Anonymous wrote:I work in a very technical field and yes, I do care where kids that I am hiring went to college.

As an exec who hires based on knowledge, ability, and track record, I don't pay attention to where applicants went to college. Of course many great applicants went to elite colleges, but those applicants' talents speak for themselves.

Anonymous wrote:I found it interesting where kids went and what majors they chose. Some predictable. Some not. Yes, there were some, "how the heck did he get into Berkeley, U Texas" etc kids. Some schools I hadn't heard of but sounded really good. Feel like I learned a lot about what's out there.

+1 I think it's interesting but have zero snob attitude about colleges. I think it's interesting to learn about different schools and why a student chooses where they want to go. I love to hear about a school I didn't know.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that society and the workplace need to change when it comes to this: Excellent students now pick in-state or lesser-known schools simply because of tuition costs. It doesn't mean they are less deserving. But it's still very much 45+yos hiring and that segment had it easier and cheaper so they do not all get it.

Ivy was far cheaper than UVA in state for ours, and a little cheaper than the T16-20 ranked privates that gave DC aid. We get need based aid and ivies are a great deal. It is less than 25k per year for us. UVA gave us only a small amount of beed based aid.

That's great but you knew that wasn't what I meant. A lot of kids are in that limbo of not qualifying for a lot or any aid and not having wealthy parents.

Nope not buying it is “not having wealthy parents” when ivies give need aid to families with HHI in the low to mid 200s. Come off it that’s rich . Ok so 250-260+ is about the lowest HHI that can get some aid. So what?? That’s easily full pay level for one kid, and for many if you have half a brain and saved 20k each year for some years. And yes DMV and people like us in that range (upper 200s) are full pay and fine. Not poor. Not in limbo. We are rich. We just spend it on an ivy education because we know what the name of an elite college can do and we know the difference in education

I will not share where my dd is going with anyone. Tbh I feel bad even telling family because they will gossip and assume bad things about her based on it. It makes me sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that society and the workplace need to change when it comes to this: Excellent students now pick in-state or lesser-known schools simply because of tuition costs. It doesn't mean they are less deserving. But it's still very much 45+yos hiring and that segment had it easier and cheaper so they do not all get it.

Ivy was far cheaper than UVA in state for ours, and a little cheaper than the T16-20 ranked privates that gave DC aid. We get need based aid and ivies are a great deal. It is less than 25k per year for us. UVA gave us only a small amount of beed based aid.

That's great but you knew that wasn't what I meant. A lot of kids are in that limbo of not qualifying for a lot or any aid and not having wealthy parents.

Anonymous wrote:If someone else’s kid gets into HYPS and yours is at JMU (or maybe even UVA) then you know on some level you’re going to feel salty about it.

Not me.

I wasn't willing to do to my kids what needed to be done to get into HPY. So I would never even think to be salty.

For example, I have a brother that is the HPY type very successful, friends were always like... aren't you jealous and I thought no because I see from the front row of his life what he had to do to get there.

Heart attack at 50.

Anonymous wrote:I think that society and the workplace need to change when it comes to this: Excellent students now pick in-state or lesser-known schools simply because of tuition costs. It doesn't mean they are less deserving. But it's still very much 45+yos hiring and that segment had it easier and cheaper so they do not all get it.

Ivy was far cheaper than UVA in state for ours, and a little cheaper than the T16-20 ranked privates that gave DC aid. We get need based aid and ivies are a great deal. It is less than 25k per year for us. UVA gave us only a small amount of beed based aid.

I get excited when kids go somewhere I hadn’t thought of or that’s off the beaten path for our area. There are so many schools out there and I’ve really enjoyed seeing the breadth of choices over the years. Because of the age spread of my kids, I’ve followed those senior class matriculation Instagram accounts at several HSs for a while, and it’s reassuring to see how many truly interesting options are out there.

So yes, I care in the sense of it being interesting and eye-opening to see where specific kids end up because it’s opened my mind to some places I didn’t really know about or understand when I was that age.

I couldn't care less. My kid attended an HBCU, and not one of the popular high-ranking ones. When asked I'll proudly tell you where my kid attended even though you may have never heard of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course people care. Almost everyone cares and is impressed by names of smart-kid schools. The reaction was the same everywhere when I graduated my T10 years ago. The name causes people to assume you are smart. It is a very predictable reaction and happened at every level of job seeking and meeting fellow parents at the preschool and up. The name should not matter as much but it does. In my job more than half of the leaders went to ivy/elite names so no one cares anymore because everyone treats each other the same at this level. When we hire we try not to care but it comes up sometimes.

Yeah, this surprised me. I went in-state because it's all my parents could afford. My kid is at an Ivy and my kid didn't post on Instagram and we didn't broadcast it--but when I'm with him and people ask where is attending school--there is a lot of 'oh wow', 'holy cow' type stuff. One grandpa (asian) of my kid's friends started poking his finger and shouting 'ivy, ivy' in a grocery store which highly embarrassed us. lol
I will say, after having a kid at a non-Ivy it really is a much different reaction from people, more than the usual 'that's great', etc.

Same. I went to UNCCH. Kid is at an ivy and people make a huge deal. One offered her a job for the summer on the spot. Just a random neighbor at a party who works in pharmaceutical R&D. Didn’t offer to any other college students

I think that society and the workplace need to change when it comes to this: Excellent students now pick in-state or lesser-known schools simply because of tuition costs. It doesn't mean they are less deserving. But it's still very much 45+yos hiring and that segment had it easier and cheaper so they do not all get it.

I work in a very technical field and yes, I do care where kids that I am hiring went to college.

I found it interesting where kids went and what majors they chose. Some predictable. Some not. Yes, there were some, "how the heck did he get into Berkeley, U Texas" etc kids. Some schools I hadn't heard of but sounded really good. Feel like I learned a lot about what's out there.

We all know the dance. We talk about our child like they are likely to going to attend JMU and then act surprised they got into UVA or someplace more selective.

IMHO, as long as your kid gets into UVA or better, you don't really give a fck what other people think.

The people who care for the wrong reasons don’t matter. And those who matter will only care for the right reasons.