I’m an empty nester and divorced when my friends visit me they are visibly upset at calm, clean, and relaxing my house is.

My family is out of town and all I came up with over the holidays was spam DCUM with my thoughts and eat cookies.

I'm a single mom of a teen. I think in 5-10 years I will be living the life of the PPs who live in 2/2 condos alone. That is my dream.

Anonymous wrote:I often fantasize about being a widow

Join the club

Nope.
Kids turn into adults
Patience.

Anonymous wrote:My kid has adhd and a lot of guidance is needed for every day tasks - it would be quicker for me to just do it myself but I’m trying to turn her into a capable and responsible human. I’m tired of all the decision making and making everything come together in a functional way.

Same here. My adhd kid is the oldest. We had them cooking once a week starting during the pandemic but they have never stopped asking 1,000 questions while making a meal. What pan? How much water? How hot? Not sure if they want to appear incompetent or what.



At least they get their own breakfast.

I’m divorced and I have 50-50 custody. It has saved my mental health. I was spiraling in my marriage with people around all the time depending on me.

Yes but on the property I will also have a big ceramics studio that I will let strong backed young artists use for free. It will have huge windows into the woods or out across a field.

I do live alone. Most of the time it's great - I never have to compromise, clean up other people's messes, justify anything I do, do anything on anyone else's timetable, etc.

But a few months ago I was staying at a relative's house and she made breakfast for everyone. She cooked the eggs exactly how I cook mine, but hers tasted better. And I realized they tasted better because I hadn't had to make them. Sometimes I have to hire someone to do something I either am not strong enough to do, or can't do alone. I've gotten bruises and pulled muscles from not realizing how difficult something would be on my own. Other than these things, living alone is mostly great. I'm hardly ever lonely - maybe 2-3 times a year at most.

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Anonymous wrote:I live it. It's everything you think it would be.

My kids are grown, I loved being married and raising them but I gotta say, this is way more fun for me. I highly recommend it!

I have a great 2/2 condo, in the one place I always wanted to live (he certainly didn't) and I do whatever I want whenever I want all the time.

11:59 pp who is living the dream, and I think you and I might be twinsies! I, too, live in a 2/2 condo/townhouse, and find the setup to be the best thing since sliced bread.

Sometimes I wonder how I got so fortunate to be living my exact life fantasy, but I also know I made it happen, I worked many years to get to this place. It's the most incredible life though isn't it? I have plenty of love and friendship in my life, I do exactly which social things I like and feel like doing, I sleep when I want, get up when I want, travel if I want, stay home a lot, read, watch whatever I want on TV, read a lot of books, listen to a lot of music, and I am never bored or lonely. If I crave company I find some. If I want to talk to someone I text or call. I could go on and on, but you absolutely know what I mean!

Anonymous wrote:Newly divorced with elementary/ middle school kids. I do miss the kids when they aren’t here, but there are maybe 3-4 days every month where I wouldn’t see them at all — every other day I either have them or see them at least a little bit. The time I do have off is golden. I kept the house and am redoing it how I like it. It’s so peaceful and nice.

I thought the divorce would be a nightmare, but I am living every mom’s dream.

Ngl, having a few child-free days per month would be amazing for my health, home projects, self care, etc. My divorced friends with good coparenting relationships lead much more balanced lives because they have more time to focus on themselves, work, etc.

-Parent of 2 kids

Anonymous wrote:I often fantasize about being a widow

I am a widow. It’s very lonely.

I did that in my mid 20s. It got lonely at times. And I am an extreme introvert. The most I wish for these days is a week away.

Anonymous wrote:

I often fantasize about being a widow

And your DH fantasizes about being a widower.

You are lovely match and great role models for your kids.

You are trolling an anon on an anon board, thinking you're insulting them.

This is a story about you, and you're not the hero/ine you think you are.

Newly divorced with elementary/ middle school kids. I do miss the kids when they aren’t here, but there are maybe 3-4 days every month where I wouldn’t see them at all — every other day I either have them or see them at least a little bit. The time I do have off is golden. I kept the house and am redoing it how I like it. It’s so peaceful and nice.

I thought the divorce would be a nightmare, but I am living every mom’s dream.