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Anonymous wrote:I don’t want pictures of me or my family on social media, ugh.

Why? This is normal behavior.

It's actually not normal to post photos of other people's children on the internet.

There was a story on 60 minutes this week (I know, but it came in after football so we watched some while making dinner) about how child porn purveyors have started using AI to make photos of teens and tweens look like they are nude or in sexual situations. Especially easy with a photo of kids in bathing suits but they can do it with any photo.

So no, it is not normal to post photos of other people's children online.

You don't understand the meaning of the word normal.

I hate social media, but you make no sense.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the reasons I’m no longer involved with a group of neighbors - this happened regularly - pics and posts of get togethers, nights out, lunches. So incredibly rude. Especially when captioned with proclamations like , “couldn’t have made it thru the year without these ladies!”

I don’t understand why it has to be posted on social media. I take photos with friends. We share with one another only.

pp and it became a competition for friendship with the Queen Bee who suffered through a tragic situation. We rallied support and each helped in our own ways. But soon the sick and twisted prize was Queen Bee publicly exalting those who did more the more extraordinary acts of service thru posts.

Then the wannabe lackeys fell all over themselves to out-do one another.

Do we live in the same neighborhood??? I stopped hanging out with many women in my neighborhood who fall over themselves to try to suck up to the self-appointed queen bee.

DP (who posted separately about this, not in the quote section above) and I had the same question about if we live in the same neighborhood! It's the same right down to the tragic situation.

Anonymous wrote:It’s done precisely to brag and show that certain moms aren’t in the clique.

+1. That's exactly why some of these women do it. Case in point, women in my neighborhood used to casually hang-out, neighborhood events, a girls night once or twice a year. There was a group text (asking general questions, etc). During COVID a bunch of new families moved in, including some crazy queen bee types. Suddenly, the group text is a What's App with 30+ members, the queen bee is sending unsolicited photos of her being involved in any and all social activities in the neighborhood to solidify her status. I muted the alerts, but do I need to receive a video of a group of moms in their 40s doing a shot-ski at a birthday party for a 5 year old? Because that is what was sent this weekend. There is useful information shared in this chat - but it's also a way for some moms to show that they are in the clique and others are not.

That's silly. The whole world isn't invited. It's not rude to post pics of things you weren't invited to. Everyone can't be invited.

Story of my life...
I love seeing the birthday party with the kid my son thinks he is good friends with captioned "So happy to have Larlo's boy crew!" At least he doesn't see it..
Also lost a good friend because I didn't invite them to my own son's backyard party in spring 2021. She was SUPER Covid-cautious and I thought she'd freak out if she knew we were doing anything. I'm not sure if she thought we were irresponsible or was mad her son wasn't invited but years-long friendship over because someone couldn't resist that Facebook post.

Anonymous wrote:I feel it is rude to others you didn’t invite. I had a small gathering at my house this past weekend and invited some of my adult friends and some of my child’s friends and parents. Several people posted photos of my house on social media and now I feel bad about not inviting some people. I can feel two friends being mad that they were not invited.

It is totally fine to post photos of your own kids or your own outing or vacation.

It’s a way of being exclusionary.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the reasons I’m no longer involved with a group of neighbors - this happened regularly - pics and posts of get togethers, nights out, lunches. So incredibly rude. Especially when captioned with proclamations like , “couldn’t have made it thru the year without these ladies!”

I don’t understand why it has to be posted on social media. I take photos with friends. We share with one another only.

pp and it became a competition for friendship with the Queen Bee who suffered through a tragic situation. We rallied support and each helped in our own ways. But soon the sick and twisted prize was Queen Bee publicly exalting those who did more the more extraordinary acts of service thru posts.

Then the wannabe lackeys fell all over themselves to out-do one another.

Do we live in the same neighborhood??? I stopped hanging out with many women in my neighborhood who fall over themselves to try to suck up to the self-appointed queen bee.

Anonymous wrote:This was ok maybe back in 2014. Now seems a bit thirsty.

+1. I agree that this used to be more common and acceptable and feels desperate and cringey in the year 2024.

It’s done precisely to brag and show that certain moms aren’t in the clique.

Anonymous wrote:One of the reasons I’m no longer involved with a group of neighbors - this happened regularly - pics and posts of get togethers, nights out, lunches. So incredibly rude. Especially when captioned with proclamations like , “couldn’t have made it thru the year without these ladies!”

We have a group of neighbors like this too. I assume the picks are directed at others within the group (they typically repost the same instagram stories posted by each other). Over time I ended up muting all of them because it wasn't directed at me. It was just another way of offering each other support.

If it's actually intended to be high school bragging, cool, I don't see it. If it's intended as I took it, cool, it's not for me anyway.

Yes they could do all this in a text thread, but they don't and that's fine.

This was ok maybe back in 2014. Now seems a bit thirsty.

It’s all so junior high and immature. Same women who are hyper fixated on socially engineering their DC.