Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and don’t plan to marry the 22-27yo women I date and they don’t think that as well. This is short term fun and, yes, being friends.
I have dated many professional women close to my age in DC that work on Cap Hill or for the IMF or DOJ. Once someone from NSA. There is no difference as far as how much I spend dating/travel when I’m dating someone younger, so you can’t say they’re with me for my money. We have fun times and they say I treat them better than men their own age.
I don’t expect these relationships to last and no one is sad when we move on. Usually we stay friends.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.
Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.
Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).
The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.
I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.
NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.
To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.
When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.
If she’s so great, why’d she marry a 25 years older man? Any woman who respected themselves and womankind in general would not do that.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.
Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.
Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).
The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.
I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.
NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.
To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.
When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.
Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.
Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).
The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.
I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.
But no, we don’t hate ex husbands or their new GFs/wives. It’s just telling to me that my exH was NOT the person I would like to spend my retirement with. It’s telling that he had no integrity and zero gratitude. So good luck to his new wife to take care of him when he’s old.
To these men - when you say that the new GF is hotter, better, kinder etc -wasn’t your first wife just the same in her 20s ? She also could have married an “established” older man when she was in her prime. But she chose you, back then a poor student/young professional, and entrusted her best years to have kids and build a life. So no, your new GF is just a calculative, cold piece of s..t who secretly despises and disrespects you for being a wallet and a chump.
This is so spot on.
One of my favorite things is when we go out and I can see the triggered reactions like these above.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.
Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.
Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).
The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.
I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.
NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.
To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.
When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.
If she’s so great, why’d she marry a 25 years older man? Any woman who respected themselves and womankind in general would not do that.
She was 22, idealistic, and inexperienced, and he was very charming.
But thanks for proving my point and blaming the victim.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.
Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.
Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).
The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.
I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.
NP. Thank you. I am married to a man like you and I hope your kind is actually the majority.
To OP’s question, the only large age difference relationship I have had the chance to observe closely is a friend of mine who married a man 25 years her senior. He was a hot shot in international politics (some DCUM posters would surely know his name), married her when she was 22 and he 47. He cheated on her constantly, including while she was giving birth to their second and third children. Now he’s late 60s and has health issues, and the rest of her youthful years will be spent caring for him. She looks like Jennifer Lopez without exaggerating, literally has an ivy PhD, is an incredibly kind friend and devoted mom. I feel awful for her, and she has never had the courage to leave because of the kids. Maybe she will now but I’ve given up talking to her about it.
When I hear of age gap relationships like this, it makes me very sad. Maybe some are “true love” but the majority is just users taking advantage of young women.
If she’s so great, why’d she marry a 25 years older man? Any woman who respected themselves and womankind in general would not do that.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because there is a lot of negativity towards older women coming from those same men. Read this forum: post menopausal, low L, crazy, cat lady etc. As if they forgotten that they used to admire and married those same women 20 years ago. It sucks when out of a sudden half of humanity considers you second sort citizen just because you aged. Men feel like they are invincible, can offload inconvenient old wife AND the kids and start completely anew. And they brag about it.
Women are still economically less privileged, and age discrimination post 40 is real at workplace. Many end up devoting their best years to families only to be kicked to the curb by employers, husbands, and out of a sudden become invisible.
Younger women rush get their slice of this pie, and often bully ex wives on this forum and with their partners. A of it is economical completion for men’s resources (which they often accumulated with direct support and huge sacrifices of the first wives).
The government should pay US mothers to have kids because women are still unprotected class in this country.
I am a man and I completely agree with everything you said.
But no, we don’t hate ex husbands or their new GFs/wives. It’s just telling to me that my exH was NOT the person I would like to spend my retirement with. It’s telling that he had no integrity and zero gratitude. So good luck to his new wife to take care of him when he’s old.
To these men - when you say that the new GF is hotter, better, kinder etc -wasn’t your first wife just the same in her 20s ? She also could have married an “established” older man when she was in her prime. But she chose you, back then a poor student/young professional, and entrusted her best years to have kids and build a life. So no, your new GF is just a calculative, cold piece of s..t who secretly despises and disrespects you for being a wallet and a chump.
This is so spot on.