Anonymous wrote:The kid could be a genius, but it’s more likely the mom is just a POOPCUP. Parent of Only One Perfect Child Under Preschoolage. In a few short years, he’ll hit K and be making deez nuts jokes and asking for a tablet to play Minecraft just like all the other boys. Just smile and nod for now!

POOPCUP!! Omg you made my night. Did you invent the term? I love it

I have 3 kids and the kids do a lot. Most people we know are on similar schedules. I wouldn’t think we are bragging. Our kids are all busy.

I have a few friends whose kids have special needs or struggle in school. I would not go on about my kid’s academic competitions or how AP classes are taking up so much time for my child. For the mom down the street whose child is also struggling in AP history and juggling sports and model UN or science Olympiad or debate, we can vent to one another.

Your kid is only 3. It gets a lot more drastic as kids age.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. thanks for all the responses. I do know there are some weird relationship dynamics and the mom is very image focused (wears logos all the time, talks about all the events they go to, etc.) so I need to be polite and give her grace.

For those asking, my kid is awesome and I don't typically find anything that she brags about to be important. I do think her bragging some times feeds into my own insecurities that I am not spending enough money fostering skills in my kid like sending to a fancy preschool, getting golf lessons, etc. I know it's not important but I'd be lying if I didn't second guess myself here and there after hanging out with her

When you share things about your kid, what do you normally say?

OP here. I guess I don't normally share things about my child unless specifically asked or related to the conversation (Larlo just finished potty training too! or yes, dropping the naps have been a struggle but he loves to x, y, z)

Anonymous wrote:OP here. thanks for all the responses. I do know there are some weird relationship dynamics and the mom is very image focused (wears logos all the time, talks about all the events they go to, etc.) so I need to be polite and give her grace.

For those asking, my kid is awesome and I don't typically find anything that she brags about to be important. I do think her bragging some times feeds into my own insecurities that I am not spending enough money fostering skills in my kid like sending to a fancy preschool, getting golf lessons, etc. I know it's not important but I'd be lying if I didn't second guess myself here and there after hanging out with her

When you share things about your kid, what do you normally say?

Anonymous wrote:Definitely block/hide her on social media.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who used to brag all the time how smart and gifted her daughter was. My child was a late reader and I used to try to tune her out and not feel bad.

Now the kids are in high school and the mom is quiet. Her daughter is no longer brag worthy. Reading books and doodling and writing in her journal is no longer impressive. I don’t think the daughter does any extracurricular activities. My kids do tons of everything and get perfect grades. I don’t say much about my kids either.

I would like to point out that being introverted is not a character flaw. Neither is enjoying literature and writing as a hobby. The mom may have been annoying for bragging, but why would you put down a teenager for their interests and imply your children's are better?

Ha I am an introvert and one of my kids is also an introvert. I’m not putting the girl down. I’m simply saying the annoying bragging mom in my friend group is now the quiet one in our group. Other people say how their kids are playing soccer, doing model UN, gymnastics, dance, cheer and that mom is silent. All our kids get good grades. She was soooo annoying when the girl was young, always saying how smart the daughter was and how she scored 99th percentile in this or that.

The mom is just annoying. I don’t care about the girl. Because the mom bragged so much, it probably made me dislike the little girl, just a little bit. I don’t even see the girl anymore. Just the moms hang out.

Anonymous wrote:The neighbor lacks social skills. You need to compensate. In this case, it means learning how to redirect the conversation.

Yes, this. Also, the person I know like this is neurodiverse and just needs a cue to move on to a new discussion.

Take pity on the kid - this kind of parenting never ends well.

I can’t be friends with people like that. We all have very limited free time. So I’m quick to step back if I don’t enjoy someone’s company.

Just go to the happy place on your mind, smile and say that's great! Byeeeeee