Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Before getting married, I told my fiance that I would be ok with taking in his cat to our new place. At the time, I really was ok with it and didn’t mind it. I didn’t love the idea but I’ve seen how much he loves his cat so I was willing to take him in. His cat is ‘temporarily’ at his parents home and he’s just waiting for me to tell him to bring the cat to our place.
Now that we’re married and settled in, he keeps asking me when to take the cat in and I keep postponing it, however I know that I just can’t handle living full time with a cat. I know that I previously agreed to bringing the cat in and that he’ll handle most of the work related to the cat but now that I’ve thought about it, I just can’t imagine taking care of a pet.
I haven’t told him how I feel yet since I don’t know how to bring up the topic as I know that he’ll be upset about it. Any advice? And do you think I’m being unreasonable about this?
I should add that the cat is being taken care of and loved by his parents and siblings. Whenever we go visit them, he gets to play with him so that might be a good compromise instead of us taking him in full time?
Before I point out that you're a fscking monster... Why not? Are you allergic? What is your reasoning?
OP- I just can’t live with a cat. Why am I a monster for changing my mind about something? Having a pet is a huge commitment and I just can’t commit to this right now.
But you did commit to it before marrying him. Once you got what you wanted, you bailed. You’re selfish.
Anonymous wrote:OP here- to all saying divorce and that my DH would divorce me, you all are being ridiculous and overreacting. We love each other very much and my DH would never divorce me over a cat. He loves his cat but he loves me more.
Anonymous wrote:You should divorce him so he can be with his cat
If I were your husband, I d divorce you now. You ve just made a detrimental lie. I can’t trust you anymore.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Before getting married, I told my fiance that I would be ok with taking in his cat to our new place. At the time, I really was ok with it and didn’t mind it. I didn’t love the idea but I’ve seen how much he loves his cat so I was willing to take him in. His cat is ‘temporarily’ at his parents home and he’s just waiting for me to tell him to bring the cat to our place.
Now that we’re married and settled in, he keeps asking me when to take the cat in and I keep postponing it, however I know that I just can’t handle living full time with a cat. I know that I previously agreed to bringing the cat in and that he’ll handle most of the work related to the cat but now that I’ve thought about it, I just can’t imagine taking care of a pet.
I haven’t told him how I feel yet since I don’t know how to bring up the topic as I know that he’ll be upset about it. Any advice? And do you think I’m being unreasonable about this?
I should add that the cat is being taken care of and loved by his parents and siblings. Whenever we go visit them, he gets to play with him so that might be a good compromise instead of us taking him in full time?
Before I point out that you're a fscking monster... Why not? Are you allergic? What is your reasoning?
OP- I just can’t live with a cat. Why am I a monster for changing my mind about something? Having a pet is a huge commitment and I just can’t commit to this right now.
Because a cat isn’t like a possession. It’s a living creature with physical and emotional needs, and the discussion of its future was made during your engagement. Just like a relationship can end if you change your mind about whether you want kids, this can end it as well. You are in the wrong completely.
OP- So what is the solution? Should I sacrifice my comfort and just agree to the cat?
Anonymous wrote:I would divorce you. Honestly.
Anonymous wrote:If there was no existing cat, it would be fine for you to say that you didn't want one. But there is an existing cat -- a living being to whom your DH is committed and that you knew about before marriage. The cat needs to be allowed to come home.