Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't even take his last name let alone his first name. Just send it to him alone if you don't care to know or acknowledge that.

ANYWAY

Nope. This is the traditional way to address a card. You chose a nontraditional route and can't expect people to keep track.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Extra fun when the married couple gives each child a different surname: DD gets mom’s, DS gets dad’s so I’d write:

The Washington-Jefferson Family

Inside: Dear Maria & John, James & Andrew,

Can't wait until the kids start making up their own last names at 18.

Extra fun when the married couple gives each child a different surname: DD gets mom’s, DS gets dad’s so I’d write:

The Washington-Jefferson Family

Inside: Dear Maria & John, James & Andrew,

Traditionally, only divorced or widowed women used Mrs. (their first name) (husband's last name).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I get it ..

The Christmas cards we've received for this year have been addressed to us as follows

Mr and Mrs LAST NAME
The LAST NAME's

This is OP - and honestly I wouldn't LOVE these but they wouldn't irk me to the degree it does being addressed as Mrs husband's first name.

I absolutely understand.
Are you comfortable with giving them a gentle reminder that your last name differs from that of your husband?
Some older more traditional generations have a hard time with things..

We've tried - and last year my husband's sibling promised to get it fixed for this year. I think it's time to give up this fight, but I won't give up being annoyed by it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I get it ..

The Christmas cards we've received for this year have been addressed to us as follows

Mr and Mrs LAST NAME
The LAST NAME's

This is OP - and honestly I wouldn't LOVE these but they wouldn't irk me to the degree it does being addressed as Mrs husband's first name.

I absolutely understand.
Are you comfortable with giving them a gentle reminder that your last name differs from that of your husband?
Some older more traditional generations have a hard time with things..

Np here, but if someone reached out to tell me they don’t like how I addressed their Christmas card, I’m happy to spare them the trouble of receiving one in the future.

I can’t imagine having any feelings at all about how Aunt Glenda addressed her holiday card to me. My sense of self does not depend on how other people address me.

Just go informal and address the envelope this way:

Mary & Larlo
123 Street
Etc etc


Or

The McAloose-Whateverthepartnerssurnameis Family

Or

Mary & Larlo
Cassideigh, Caisson & Cadance
Address

I’m sure I’m committing faux pas here. I only put one name on the envelope, the person we’re closest to. Then on the card itself, address everyone in the family by their first name.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I get it ..

The Christmas cards we've received for this year have been addressed to us as follows

Mr and Mrs LAST NAME
The LAST NAME's

This is OP - and honestly I wouldn't LOVE these but they wouldn't irk me to the degree it does being addressed as Mrs husband's first name.

I absolutely understand.
Are you comfortable with giving them a gentle reminder that your last name differs from that of your husband?
Some older more traditional generations have a hard time with things..

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't even take his last name let alone his first name. Just send it to him alone if you don't care to know or acknowledge that.

ANYWAY

Nope. This is the traditional way to address a card. You chose a nontraditional route and can't expect people to keep track.

Nope. This is the traditional way to address a card to married couples who SHARE A LAST NAME. It's also incorrect according to modern Emily Post standards.

OP, just sent them a card addressed Mr. and Mrs. HER first and last name.

Really? I would seriously love to cite this to my MIL - link?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't even take his last name let alone his first name. Just send it to him alone if you don't care to know or acknowledge that.

ANYWAY

Nope. This is the traditional way to address a card. You chose a nontraditional route and can't expect people to keep track.

Give me a break.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't even take his last name let alone his first name. Just send it to him alone if you don't care to know or acknowledge that.

ANYWAY

Nope. This is the traditional way to address a card. You chose a nontraditional route and can't expect people to keep track.

Nope. This is the traditional way to address a card to married couples who SHARE A LAST NAME. It's also incorrect according to modern Emily Post standards.

OP, just sent them a card addressed Mr. and Mrs. HER first and last name.

Anonymous wrote:
I get it ..

The Christmas cards we've received for this year have been addressed to us as follows

Mr and Mrs LAST NAME
The LAST NAME's

This is OP - and honestly I wouldn't LOVE these but they wouldn't irk me to the degree it does being addressed as Mrs husband's first name.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everything needs to be taken personally as though it was meant to offend you.

Except it's close family and we've brought it up with them a couple of times in years past already because I do not like it. I don't think it's MEANT to offend me. And I'm not offended. I'm irritated.

If it hasn't worked by telling them directly what good will it do to shout about it here?

Is this your first time on DCUM? Sometimes a person vents because that's all there is to do. Welcome to being human on the internet.

Anonymous wrote:I didn't even take his last name let alone his first name. Just send it to him alone if you don't care to know or acknowledge that.

ANYWAY

Nope. This is the traditional way to address a card. You chose a nontraditional route and can't expect people to keep track.