Anonymous wrote:Thirteen in our house.
A rite of passage into the teenage years.

+1. Children don’t wear jewelry in our family. A 12 year old is a child.

Thirteen in our house.
A rite of passage into the teenage years.

Anonymous wrote:My four year old (almost 5) keeps asking to get her ears pierced. What if she changes her mind at the store? I would be so embarrassed. Or she does one and won’t do the other.

First things first: I think it's deeply strange that you would be embarrassed if your preschooler was scared to get her ears pierced.

Some people pierce their kid's ears in the hospital, so there's clearly no "correct age". My kid started asking at 3 and I told her she could get it done when she brought home her first straight-A report card from middle school. That's my rule. She's almost 6 and would still love to be able to wear earrings but has also started asking about whether it hurts to get your ears pierced, whether it's scary, would she cry or bleed, etc. All things that didn't occur to her at 3/4. If she turns 12 and decides she doesn't want to do it either out of fear or because she's no longer interested, it's her body and her decision.

Anonymous wrote:When they are old enough to definitely remember the experience and remember asking you for it, so that when they blame you someday for violating their bodily integrity you can remind them it was their choice.

Yeah, that would be closer to 7.

Anonymous wrote:Craig Pokes You does both at once. I'm not sure if they pierce that young though. Honestly, I think that's too young. Mine just got hers done at 10 and getting the earrings in and out has been a journey. There is NO WAY she would have tolerated it as a four year-old.

My daughter had hers done there earlier this year and they did not do both at once.

Anonymous wrote:The people saying 12 are way outside the norm. My parents made me wait that long because my dad was controlling and had some weird ideas about *waves hands* literally everything and I was the only white girl in my classes who didn’t have pierced ears. Yes, I definitely noticed because it was important to kid/tween me. Most girls seem to get it done between 2nd-4th.

My daughter was 12 when she got hers done and she was right in the middle of her friends. Very few of her friends had them done before middle school (unless they were done as babies).

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Anonymous wrote:When they are old enough to definitely remember the experience and remember asking you for it, so that when they blame you someday for violating their bodily integrity you can remind them it was their choice.

Oh god. You’re insufferable. I literally know hundreds of women- not one doesn’t have her ears pierced.

You must not get your child vaccinated. Gross.

NP what a stupid thing to say. I don't know how you can possibly equate body modification for beauty standards to life saving medical care. Do you hear yourself?

Anonymous wrote:When they are old enough to definitely remember the experience and remember asking you for it, so that when they blame you someday for violating their bodily integrity you can remind them it was their choice.

Oh god. You’re insufferable. I literally know hundreds of women- not one doesn’t have her ears pierced.

You must not get your child vaccinated. Gross.

Anonymous wrote:I started asking for it when I was 3, and got told I could get my ears pierced after demonstrating I could take good care of jewelry (not taking it off outside the house, keeping my jewelry box neat and organized.

Don't worry about being embarrassed. Everyone knows kids cry. Take your kid to a tattoo and piercing place rather than cutesy Claires. Warn her ahead of time that once she's done one, she must do the other one.

My child had both done at the same time. Two piercers punching holes that had been marked to ensure they were even. Easy.

My daughter was three. Went great! She wanted them, didn’t shed a tear, and never had an issue. She’s now 17 and wears earrings, so I don’t get what difference there is between 3 and some arbitrary non adult age like 11 or 13. It’s not like they have adult brains then anyway.

The people saying 12 are way outside the norm. My parents made me wait that long because my dad was controlling and had some weird ideas about *waves hands* literally everything and I was the only white girl in my classes who didn’t have pierced ears. Yes, I definitely noticed because it was important to kid/tween me. Most girls seem to get it done between 2nd-4th.

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Anonymous wrote:When they are old enough to definitely remember the experience and remember asking you for it, so that when they blame you someday for violating their bodily integrity you can remind them it was their choice.

WTF? I have not met a single person who is estranged from their parents because their ears were pierced.

You’re the one who mentioned estranged. I, too, doubt anyone is estranged over this. I meant teens complain about and protest all sorts of things.

Same

13.

Anonymous wrote:I got my daughter's ears pierced at 3 months old. mine were also pierced when i was an infant.

Why?