Anonymous wrote:I don’t really want or need anything so I tell mine no.

This, I have what I need, I’m not into designer stuff. I’d rather they spend it on them.

My kids are too young to give large presents but my youngest took money he earned doing chores and bought me some pretty yarn for Christmas. He asked my mom to take him to the store to shop. It is one of the last things she did with us before she had a stroke and died. I haven’t been able to knit it up yet because I cry when I hold the yarn but it is so meaningful to me.

I give my parents things when I think they will really like them. Like I got my dad a heated water hose (he has a farm and I hated him wrestling with heavy frozen hoses). And I got my mom tickets to a concert for us in the front row. She was in the hospital and we couldn’t use them, but it meant a lot to her I gave her this experience together as a gift.

I love giving to my family members and my parents.

White adult child here:

Aside from birthday/christmas:

Flowers
Tickets to events
Experiences

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really want or need anything so I tell mine no.

This denies them the opportunity to give you something, which can feel really good to the giver.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only gift a parent wants from a child is sme time and attention.

We are South Asians and this is all we want. To know that they care, no need to prove it with material stuff.

This.

Anonymous wrote:The only gift a parent wants from a child is sme time and attention.

We are South Asians and this is all we want. To know that they care, no need to prove it with material stuff.

Anonymous wrote:I literally don’t understand wtf you’re talking about. Because your neighbor’s Asian child gave their parents a designer bag, you assume that all Asian kids give their parent such a gift? And your husband is Asian?

It's easier to understand if you read the whole post and don't skip parts.

The emotion behind Asian kids giving from their first paycheck to the parents is something else.

You also have to understand that the financial support and leg up that Asian parents give to their children is unparalleled. They will eat rice and beans to make sure that their kids have the best food, best clothes and best education that they can afford.

It is a celebration of how the parents sacrifice has made the child successful and they can continue to do well in life. Its a blessing.

The only gift a parent wants from a child is sme time and attention.

Anonymous wrote:Curious, my kids have graduated college, one working. They are up to something, I'm excited. We never received anything up to now except they made us breakfast when young, dinner when we were older. Always loved that. Neighbor, Asian mom, received a designer purse from her college graduate daughter last year, my friend says it's customary in her country when their child graduates college and has a really good job... Over the top, can that be real? Asian people, really? My husband is Asian... himmm

Yes, In many Asian cultures (and family culture) something special from the kid's first paycheck for parents, elders, siblings and other relatives. Your husband is Asian but you are not. Maybe that cultural connection got lost because it is not your culture?

Lots of trips.

Most years, I receive something on Mother's day, mug, small decor item, blanket, perfume etc. No big deal if they forget.