Cleaning lady
Hair stylist
Manicurist
Former nanny who still helps out
Exterminator (yes!)

Cleaners at work, not much, maybe $60 each (3 of them).

Busboys at my local, $100 each, x3.

Cleaners
Hair stylist

Mail carrier - tbd
Cleaners - frustrated with the current ones and about to find a replacement, so no bonus this year
Barber - $100
Nanny - 1 week salary

HS teachers (there's a fund), building staff (we live in a full-service condo), parking garage attendants, housekeeper, newspaper delivery guy, dog day care staff, guitar teacher. I also get gifts for my facialist, hair stylist, and the staff at the Pure Barre studio I attend.

I haven’t tipped a teacher since dc were in elementary school. Do you really tip high school teachers?

Anonymous wrote:I’m putting this on the parenting forum because I think there are some family-specific holiday pay outs. I’m wondering to whom you give holiday bonuses/tips? I feel like I never learned this part of adulting. If you can make a list of who you give $$ at this time of year and how much, that’d be a huge help to me! Our HHI is $250K if that helps set the stage.

1. Mail carrier? How much?
2. Cleaners? How much?
3. Teachers? (Our school does this through centralized donations to PTA, so that’s easy)
4. What about activity teachers like the piano teacher or a coach? If “yes” how much?
5. Anyone else?

We don’t celebrate Xmas, but I know that it’s a norm to give gifts at this time of year and I want to show my appreciation in a way that is in line with general cultural norms. I want to give sane amounts to the right people. Help!

We tip DH’s barber $200, my hairstylist $300. We have three cleaning ladies that visit every other week. We tip each of them $250.

We tip the mail carrier $100. We tip each of the garbage collectors $150. We have a weekly mowing service and leaf cleanup crew of about five people and we tip each of them $300. We tip each one of our kids’ teachers $100, every DoorDasher an extra $10 per delivery throughout all of December, and the florist that makes all of our centerpieces $250.

We tip our personal trainers each $500 and the grocery store checkout clerks $20 every time we buy groceries throughout December. We tip an extra $5 for every Starbucks coffee and an extra 10% (35% total) on every restaurant meal during December. We tip our flight attendants $50 each, the pilots $100 each, and the TSA security staff $20 each when we fly over Christmas for vacation.

Most importantly, our kids leave a tip on Christmas Eve for Santa ($300) and each of his reindeer ($50 each).

Anonymous wrote:No one! I also don't have a cleaner, doorman, dog walker, nanny or anything like that. Childs teacher got a gift certificate to the book fair.

So selfish.

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PT Nanny $200 (when we had one)
Teachers $25 allowed kids to pick up to four
Coaches $25

We also gift cakes from Nothing Bundt.
Gave those to the teachers who did their college recommendations.

That sounds like a nice gesture

or bribery?

You give the gift after the recommendation is written. It's hardly bribery. It's polite and accepted.

but money? not, i don't know, a nice handcream or something?

Mail carrier: 10, plus a small treat
Garbage guys: 15 each, plus a small treat
Grocery delivery: I tip weekly, but may add 10 and a small treat for Christmas.

We are also "lower income" dcum at 150k a year, and don't have kids in school any longer. Would probably tip more if I made more.

Do people give a bonus to an occupational therapist or other SpecEd therapists in private practice?

We pay out the azz for that service ($320/ session charged to insurance and then pay $160/session out-of-pocket)

Nobody. We have Coach gifts but that's end of season, not a Christmas thing. Don't have any help at home or beauty people.

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Anonymous wrote:
PT Nanny $200 (when we had one)
Teachers $25 allowed kids to pick up to four
Coaches $25

We also gift cakes from Nothing Bundt.
Gave those to the teachers who did their college recommendations.

That sounds like a nice gesture

or bribery?

Cynical ^^

Daycare holiday fund: $450
Public school teacher holiday fund (organized by our room parent): $25
Aftercare holiday fund (organized by PTA): $25

We have 2 maintenance men: $150/each
Cleaning woman: $200