get them attitude. When adults can’t agree what it means and now you want to rake them over hot coals for saying a word you don’t even understand? This is why your daughters will grow up to hate men and end up divorced single moms before they are 40.

No. Yes, these are children. Children need to be taught kindness and have unacceptable behavior corrected in safe spaces like schools. That’s how they become compassionate adults and grow up to have stable relationships.

If my kid was calling a girl names and laughing about it, I’d want to know.

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Anonymous wrote:It just means "we don't like you". It doesn't matter if someone thinks I means far or stupid or ugly.

Those kids need the snot beat out of them.
Your kid needs to grey rock them or lay one of them on the floor, depending on ability.

It’s my DD (no idea why I left gender out, sorry) and these are boys who are messing with her. DH and I gave her permission to fight back in a physical way. They deserve a punch to the face or a kick in the crotch.

It disgusts me but I think these are the sort of kids that only understand physical violence. She claims she can’t do it, but in case she is brave enough, I told her to punch them and go straight to the main office and self-report what she did, and we’ll come to pick her up as soon as they call us.

If she throws the first punch she should be prepared to get her ass kicked.

Oh god sexist. Great message to your girl. Don’t fight back because you’ll lose is a great prep for your child to be a rape victim.

-strong woman.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

You just proved these kids don’t understand a word they’re saying. It describes a man that doesn’t pass as a woman. Seriously OP, these are CHILDREN! Stop with the out to get them attitude. When adults can’t agree what it means and now you want to rake them over hot coals for saying a word you don’t even understand? This is why your daughters will grow up to hate men and end up divorced single moms before they are 40.

Looks like one of the boys' parents has joined the chat.

Bug off. Kids don't get a free pass to say mean things. It's part of the deal of parenting; you are supposed to teach them not to be disrespectful little prats. And if they act up at school, there should be consequences. No one is saying suspend them, but you don't just turn a blind eye and say boys will be boys.