18/end of high school makes sense. I plan to gift my nephews through their last Christmas at home, and the high school graduation, then done! All gifts cards or money at that point.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm actually so pissed about this because I sent presents for my siblings' kids until they were in their 20s. This year, my sister declared that we are not giving gifts for kids anymore. My kids are in elementary school.

That is what happened in our family too. There is nothing you can really do except move on.

Same. I was sending our nieces on my husband's side gifts until they were in their mid-twenties. My SIL stopped with my kids when they were in their teens. She also stopped birthday cards at the same time. I don't care that they don't get money or gift cards for their birthday, but I think it's odd that she doesn't even acknowledge their birthdays with a simple card/text/phone call.

I still do gifts, bc they haven't reached that age yet, but I plan to cease birthday gifts at 18. I'll give then something for graduation and other major life events after that.

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Anonymous wrote:Still doing it at 21. Would feel rude to get something for their younger sib and not them.

This. For those of you who stop at 18, are there younger siblings you continue to give gifts to?

Yes. Everyone gets birthday and Christmas presents until they are 18 and then they get a graduation present and then that's it.

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I stopped at random ages because I Never, Ever heard anything from my nieces and nephews regarding the gifts. It seems like they didn’t care much about it, so why should I? So one year, I just stopped.

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Anonymous wrote:Still doing it at 21. Would feel rude to get something for their younger sib and not them.

This. For those of you who stop at 18, are there younger siblings you continue to give gifts to?

Yes. Everyone gets birthday and Christmas presents until they are 18 and then they get a graduation present and then that's it.

I gave them gifts until they graduated college since they were on shoestring budgets all the way through and finding appropriate gifts was easy. I have resumed with the one niece who is a newly single sole custody mom of two and rarely spends on herself. She should get treated.

If you still gift for birthdays, stop the Christmas gifts now. Then, decide on an age to stop with the birthday gifts. My sons were the oldest cousins so I told my sister and SIL to stop after high school.