9:00PM at the latest on a school night for 8th grader. They get up at 6:15-6:30am need the sleep!

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Anonymous wrote:7th graders: in bed by 9, read for a bit, asleep by 10. Me: in bed by 10:30, read for a bit, asleep by 11. We all get up at 6:15 on school days.

Sleep 10p wake at 6:15? Not enough. Try in bed by 8:30p, read a bit, asleep by 9:15p

In bed by 8:30 is unrealistic for any kids with practices/sports that run until 7:30-8:00. My kids don’t want dinner beforehand but they do their homework when they get home from school. They usually are in bed around 9:30 and are asleep around 9:45.

Right? My 7th grade DS has basketball practice from 7-8:30. No way he’s in bed at 8:30.

There’s always that one person on every thread who thinks life is one size fits all and everyone who doesn’t do it their way is is Doing It Wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:7th graders: in bed by 9, read for a bit, asleep by 10. Me: in bed by 10:30, read for a bit, asleep by 11. We all get up at 6:15 on school days.

Sleep 10p wake at 6:15? Not enough. Try in bed by 8:30p, read a bit, asleep by 9:15p

In bed by 8:30 is unrealistic for any kids with practices/sports that run until 7:30-8:00. My kids don’t want dinner beforehand but they do their homework when they get home from school. They usually are in bed around 9:30 and are asleep around 9:45.

My 8th grader doesn’t have a bedtime - y’all are controlling

Anonymous wrote:7th graders: in bed by 9, read for a bit, asleep by 10. Me: in bed by 10:30, read for a bit, asleep by 11. We all get up at 6:15 on school days.

Sleep 10p wake at 6:15? Not enough. Try in bed by 8:30p, read a bit, asleep by 9:15p

7th graders: in bed by 9, read for a bit, asleep by 10. Me: in bed by 10:30, read for a bit, asleep by 11. We all get up at 6:15 on school days.

Anonymous wrote:10pm and Im usually right behind. DH stays up until closer to midnight.

That's so odd you don't both go to bed at the same time.

My 6th grader doesn't really have a bedtime but he's usually in bed around 10-10:30, I couldn't imagine making him go to bed any earlier than that at his age.

HS starts late here (Loudoun) - tardy bell is at 9:30 and my teen leaves about 8:45am to drive to school (bus time was similar.) Even she is in her room by 10pm and either reads, or draws or listens to music. I am in bed by 10pm as well, and my middle schooler is in bed by 9:30pm.

OP here. My kids hockey friends have really late bed times 11pm or later most nights. Not sure how parents manage that. Plus they sometimes need to get up really early the next morning for games too. I am glad to know that I am not the only one who pushes consistent early bedtime.

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked to hear some middle schoolers are going to bed before 9. That seems very early -for them to be compliant and willing

Not always compliant but banning tech in the bedroom is the place to start and beginning the nighttime routine well before helps set the stage. We also were strict on the "in bed" time but softer on actual "lights out." They read a lot of books but there were just as many nights that we'd be the ones putting a bookmark in the pages and turning out their lights when we were headed for bed....because they'd already fallen asleep.

I'm the RVA PP and I don't see how ya'll (and other localities) deal with wicked early start times for middle and high school. It's those growth spurt years of 7-10th grades when we found ours needed/wanted the most sleep. Since we couldn't control the morning start times....we made the adjustments on bedtime.

Ours did complain, kinda sorta...but now, not at all. It's not unusual for our entire house to be dark by 9:30p. 5-6am comes early!

Anonymous wrote:Mine starts getting ready at 9:30. Gets in bed at 10/10:30.

Same but asleep by 10-10:30 awake on own at 6:45.

My 7th grader is supposed to be lights out at 10pm but she often struggles to fall asleep so I bet its more like 10:30 that she's actually asleep. She starts getting ready at 8:45/9 and is supposed to be in bed reading at 9:30. She gets up at 7. I also see texts from her friends at 11 or even later, so some kids are up super late. I'm normally in bed by 10ish but I read or watch TV till around 11. DH stays up late, normally in bed between 12-1.

You are not the only ones, OP! Our 8th grader is up at 6AM, so her lights are out at 9PM, but it usually takes her about 30 minutes to actually fall asleep. Our 10-year-old goes to bed a little bit earlier, but his school doesn’t start until 915 so he typically sleeps until 7AM. My husband and I get in bed by 10 PM and are usually asleep by 10:30.
Any less sleep and we would all be miserable!

Anonymous wrote:9 for my 8th grader except on one weeknight where she doesn’t get home from an activity until 9:15. Weekends are more flexible as she often sits until 10-11 for other families.

Oh, and we go to bed 10:30ish, unless she’s out sitting then we wait up.