Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.

Oh please. I love it when DCUM posters get all hysterical for no reason. She asked for a layer recommendation. You have no idea what else they’re doing or not doing. A DUI at 19 does not equal a necessary trip to rehab. Not that you or anyone else could make an adult do that. Calm down.

No, you calm down. A 19 yo who drives drunk has done TWO illegal things---DUI and drinking underage. If my teen is living at home/I'm paying for college/I'm paying for anything for them, they will have to then follow my house rules for doing something illegal, dangerous and stupid. My kid would be in rehab/therapy to address their need to drink, they would also be in intensive therapy to help understand why they drove when drinking, as we live in an area where Uber/Lyft are readily avaialbe and we as parents will always pay for that (sort of like how we would always pick them up in MS/HS from a party/friends place/anywhere they were uncomfortable)

The 19yo could have KILLED someone. Next time they might, so I'd be doing everything to insure that next time never happens

It’s a felony since she’s under 21. Make sure she understands that this can affect future career choices on top of everything else.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.

This 10000%! I would not allow them to drive for several years, I would send them to rehab and I would put consequences in place and make their life difficult for a few years as well (very close to what would have happened if I didn't hire a great lawyer)

Then again, my kids know not to drink and drive. They know they can always call us (if at home/nearby) and also ALWAYs call and UBer/Lyft and we will pay for it, no questions asked. If you are going to drink anything, you do NOT drive. It's quite simple. Akin to, if you are going to drive, you may not text/surf the web/play on your phone. If you are caught doing that as a teen, my kid's would loose their driving privileges for some time.

Anonymous wrote:This is very serious. Show her this. The driver is still sitting in JAIL. Came home for fall break from college and killed his friend and is not getting out of jail. She needs a massive wake up call.

https://wtop.com/crime/2024/10/arlington-teen-killed-in-suspected-drunken-driving-incident/

+1

I would work within the law to do as much as possible to "remove it" but then I strongly enoucrage her to get rid of her license for several years, and do rehab and address the issues. She could have killed someone, and she needs to change now or go to jail

Anonymous wrote:Ah, how does this still happen when there is Uber? Sorry, not very helpful but it’s so very frustrating.

THis---it's very frustrating that people choose to go out drinking and not find a safe way home--and by safe way, I mean so they don't injure others. If they want to kill/maim themselves, go for it. But don't drink and drive as it typically injures others.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was killed by a drunk driver on his way home from work one day. Two of my kids were too young to have any memory of him. I try to have grace when I hear about this highly preventable crime but it is very, very difficult.

+1

Drunk drivers have taken multiple people from my family, including my aunt, a mother of 6. They’ve destroyed my body. PP, I am so sorry for your loss. Like you, I try to give grace, but find it hard to see this post. I hope the parents are not only seeking legal help but taking this with the gravity merited, and that they see to it that if their daughter escapes legal consequences, she gets whatever intervention is necessary to never do this again.

Nothing either of you wrote means the person who committed a crime should not be adequately represented in court. That's all OP asked for.

Anonymous wrote:https://maryland-criminallawyer.com/our-team/kush-arora/

He's good. Strong recommendation for him.

Anonymous wrote:My husband was killed by a drunk driver on his way home from work one day. Two of my kids were too young to have any memory of him. I try to have grace when I hear about this highly preventable crime but it is very, very difficult.

+1

Drunk drivers have taken multiple people from my family, including my aunt, a mother of 6. They’ve destroyed my body. PP, I am so sorry for your loss. Like you, I try to give grace, but find it hard to see this post. I hope the parents are not only seeking legal help but taking this with the gravity merited, and that they see to it that if their daughter escapes legal consequences, she gets whatever intervention is necessary to never do this again.

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Anonymous wrote:Try to get probation before judgement and the arrest expunged.

Assuming they had probable cause and she’s guilty.

Good luck.

They used to have a program called REDO not sure if it exists or changed names for 1st offenders to get the record expunged

DUI is a specifically excepted from expungable offenses in many jurisdictions, including Maryland.

That is great! Good for Maryland!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should it be expunged?

It is a serious offense.

Consequences teach valuable lessons.

She’s 19 she could literally have blown a .000001 and it’s DUI.

My oldest (99th percentile IQ, AAP, attending selective university, planning to attend t14 law school) would have never done something like this. It's sickening to think unstable individuals such as this poster's daughter are allowed to roam free. Before the mob attacks: no, I am not religious, no I am not kidding, no I am not uptight.

Virtually every parent thinks not MY child until it happens.

My husband was killed by a drunk driver on his way home from work one day. Two of my kids were too young to have any memory of him. I try to have grace when I hear about this highly preventable crime but it is very, very difficult.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should it be expunged?

It is a serious offense.

Consequences teach valuable lessons.

She’s 19 she could literally have blown a .000001 and it’s DUI.

My oldest (99th percentile IQ, AAP, attending selective university, planning to attend t14 law school) would have never done something like this. It's sickening to think unstable individuals such as this poster's daughter are allowed to roam free. Before the mob attacks: no, I am not religious, no I am not kidding, no I am not uptight.

Nobody give a f&@# about your rule following cog.

They will do 1000 ethical things in the finance job because their boss said so and you will brag about it.

Lol I mean you kids gonna be a lawyer (not finance) even worse defending drunk drivers, rapists and murders…. Oh no wait they will do corporate law and figure out for healthcare CEOs to deny legit claims “legally”.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should it be expunged?

It is a serious offense.

Consequences teach valuable lessons.

She’s 19 she could literally have blown a .000001 and it’s DUI.

My oldest (99th percentile IQ, AAP, attending selective university, planning to attend t14 law school) would have never done something like this. It's sickening to think unstable individuals such as this poster's daughter are allowed to roam free. Before the mob attacks: no, I am not religious, no I am not kidding, no I am not uptight.

Nobody give a f&@# about your rule following cog.

They will do 1000 ethical things in the finance job because their boss said so and you will brag about it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should it be expunged?

It is a serious offense.

Consequences teach valuable lessons.

She’s 19 she could literally have blown a .000001 and it’s DUI.

My oldest (99th percentile IQ, AAP, attending selective university, planning to attend t14 law school) would have never done something like this. It's sickening to think unstable individuals such as this poster's daughter are allowed to roam free. Before the mob attacks: no, I am not religious, no I am not kidding, no I am not uptight.

The rich kids do worse than alcohol! Learned this from my EMT rotation. The Ivy kids come in with heroin, the Catholic kids come in with alcohol poisoning

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.

Oh please. I love it when DCUM posters get all hysterical for no reason. She asked for a layer recommendation. You have no idea what else they’re doing or not doing. A DUI at 19 does not equal a necessary trip to rehab. Not that you or anyone else could make an adult do that. Calm down.

You're right you can't force them into rehab, but the average person drives drunk 100 times before they get pulled over. Virtually all people with DUI have a bad relationship with alcohol.