Anonymous
Post 01/02/2025 14:46     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
You can get couch covers that are water proof— they are meant for pets. I would try that. I had them when my kids were potty training.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2025 14:24     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
My parents have been wearing diapers for five years and their house does not smell like urine.

If the patient still walks, wear pulls up and take to the bathroom every two hours.

If patient does not walk, check diaper every hour and change when wet.

Use chuck pads, disposable or otherwise. We use disposable on beds and cloth on their chair and wheelchairs. You have to be careful which kinds you use because they can be bad for your skin.

We empty garbage multiple times a day.

If house smells bad, the care plan is not good enough. (But please don't criticize relative who is caring for them because they are probably doing their best.)
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2025 14:18     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Anonymous wrote:Update: We’re in the home stretch. LO get’s picked up tomorrow AM. No shattered bones or midnight rummaging through cabinets. Just a lot of laundry loads, garbage bags of dirty diapers, and cajoling or bribing to get LO to agree to be changed. But we survived. And the regular caregiver has sent vacation photos in which they look a decade younger. I’m glad we did it. But I will never do it again.

I know my home smells, but a cleaning crew is coming tomorrow to do a deep clean with ozone treatment. Airing out has not helped as much as I thought it would. Every time I left home, I worried the smell was on my clothing.

Also, I started drinking alcohol again after a year abstaining. Just a glass with dinner, but my goal is drop that starting today.



Airing out the house will only help if you wash everything right after the accidents and clean things really well. Airing out doesn't get rid of the problem. Cleaning does.

Your caregiver deserves a raise.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2025 14:17     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Anonymous wrote:Update: We’re in the home stretch. LO get’s picked up tomorrow AM. No shattered bones or midnight rummaging through cabinets. Just a lot of laundry loads, garbage bags of dirty diapers, and cajoling or bribing to get LO to agree to be changed. But we survived. And the regular caregiver has sent vacation photos in which they look a decade younger. I’m glad we did it. But I will never do it again.

I know my home smells, but a cleaning crew is coming tomorrow to do a deep clean with ozone treatment. Airing out has not helped as much as I thought it would. Every time I left home, I worried the smell was on my clothing.

Also, I started drinking alcohol again after a year abstaining. Just a glass with dinner, but my goal is drop that starting today.



Wash everything well with a sanitizer and use a pet cleaner - I like no scent off amazon but its pricy to clean up surfaces.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2025 14:14     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Glad you are in the home stretch OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2025 14:05     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Update: We’re in the home stretch. LO get’s picked up tomorrow AM. No shattered bones or midnight rummaging through cabinets. Just a lot of laundry loads, garbage bags of dirty diapers, and cajoling or bribing to get LO to agree to be changed. But we survived. And the regular caregiver has sent vacation photos in which they look a decade younger. I’m glad we did it. But I will never do it again.

I know my home smells, but a cleaning crew is coming tomorrow to do a deep clean with ozone treatment. Airing out has not helped as much as I thought it would. Every time I left home, I worried the smell was on my clothing.

Also, I started drinking alcohol again after a year abstaining. Just a glass with dinner, but my goal is drop that starting today.

Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 07:43     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Hire a nurse to do it.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 07:38     Subject: Re:Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
When my dad died my sister brought my mom to her house for the night. She tripped over a step and shattered her nose into hundreds of bone fragments. And that was when she was still in the early stages of dementia. It would be even more cruel to relocate her now, several years later.

Do not do this.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2024 11:37     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Oh OP! Do not do this. They are going to be so disoriented and agitated. I bought my aunt in for a respite stay and after 3 hours she thought she had been kidnapped and lost for weeks - then started physically trying to break out of the house. Incontinence is the least of your worries.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2024 09:04     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Anonymous wrote:Nurse here.

I know it's probably too late, but I 100% agree with the recommendation to not transfer the LO out of their environment. And instead either hire agency aides (ie, from Home Instead or similar) OR send DH to LO's apartment to room in. (or DH looks in on your mother 1 hr away and -you- change locations to LO's apartment).

Your intentions are noble, truly, however you need to know that it's cruel for the LO with memory loss to abruptly move locations. Urine on chairs is the least of it. I would expect night walking, attempts to leave your home during the night, rummaging through cabinets [have you locked up the meds and vitamins?] and more.

There are very significant safety risks in this plan as described, unless you plan to sit at LO's bedside all night and alternate sleeping with DH. Ever heard of a Silver Alert? this is how it starts.

If you're determined to do this, despite the agitation it will invariably cause LO, then you really must buy a version of this bed alarm, to put under the bed sheet:

https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Caregiver-Bed-Alarm-Sensor/dp/B00489SJ4S?source=ps-sl-shoppingads-lpcontext&ref_=fplfs&psc=1&smid=A2TORNECBMNNW4&gQT=1

For your upholstered furniture, go the pet section of Amazon, or Chewy.com or in person at a chain pet store. Buy waterproof carseat covers like this. You can hose them off when you're done and give them to the regular caregiver of the LO for their own apartment OR donate to a dog fostering nonprofit or vet:

https://www.chewy.com/4knines-rear-fitted-seat-cover/dp/158385?utm_source=google-product&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=20196576200&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAjp-7BhBZEiwAmh9rBXug_BfYQ1H5cXCgyumRnjLTIoMRp5Z7IRVPbHrexDiYYJXucN8mihoCCXIQAvD_BwE

Again, I commend your instincts but -- as a person who takes care of people with memory loss -- I think this is a bad plan


+100. We have had to child proof my parents house for my dad. I guarantee that any house without a toddler is not safe for a disoriented dementia patient. My dad walks around half the night rummaging in his closets and cabinets. My mom has loud door alarms on all doors leading outside. We have apple tags in half a dozen things he might take with him if he wanders. He gets anxious when he doesn't understand a situation (which is pretty much all the time now) and will dig in his heels and refuse to do anything. Everything moves too fast for him.

I 100% agree that making local arrangements to check in with your mom so you can go to your LO's house is much much much safer in the long run. Getting and aide or DH to check your mom seems like a much lighter lift than taking your LO out of their safe environment.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2024 08:30     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Anonymous wrote:I would not allow that person in my house. Disgusting.


I may be your turn one day and you will need help. You should work on developing some compassion or you will have a very hard time in your old age.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2024 08:28     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
I would not allow that person in my house. Disgusting.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2024 08:19     Subject: Tips for hosting incontinent house guest for 7+ days?
Try to get your loved one on a regular toilet schedule. Like every two hours while awake.