Before making a long term commitment, make sure you both are clear on expectations regarding children and career. Everyone should do this, but more important for couples under 40 where the woman is older by 7+ years.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 49F, divorced and prefer to date men around 40. I won’t marry. But I also don’t want to deal with a boyfriend’s ED issues- 40 is a sweet spot. And yes. I have the face, body, and financial independence to pull this off with ease. It feels very natural- 6-9 years just isn’t a big deal in a boyfriend.

ED is really a big issue for women. Now I can see why men feel so insecure when they can no longer get it up.

What's the ED equivalent for women, if there is one?

Getting fat.

C'mon now. Have you ever slept with a "fat" woman? I have. The pu**y feels the same, the intimacy is the same, the moaning is the same, the juices taste the same, the clit is a just like a normal clit, orgasms still happen.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister is 34 and just married a man six years younger. He's crazy about her.

Every woman I know dating younger is much happier.

I think a woman dating younger has some advantages. For instance, she is probably further ahead in her career and is in a better financials than him. And second she is also more mature. I think these 2 factors allow her to donate the terms of the relationship early on and it's direction as well and further the man being younger means she won't worry about her sexual needs not being met prematurely. I think for women a relationship is more likely to benefit the woman if she calls the shots (not in a controlling way) early on.

I think the real win here isn't the money or the career bit, though that probably doesn't hurt. It's the power. An older woman who can take care of herself takes a lover (of any age) because she wants to. Younger women often marry for family, for money, for practical reasons (this is mostly why older men can date/wed younger women). Once we age out of a lot of that, what's left? The things we like. We're no longer focused on raising a family; we're looking for fun.

And yes, the younger men might be more capable of providing the fun times than their older counterparts.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 49F, divorced and prefer to date men around 40. I won’t marry. But I also don’t want to deal with a boyfriend’s ED issues- 40 is a sweet spot. And yes. I have the face, body, and financial independence to pull this off with ease. It feels very natural- 6-9 years just isn’t a big deal in a boyfriend.

ED is really a big issue for women. Now I can see why men feel so insecure when they can no longer get it up.

What's the ED equivalent for women, if there is one?

Getting fat.

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Anonymous wrote:I have relative married to a man 15 years younger. They’ve been together for 35 years. People assume they’re about the same age; in terms of looks, you wouldn’t guess she’s that much older.

A lot of women look much younger than men and put way more energy into skincare, so this makes sense.

Not Caucasian women lol. They look 50 when they are 35.

Not all of us. Unpacking our bs and not living foul does wonders for the skin!

I'm 9 years older than DH and we've been married for 15+ years. 2 kids. Works for us.

My mother is 5.5 years older than her husband. They’ve been together about 12 years, married for 5, they have a great relationship. She’s 64, he’s 59. (If it matters, his ex-wife was ten years younger than him.)

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Anonymous wrote:I have relative married to a man 15 years younger. They’ve been together for 35 years. People assume they’re about the same age; in terms of looks, you wouldn’t guess she’s that much older.

A lot of women look much younger than men and put way more energy into skincare, so this makes sense.

Not Caucasian women lol. They look 50 when they are 35.

Anonymous wrote:I have relative married to a man 15 years younger. They’ve been together for 35 years. People assume they’re about the same age; in terms of looks, you wouldn’t guess she’s that much older.

A lot of women look much younger than men and put way more energy into skincare, so this makes sense.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister is 34 and just married a man six years younger. He's crazy about her.

Every woman I know dating younger is much happier.

I think a woman dating younger has some advantages. For instance, she is probably further ahead in her career and is in a better financials than him. And second she is also more mature. I think these 2 factors allow her to donate the terms of the relationship early on and it's direction as well and further the man being younger means she won't worry about her sexual needs not being met prematurely. I think for women a relationship is more likely to benefit the woman if she calls the shots (not in a controlling way) early on.

Cougars on the prowl!

I have relative married to a man 15 years younger. They’ve been together for 35 years. People assume they’re about the same age; in terms of looks, you wouldn’t guess she’s that much older.

Anonymous wrote:I always used to think it was creepy when I saw older (usually) men with much younger women.

Now that the shoe’s on the other foot, I completely understand.

There's a difference between Leo DiCaprio dating a girl who is college-age, vs if he were dating a woman in her mid to late 30's. The latter would seem MUCH more acceptable to the general public.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 49F, divorced and prefer to date men around 40. I won’t marry. But I also don’t want to deal with a boyfriend’s ED issues- 40 is a sweet spot. And yes. I have the face, body, and financial independence to pull this off with ease. It feels very natural- 6-9 years just isn’t a big deal in a boyfriend.

ED is really a big issue for women. Now I can see why men feel so insecure when they can no longer get it up.

What's the ED equivalent for women, if there is one?

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Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced man 45 years old and I approve your relationship. But on serious note 5 years is nothing, even 10 years is nothing for a woman. Women have far less issue than men as they age, so it's very unlikely that he will end up taking care of you. In fact it's not uncommon for 80 years old women to take care of their 70 years old husbands. I honestly don't know why we men tend to have so many health issues as we age but it is what it is. There are exceptions of course, but the data confirms that men don't age well in the United States.

From my experience, men are extremely stubborn and arrogant. This translates to not asking for help and thinking they know best and ignoring health professionals.

You are correct thank we are stubborn. I'll say we are just more negligent. Women will address minor health issues and find the root cause whereas men will just ignore them and keep going.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister is 34 and just married a man six years younger. He's crazy about her.

Every woman I know dating younger is much happier.

I think a woman dating younger has some advantages. For instance, she is probably further ahead in her career and is in a better financials than him. And second she is also more mature. I think these 2 factors allow her to donate the terms of the relationship early on and it's direction as well and further the man being younger means she won't worry about her sexual needs not being met prematurely. I think for women a relationship is more likely to benefit the woman if she calls the shots (not in a controlling way) early on.