The things I listened to at 15!!! What to do!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent up.

This. You're the parent, act like it!

Exactly. Your job is to parent, unapologetically. Adolescent’s job to push back. Be a good example, or your children risk becoming pushovers.

You want your daughter to stand strong when she says no to a disrespectful male wanting to have sex.

Btw, much of the popular music normalizes free sex in high school and college. This is fueling anxiety and depression in our young women.

+3

Anonymous wrote:Disconnect the speakers in the car.

+1

There are a few songs that just squick me out -- WAP, Nicki Minaj's Super Freaky Girl, and if they came on the radio when my daughter was listening to a station, I would make a switch.

I wouldn't allow any songs that have cuss words to be played in front of 5-year old.

Push it is obviously about sex, but is not as explicit as others...

I like the idea of talking about the action in the songs to embarrass the daughter if the younger daughter isn't around!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Freedom first, and all. This is America. Expression over repression, blah blah.

I get it: censorship is wrong. But somewhere in the middle:

- can someone explain the value added to your teen’s life by listening to the “N” word (if sung/spoke by a BIPOC) shouted at them? All I am seeing here is a hate-word and a double standard.

I only let my daughter listen to N-word shouted by white and indigenous people.

Personal preference.

Swing and a miss.

The “I” in BIPOC is for indigenous.

Woosh!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent up.

This. You're the parent, act like it!

Exactly. Your job is to parent, unapologetically. Adolescent’s job to push back. Be a good example, or your children risk becoming pushovers.

You want your daughter to stand strong when she says no to a disrespectful male wanting to have sex.

Btw, much of the popular music normalizes free sex in high school and college. This is fueling anxiety and depression in our young women.

I'm confused. Is she supposed to push back against the anti-sex rules, or push back against sex?

When I was her age I was listening to 90’s r&b nonstop - Silk- Freak Me… knockin da boots, H Town, etc etc. I was very much a prude in high school - had a boyfriend, but no sex. Just because you listen to certain types of music doesn’t mean it influences you.

Pretend you love it and sing along.

Seriously though I would limit it in front of the 5 year old and let her listen to whatever she wants in private/on headphones

omg, one of my teen's musical choices were HORRIBLE. Very explicit and raunchy. That said, I knew there was no way to control it so I didn't try. I mean, how do you keep a 15 yo from listening to whatever they want, at least when not in the house?

My other teen used earbuds exclusively, so I just assumed it was the same kind of music. Never inquired since I knew I wasn't going to do anything about it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent up.

This. You're the parent, act like it!

Exactly. Your job is to parent, unapologetically. Adolescent’s job to push back. Be a good example, or your children risk becoming pushovers.

You want your daughter to stand strong when she says no to a disrespectful male wanting to have sex.

Btw, much of the popular music normalizes free sex in high school and college. This is fueling anxiety and depression in our young women.

Do you mean songs such as Lil Jon’s “Get Low” ?

It is a popular song has anyone listened to what Lil Jon is communicating through these lyrics?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Freedom first, and all. This is America. Expression over repression, blah blah.

I get it: censorship is wrong. But somewhere in the middle:

- can someone explain the value added to your teen’s life by listening to the “N” word (if sung/spoke by a BIPOC) shouted at them? All I am seeing here is a hate-word and a double standard.

I only let my daughter listen to N-word shouted by white and indigenous people.

Personal preference.

Swing and a miss.

The “I” in BIPOC is for indigenous.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent up.

This. You're the parent, act like it!

Exactly. Your job is to parent, unapologetically. Adolescent’s job to push back. Be a good example, or your children risk becoming pushovers.

You want your daughter to stand strong when she says no to a disrespectful male wanting to have sex.

Btw, much of the popular music normalizes free sex in high school and college. This is fueling anxiety and depression in our young women.

Anonymous wrote:Parent up.

This. You're the parent, act like it!

You can either connect with your kids through their music or you can push them away. Your choice.

If a song comes on I hate or is just has too much negative energy I say "next".

But to say none of the music has any value shows you lack the ability to be open.

I mean some on Chappelle Roan songs are amazing. Sabrina Carpenter is too "explicit" ... really?

I don’t monitor what my teen listens too, and in the car, I sometimes lets her play her music, but at other times when I don’t feel like listening to it, I choose the music and she puts in headphones. It has never been an issue for use. I think in the car, especially when your 5yo is riding with you, you can just tell her that you don’t want to listen to it right now.